Wednesday wedding?

My first question is are all/most of your guests local? A brunch wedding on a week day isn't necessarily the best idea especially if you are expecting guests to travel to your wedding. I think I would start by talking to those closest to you. Not everyone can or will want to take off in the middle of the week to attend a wedding. I would go into planning this realizing you could very well end up with a high decline rate. You have to decide if that's something you are okay with. Aa for children, I can't imagine any parent having their child skip school to attend. Also if they have children they will likely have to leave early to be home when the children get out of school.

View Quoted Comment All guest are in a 15-30 minute drive of the chapel and reception. Only 2 guest will be traveling from out of town. We have sent out save the dates to most of the guest that we’re solid on ( parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. I’m aware some people will have to leave early, but I’m ok with that also. There were many and plenty of reasons we chose a brunch style wedding and so far we haven’t gotten any pushback about the date.

View Quoted Comment I think a brunch style wedding sounds fun. It's just being during the week that would make me nervous, but if your guests are able to get off work and have no issues with it that's all that matters. All I meant by my previous comment was that some people might not be able get off work even though you have given them plenty of notice.

View Quoted Comment Oh of course, I’m aware some people might not be able to get off and just hopefully most of them can. We definitely had a lot of conversations around that. Ultimately we seem to have support, hopefully nothing changes!

View Quoted Comment Also I don’t know if it makes a difference or not but are guest list is family only for the most part. There are 4 people on the list that are coworkers ( but I’m not expecting them to be off since we’re all teachers) but I’d love if they could attend. Lol you have me really thinking now!

View Quoted Comment I by no means what you to feel like you have to change your plans especially if your guests seem on board with your plans.

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😊! Just I definitely see there’s something’s we still need to work on. I appreciate all your feedback! Thanks again 💖

How many kids would you be expecting if you did have kids attending? It might bump up the guest list, and thus your budget. It's OK to just invite the adults, that's not considered rude. Might be good as prior poster said to check with your guests.

View Quoted Comment 8 kids under the age of 18 would be attending if we included kids. So we have the guest list budget for 100 people, although we’re expecting 75 (that’s with kids included).

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Always expect 100% attendance, that way you won't be caught short on space, food and budget. 8 isn't a huge number, and it does just boil down to personal preference.

View Quoted Comment Ok gotcha! Thank you!

I’d say yes include kids because most of them won’t be there anyway because of school. Even the kids that are homeschooled will likely not be there either. Unless it’s close family I’m not sure parents will have their kids miss school for a wedding. You said no one has pushed back and it’s likely just them being nice and it’s a year away. I wouldn’t want to rain on anyone’s parade either but in my head I’d know I was not going soon as I see a weekday and that time. Congratulations and good luck

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much! I think everyone is just excited since it’s the first wedding in the family. Me and my FH are the first grandkids in both of our families. So maybe that’s why no pushback, I would truly hope no one already has in their head- their not going; I’d rather them say it now then later. The ones that are homeschooled are siblings.

I would leave that window open. That way if those individuals can make it, they will and won't feel excluded and left out. You're ok for being cautious

View Quoted Comment Thank you 😊💖