What are the steps to the reception? Cake cutting, bouquet throw , first dance ..etc etc? What comes first second

A lot of it is up to you!
Here’s a traditional timeline example: https://www.theknot.com/content/a-traditional-wedding-reception-timeline

We’ve decided to do the toasts over dinner, and move the first dance after the cake cutting

You can also talk to your venue and/or DJ for their recommendations. We did our order based on what our venue suggested which was:

Toasts (dinner started to be served)

Cake Cutting (people were eating)

Our first dance and father/daughter and mother/son dances (people were eating cake)

Everyone join the reception

We didn't do a bouquet toss.

Don't be nervous! Lots of great resources online. Will you have a DJ? Maybe they can help you with timeline?

View Quoted Comment We do have a DJ we haven’t met up with him yet. We will This Friday . Our wedding is in 2 weeks that’s why i am freaking out ! lol

View Quoted Comment Oh so close! You got this!! https://lover.ly/planning/news-tips/wedding-101/three-sample-wedding-reception-timelines/

We are doing our first dance after everyone from the bridal party first walks in... however, we are breaking down our first dance into a mix in between with the grease song from Broadway musical to make it cute.. hope that doesn’t take too long and then I’ll dance with my dad and he can dance with his mom.. after that is where i am lost.... so people start eating after the groom and bride parents dance?

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the link!

We're doing it like this:

Bridal party and bride and groom are introduced to the reception

bride and groom first dance

dinner served--after we (bride and groom) eat, we'll go around to the guests tables to chat for a minute and thank everyone for coming.

DJ opens the dance floor for dancing

cake cutting/champagne toast

More dancing

Bouquet/garter toss--near the end of the reception

last dance/send off

I hope this helps you. Even if you're not keeping to a strict schedule, you'll have a great time! Congratulations!!

We looked at the traditional timeline and threw it out the window and said f it... we do what we want.

We did this with all things wedding planning. We have legend of Zelda references for the ring exchange. Star trek and Dr who in the vows and the readings. We also threw out all the traditional wedding music and decided slow jazz love songs for the processional (bridesmaids what a wonderful world and at last for the bridal chorus and journey don't stop believing for the recessional instead.

So cake cutting at 2pm -3pm with cake being served first because dessert first makes total sense vs hoping nothing happens to the cake for 5 hours. The cake is Dr who starry night for the bride and a guitar model t sunn amp for the groom cake. We may add chocolate strawberries or cookies for non cake liking people.

Then bouquet and tardis garter toss as a filler event before dinner and doing the all inclusive version where it is all women regardless of relationship status please come try to catch the bouquet. Same with garter except all men. If someone wants to do both or none... Cool!

then dinner at 4 and a toast during dinner with martinelli's sparkling cider. We will serve it to guest 3 - 200 years old. I am getting compliants already about the dry part.... I am a recovered alcoholic with a toddler and rather not relaspe so it's a dry wedding. Anyone who complains doesn't have my or the groom's best interest at heart. This is why I tell them shove their complaint where the sun don't shine.

We may add a groom stepdaughter dance but we will do our first dance at the ceremony and don't have a big dancing crowd. It makes the most darn sense for us because we don't like dancing in front of crowds and the ceremony is smaller that the reception. It's a micro wedding ceremony of 17 people with a reception of less than 50.