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Shannon S.
Master March 2011

What are your opinions on PDA (Public Displays of Affection)?

Shannon S., on May 4, 2011 at 11:40 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 30

I ask because this morning, I took the Metro (DC subway) to work.

The couple across from me were smacky-kissing and simpering and baby-talking about how much they were going to miss each other. Since neither of them had luggage, I assume they were just going to miss each other for the eight or so hours they'd be at work. Really - neither one was taking a ten-year mission to Mars.

I gotta say, it was just TOO MUCH and absolutely nauseating, especially before I'd had my coffee. I could barely keep my eyes from rolling out of my head.

I am severely non-PDA. I just find it incredibly awkward...you can tell DS and I are feeling romantic if we're less than three feet apart. Seriously, we may hug or hold hands, but kissing is for private time.

So am I uptight, or was this couple just utterly gross? I can actually take making out more easily than I can deal with baby-talk mushiness. How much PDA do you and your S.O. do?

30 Comments

Latest activity by Jessica, on May 4, 2011 at 12:56 PM
  • Stevie Rae
    VIP July 2011
    Stevie Rae ·
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    I think this couple was going a little overboard, BUT I do like PDA to a certain point. I like that my fiance and I don't mind showing affection in front of others but making out and baby talk, no need for that on a subway lol

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  • brittney
    Super September 2011
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    Hahahah this makes me laugh, cause this is exactly how FH and I were when we first started dating. It was sickening, gross, nauseating and I knew it! I have never ever ever in my life (him either) been the touchy-feely, clingy type, ever! But we brought it out in each other. Plenty of my friends and family told me time and time again how gross we were (not it an ugly way). I mean we don't have full make out sessions, but we give each other chicken pecks alot and always hold hands or have our arms around each other and hug alot. But like I said, we keep it rated G, we never get tacky.

    Perhaps it is a new relationship? But I can totally see where you are coming from, I used to talk sh*t about couples like that, I never dreamed I would be one!

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  • Torie
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    We kiss, closed mouth more like a pect sometimes, we hold hands, hug... nothing too crazy... nothing that grandma and grandpa would feel unconfortable with.... and every once in a while he'll grab my tush when no ones looking. when we're drunk sometimes we get a little out of hand but we rarely drink so it's not really an issue. I don't mind pda in moderation I do think the baby talk is the worst though... use your big girl voice!!!

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  • Teapot Bride
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    I'm not a fan of PDA myself. To me, being intimate is something private and special, not for the world to see.

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  • Heather
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    Not much - he'll put his arm around me, kiss me on the cheek, etc. but certainly not to the point where people feel awkward and holding hands is really rather reserved for movies. I hate baby-talk. HATE IT. I don't think you sound in-love I think you sound like insecure idiots and guess what - it's ok to sound like a friggin' ADULT when communicating with your loved one.

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  • brittney
    Super September 2011
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    Wow Brian...that's alot much! That's just gross and tacky. It's one thing to have spontaneous, adventurous sex, but to do it in the full public view...WOW!

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  • Kerri
    Devoted May 2011
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    I am not too big on PDA. My FH is way more liberal with the PDA. I am ok with hand holding, hugs and the occasional quick kiss on the lips. I believe in moderation lol.

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  • Dani
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    I hold FHs hand, hug and kiss in public. I am disturbed by too much PDA though (I had some friends in high school, they minute they saw each other, their tongues were down each others throats)

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  • Glenn
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    Glenn ·
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    I love PDA as long as it's not prolonged. I also prefer more subtle things, like small touches here or there or a quick kiss.

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
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    I agree with Star - generally, I think people who genuinely love and care for each other don't need to make a spectacle of their relationship.

    It came across like they're trying to prove to the world that it's twu wuv.

    My new strategy is to carry a spray bottle everywhere I go, and start spritzing annoying people like they're disobedient cats. Think it will work?

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  • Betsy
    Super July 2011
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    Since FH and I are a long distance relationship right now, the time we do get to spend together we are a little more into the PDA. DEF no making out or anything too mushy, but we are always holding hands or quick kisses here and there. Just because we go so long without it, when we can do it, it feels so nice!! But I hear ya, some people need to get a room.

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  • Kathleen
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    My FH and I are not fans of PDA. Him especially, to the point where he's not usually even comfortable holding hands in certain public areas. I also think it has to do with how long you've been together. As that "infatuation" stage goes away, the need to make out, talk baby-talk, etc in public fades. we might hold hands in public. we hug, but never "hold" the hug and IF there's ever a kiss, it's on the foreheard or something. personally, i'm grossed out when i see other couple displaying too much PDA. ew.

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  • Kells
    Devoted June 2011
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    Shannon- I'm with you. I love kissing my FH but inside our cars, house, etc but not in public. I don't care to see anyone else "making-out". Now with that said- I don't get bothered if I see a couple give a quick kiss though.

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  • Cayla
    Super August 2011
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    I dont mind PDA but it is to a minumum...i dont mind kissing him,holding hands, hugging, or cuddling, i will tell him i love him, but i dont like that slobbering down each other's throat & baby talk nonsense....that is just a bit much. Some things should just be kept private. i dont do anything i cant do in front of my family.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2012
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    The only time FH and I show and PDA is at the bar. Even then, we don't kiss or anything. It's just him putting his hand on my leg. When he proposed his dad had to tell us to kiss lol. We just don't like showing affection like that in public.

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  • S
    Master February 2011
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    Considering I hardly see my husband we're probably more touchy-feely than we normally would be. I like seeing that people are in love and care for each other. But yeh, I've had to cover my daughter's eyes from time to time out in public. Like Brian said, I don't think they even realize they're in public and are sort of just wrapped up in each other. I do kiss, hold hands, hug, etc

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  • A
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    Im not a big fan of PDA, it annoys me. If you ladies saw my kissy picture I posted yesterday from my shower, I actually had my hand over his mouth(as a joke) Because I don't think you should be making out in front of a crowd of people. I think its only the making out that bothers me though. Little kisses, hugs, butt grabbing, thats all cute stuff.

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  • countrybride*H*
    Master April 2012
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    That just seems a little over the top! I don't mind it, as long as your not literally making out in front of people or grabbing at each other like their about to have sex lol. I'm with Fins, I only do small pecks kiss wise, but your arm around each other, hug, hold hands.

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  • Fonsetta
    Super July 2011
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    I personally am not a huge fan of PDA. A peck or hug and handholding are fine but all out makingout in public. EWWWW!

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  • Kathleen
    Master August 2012
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    Oh i have a funny story! so i was spending easter with FH's family (mine lives too far away to visit) and were were taking a "family" picture. i was standing in front of FH and he thought, as a joke, it would be cute to grab my butt right before the picture was taking. no one could see, so he thought it was harmless. well it startled me and i reacted by putting my arm out and my hand ended up right on his... well, let's just say... the picture perfectly captured this really inappropriate pose. i was so embarrassed.

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