What can you do about people who don't RSVP

You could place a little note saying 'RSVP's are VERY important due to our venue, we would appreciate your promptness, Thank You and we look forward to seeing you!'

I would say just put a RSVP by date in the invitation and the day the date is up make the standard calls to those that did not RSVP and ask them for their response on the spot. If they don't have it then they can't come. Then END! That is what I am doing.

I think phone calls are about all you can do. I have already given 2 of my BM's the job when the time comes.

There is nothing you can do trust me I tried and still people didnt like the other pp said the most you can do is call because you cant force them to mail it. I had alot of calls to do last week and most of them were not from my side but had to do it Good Luck

I put on my website something along the lines of "Due to space limitations the venue will be unable to accommodate anyone that has not chosen their meal" but you can't put anything in the actual invite without it sounding rude. In the end, I still had to call people of course. I even had to leave a message after one guest didn't answer calls, saying "Just wanted to say we're sorry you can't make it to the wedding but we'll be sure to share photos with you afterwards" this made it clear that NO response meant NO seat! Some people just don't get it so you have to be clear yet polite. If your venue is anything like mine was, an exact count is VERY important. Good Luck!

No matter what you put on the rsvp card you are still going to have to do the customary calls.

I am prepared to make calls when the time comes..I may even write on little notecards what to say to someone who didn't rsvp..that way I know EXACTLY what to say..I may be a long time away from calling people who didn't rsvp, but that's really the most you can do, call them and tell them your sorry that they can't make it, but you look forward to meeting up with them after!

I think we are going to have to make calls to those who actually dont send in their RSVP... its really the only way I can fathom getting an actual answer out of some of the people we invited... LOL (sadly)

I am going to put this information on my wedding website as well, informing that if you do not rsvp then you will not be able to attend.

People are so rude..... you include postage and everything and they still dont mail it back. No matter what you write in the invitation, someone will still not RSVP. Just make the phone calls to see whether they are coming or not.

Ok Ladies! Thanks anyway for the suggestions....I guess I will have to hire a bouncer for the front door for all the people who that didn't RSVP! oh well I will be making a bunch of calls!

In the end, you are sitll going to have to make phone calls. Somepeople just don't understand what RSVP means and are too lazy to fill out the card and send it back. Just to let you know, for my baby shower, I had put the RSVP date 2 weeks before the date of the shower,and I had people calling that week of the shower to RSVP. We even had 2 show who never called me to RSVP. But to me, I was not going to track you down, call and bug you. I took my time,hand writing out each invite(yes 90 of them),put you'r address on the invite,spend the money on a stamp and was kind enough to think about you being a part of my special day. I think the least you could have done was check you'r schedule,pick up the phone and call me.

We have a list of 330. The reception hall holds 230. We cut the list and cut the list some more. What we ended up doing is creating a list to send out "first wave" invitations and then wait for regrets to come in and send additional invites out at that time....could a post card be sent after the response date has passed that says something like...

We are sorry that you cannot attend the wedding. We hope that you keep the bride and groom in your thoughts and prayers as they begin their new life together.

...I only ask if this would work because with the costs of the reception / limited space at the reception hall and with additional guests that we would like to invite if space permits, at some point I want to assume the no response people are not coming. By not responding are they saying they cant come? I certainly will not count on them coming as I wont have meals ordered for them...and I would hate for them to come and there not be a place for them...I guess there are no easy answer

I have invited 100 to a reception after the wedding. Lots of church friends. 30 have rsvped. I have gone to showers, helped give showers, done wedding gifts for theirs and I have heard from only a third of those invited. Where do they think the food is coming from....?? Are they going to call at the last minute or do I just think everyone is busy and not coming?! This śooooooooo frustrating!

I agree, even as simple as RSVPing online, people are so rude to not rsvp. Very frustrating!!!

Thanks jkhines1979 for asking this because though I have about 2 months before final head count is due, I don't want surprises. I really didn't want to make calls but it seems, based on everyone's response that would be the appropriate "last chance" thing to do.

I put a September 1 due date on my RSVPs (one month before the wedding) and mailed the cards out the first week of August. I preaddressed AND prestamped them so all they would have to do is write in their name, check a box, and stick it in the mail. I have received about half of them back. I have had 3 or 4 people tell me they would be there (but I've still not received the card even AFTER I said, ok, then please mail me your card.) The "due" date is coming up this weekend. I had set up an "RSVP" page on Facebook to keep track of who was still not responding. I haven't even had (out of 33 people) but 3 people comment. For those who do not respond, I'm SKIPPING etiquette on this one and just posting "For those of you who were unable to send in your RSVP cards, as we are very limited on space by our venue and must be very exact for our count of guests, we will be considering your lack of response a decline" ..or maybe I'll try to make it a little less mean.

Im going to write it is mandatory that you rsvp to ensure your seat is saved and your name is placed on the guestlist at the venue.persons that dont rsvp will not be on the list and cant get in. How does that sound lol

We sent out 320 invitations. (This could be as many as 725 people with spouses, dates and children). I had an RSVP by May 1, and I had made it a postcard so no envelope was involved, and it was pre stamped and addressed.

Everyone had 2 months to reply. On May 1, I only had 52 RSVP's returned! I cannot possibly find phone numbers for all these people I do not know. The bride and groom are taking college finals and are way too busy to do this themselves. The grooms parents live in another State.

I went ahead and began calling. After 4 days and contacting 49 guests, 34 said they planned to come...just were too busy to RSVP! As the mother of the bride, the chef needs to know now how many guests to prepare for. This could mean 50 people or 500 still. The difference in price is $11,000.00!

Why are people so rude? These are adults and not kids for the most part. Can I have the Pastor announce after the Recessional "a reception is being held for only those who have responded to the hosts. For those of you not staying- please have a safe trip home"

Other than this, I have no idea how to not throw away $11,000.00 or not having enough food for those just deciding to show up.

Please give me your feed back.

We sent out 320 invitations. (This could be as many as 725 people with spouses, dates and children). I had an RSVP by May 1, and I had made it a postcard so no envelope was involved, and it was pre stamped and addressed.

Everyone had 2 months to reply. On May 1, I only had 52 RSVP's returned! I cannot possibly find phone numbers for all these people I do not know. The bride and groom are taking college finals and are way too busy to do this themselves. The grooms parents live in another State.

I went ahead and began calling. After 4 days and contacting 49 guests, 34 said they planned to come...just were too busy to RSVP! As the mother of the bride, the chef needs to know now how many guests to prepare for. This could mean 50 people or 500 still. The difference in price is $11,000.00!

Why are people so rude? These are adults and not kids for the most part. Can I have the Pastor announce after the Recessional "a reception is being held for only those who have responded to the hosts. For those of you not staying- please have a safe trip home"

Other than this, I have no idea how to not throw away $11,000.00 or not having enough food for those just deciding to show up.

Please give me your feed back.