Hello all I am getting married on july 11 2020. I already sent out invitations 2 weeks ago. this is a diy wedding. Well long story short been engaged since June 29, 2019. No support from either side of family or attendance. My guest list consist of people who we thought were our friends. Now that we see the reality of things We basically is gonna have a simple ceremony at a beautiful gazebo in south NJ and have our photos at the beach down the shore. I did have a actual venue that I already put a deposit on a few months back but I don't want to pay if people are not gonna show. I pretty decided to give up on all of this and go with just a ceremony with photos and video and a nice dinner at a 5 star restaurant. I am kinda pissed because i made my own centerpieces, decor and Almost paid for a venue and DJ for people who just does not respond to the RSVP. I've talked with the FH and he console me the best way he can but i am still kinda upset. We already have the photographer and videographer paid in FULL. I am thinking of getting the deposit back from the venue and cancelling the DJ altogether. Don't want to waste money. I guess for all the people who are having a large wedding would say I should be happy I don't have such a HUGE EXPENSE right? I don't know if I can look at it that way. However his parents and mine are deceased. Any feedback if this is the right thing to do.?