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Just Said Yes November 2021

We’re doing a key west Destination wedding, and my Mother in law is not happy

Audrey, on June 6, 2021 at 9:08 AM Posted in Planning 0 5
Hey everyone! Just wanted to see how people handle their families that are not happy they’re doing a DW. Before we planned anything, we had asked my fiancé’s mother if she would be alright with it as she has a fear of flying and she said “yes sounds like fun!” money is NO object so now that it’s planned she is acting super down about it. None of her six sisters are invited and she’s bummed and I understand that. My mother passed a few years ago so I truly value our relationship but man her behaving this way makes me miss my mother so much! My fiancé and I never wanted a big traditional wedding we’re both fairly introverted and he gets panicky At big events. so how do I handle her and not spout off at the mouth with “it’s our wedding why can’t you just be happy for us and then go talk behind our backs like a NORMAL person!!?? 😂

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Latest activity by Kk, on June 6, 2021 at 3:04 PM
  • Apryl
    Devoted March 2022
    Apryl ·
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    I don't see a point in going back and forth and stressing you out. Establish that your wedding will be in Key West and let her decide if she'll be there. Don't entertain any negative feedback about the choice you and FH made.
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    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Audrey ·
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    That is sound advice, and it resembles what my fiancé said too. He said the only people that really have to be there is you and I, a witness and the officiant everyone else can come or not. Sounds like I need to adopt his mentality but it’s hard for me not to care about it 🙁
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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
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    When you say she's being down about it, what exactly is she doing? If she's that scared of flying, maybe she's regretting saying that she was okay with it and is getting nervous?
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    Just Said Yes November 2021
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    That occurred to me. If she doesn’t want to fly she can drive as well they have the means and are retired so it’s not necessarily the only option. she told me she would pay for it if I held the wedding in Our home state but to keep it quiet from my future husband because he would never take their money. She also said she’s not planning any summer get togethers which is very uncharacteristic for her. It seems like she’s trying to punish me or something? 🤷‍♀️
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  • Kk
    Devoted October 2021
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    So I don't think it's really fair to assume that they would be willing to drive just because they're retired and have the money. How far of a ride would it be? Since she brought up having the wedding in your home state, I really do think that she is regretting saying she would be okay with Key West. As for the summer get togethers, how far in advance does she usually plan them? It's only the beginning of June. Why would not planning family events be a punishment to you?
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