Wedding without parents

I am sorry for your loss. I think its perfectly fine, I have been to lots of weddings where there was just the first dance with the couple and then everyone hit the dance floor. We aren't doing either of those dances.

If you want to dispense with the spotlight dance that typically includes the bride, yes, of course you can do that. However, you can have a less intimate song played while you dance with your brother, a significant uncle, a son, or a grandparent. Or not. It depends on your emotional state.'

Dispensing with the mother/son dance? Honestly, I think that's a different issue. If your FH has a living mother, one he loves, I would assume she has lived her life believing that she'd have those three very significant moments in the spotlight with her son. I wouldn't immediately dispense with that. But that's my opinion as the mother of a soon to be married son (and the mother of a daughter who might choose, if her father had passed before her wedding, to skip her part of that tradition).

Yes you can get rid of anything that doesn't make you comfortable, it's your day. The exception is if your fiancé wants a special dance with his mom, then you'll have to figure out what works for both of you. I'm sorry, I've lost both of my parents too (mom died just 2 weeks ago) and can't imagine doing some of the "traditional" parent stuff, even with someone else. :/

I'm so sorry...I neglected to send you my condolences. Having a best friend (she was my MOH, and I was her MOH...and we're still great friends after four decades) whose mother passed a year before her wedding, I know how difficult this must be for you. I'm so sorry for your losses.

Consider wearing a piece of your mother's jewelry or have a picture of her and your father minimized to fit into a frame that can easily be attached to the underside your bouquet. Our brides, the ones who have lost parents, have always told us that merely touching that small frame, while they walk the aisle, makes them feel as though their parents are present.

Appreciate the condolences. As for the mother son dance my FH isn't the dancing type and is fighting tooth and nail about our dance as well. So I was thinking cutting all that out may be the best.

So sorry for your loss. I can imagine that this may be a hard time for you. My father passed away several years ago also so he doesn't get to walk me down the aisle. Yes it's perfectly acceptable to skip those dances. It's your wedding so you do what you want. Your guests are there to celebrate your day with you. They aren't going to care if you had a father/daughter dance. As far as the first dance goes, make it a short dance (only part of the song) so your FH doesn't feel so insecure about it.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Those dances are not a must. If they do interest you though, maybe a dance with a bother, uncle or grandfather

We have cut the father/bride dance but it is important to FMIL to do a dance so they are still doing mother/son dance.

What about dancing with your new FIL while MOG dances with your new husband?

So sorry for your loss! If you don't have anyone you want to dance with, it's absolutely okay to cut yours.

Does FH really want to skip the mother/son dance? If he has a good relationship with her, I'd bet she's dreamed of that dance since she spun him around as a baby. He needs to have a real discussion with his mom before cutting his dance. You wouldn't want your FMIL to feel hurt by it.

There is no FIL. It's just his mom. I'm even debating who should walk me down the isle. I have a older brother and I have my son who will be 13 when the time comes. I think his mom would want the dance but he doesn't. Like I stated before he doesn't even want our dance.