Weird situation - coworker

I don't really think you need to hint at her or tell her ahah. But yea some people just weirdly think lightly of weddings as if it's just a giant free for all party

I think she's trying to be nice. If she brings it up just say it is a family only event.

View Quoted Comment Yea, I would hate for it to get awkward lolll. I was just surprised at how easy it was for her to jump to thinking she’s invited. Thanks, Melle!

View Quoted Comment She is definitely nice and we get a long was just kind of weird for me that she got to that conclusion. But I’ll definitely try your advice! Thank you!!

Don’t send her an invitation and she’ll get it.

View Quoted Comment Very true! 😂😂

I have literally told coworkers that we are over our limit for guests and I cannot invite anyone from my office and one of them made a comment the other day about being at my wedding. Totally awkward and I did not want to call her out in front of others so I did not say anything. I will continue to drop hints about no work people. My invites will go out next month so I guess they will get the hint then.

Since generally people do not engage in any planning things for any party or special occasion, unless every person around them is invited, maybe she thinks because you are doing it in front of her, you likely have her on your guest list.
Otherwise you would not be so open about it at work.

I would just say you're having an intimate wedding with family and super close friends. But I wouldn't mention it unless this keeps happening!

View Quoted Comment Literally the most awkward thing!! But yes after invites go out they will for sure get the picture!

View Quoted Comment Well I look at things on my personal cell phone only, I wouldn’t think that would be open to her. I don’t speak to her about wedding related things either.

View Quoted Comment I hate confrontation so your right if it keeps happening then i’ll say something but as of right now my lips are sealed lol

View Quoted Comment People read things into what you do . It does not mean you are doing anything especially wrong , or that she is right to take the smallest thing, which you consider a quick private look, to be something that is any of her business. But it is something I have heard people say before,often, trying to get a read on a situation. If they overhear something while you make a call, for example, then ask you personal questions about your private calls. Well you did it where I could see or hear, so you are making what you do my business. !!! Not your intention, but some people have no boundaries, or draw them is strange ways and places. You consider what you do , read, or say while looking at your phone ( or messages, or personal calendar) to be private. But she may still think of it as, she does wedding or family things "in front of me", therefore she must consider it my business. And at some point you will have to make it clear . So she does not try to wiggle through the crack and make a big deal when she does not get an invitation , making you feel you need to invite her. You don't. You never did anything deliberately "in front of" her because most people wall off other people's private phone calls and such as Their Business. Not mine . . Periodically I have worked with people, or had student t interns for short 2-3 month times, who will hear something, like a secretary mentioning , Dr Feel good's office called, and next you know they are grilling others on your pregnancy, as though the fact they figured out you are talkingto an obstetrician's office about setting an appointment means you are opening up your private info to them. When most people interpret the same thing to mean, she has nowhere to get messages but work during business hours. But private messages are something we all assume not to be our business to comment on . Then there are the few, who this k, well if you get messages in the workplace, anything we figure out becomes public knowledge. MYOB should be the rule, but pushy people do not respect normal privacy guidelines.