What costs do bachelorette party hosts cover?

Nope, generally everyone pays their own way with lodging, meals, etc. Sometimes even the bride but that's discussed between the bridesmaids and MOH(s) and if it's something everyone can swing financially. Unless you were rich/capable of paying for every girl, I wouldn't stress it and let everyone pay for themselves. Definitely reach out individually to each girl to find out their budget and if they would be willing to cover costs for the bride and try to keep the party within budget limits. Hope that helps!

I normally would expect all the girls to cover themselves (the Bm) and then either you or the other BM would cover the bride.

No definitely just for the bride, if anything!

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No no no, I said everyone but the bride unless discussed otherwise (I think, I'm still mid-coffee). Like for example, while planning a bachelorette party for my friend, she expressed she would want to pay for herself if that meant having a "better experience". We're fully committed to paying for her, just sometimes a bride may want to contribute.

ETA - I notice now that I left that out, but my intention was generally yes, bride doesn't pay anything but everyone else does pay so long as it's agreed upon from the beginning. Don't spring extra costs on the other girls.

No, each attendee should pay for themselves, and the cost of the bride should be split amongst the entire group, not just the bridesmaids.

Pretty much every bach party I went to, for the dinner part, it was a prix fixe menu arranged by the bridesmaids, and then they just tell everyone "ok, dinner is at this restaurant, it's going to include apps, entrees and drinks, and it's going to cost X per head, and that includes the bride", and that's that. For example, my BFF's bach party was at a Mexican restaurant, so they had house margaritas and wine included in the dinner. Dinner was family style apps, and then a choice of 4 or 5 entrees. If someone wanted something else to drink, they could start their own tab at the bar. That's pretty standard, in my experience.

If you go to a bar afterwards, I think it should be every woman for themselves, but I've found people will generally take turns buying rounds for each other. And random strangers will probably be offering to buy drinks for the bride all night.

If you do a spa day, then everyone should pay for themselves and split the cost of the bride.

We've always had everyone pay their own way. I've been a BM for a couple friends wedding and when we do invites for the Bachelorette we tell everyone the itinerary and what everything costs. Normally when we go out to dinner when the check comes we just split it x number of ways (number of people there minus the bride, that way we all cover her).

When we flew for one girls Bachelorette the MOH bought the brides plane ticket but we all split everything.

Normally as a BM we've (BMs and MOH) covered favors (if we have any), T-shirts, decorations and games.

Awesome thank you so much for your responses!

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I'm the bride and paying for myself. My BM aren't rolling in money to say the least (and there's only 3 BM and no MOH), and there are things I want to do that I know they'll be able to cover for themselves, but not me, too. So I'm doing it as a consideration thing

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Will they let you pay? I could imagine one of the brides trying to grab the bills and running.

Plus, what if they are planning something pre-paid?

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I'm doing the planning lol.

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Oh. you're not supposed to host your own anyways, so I guess you are starting on the wrong foot anyways

No, they all need to pay for themselves. Generally one of you should cover one activity for the bride each or just divvy up the costs. I’m paying my own way for my bachelorette party since my girls don’t have a ton of money.

View Quoted Comment Not the wrong foot, but the foot I prefer. I wanted to plan my own, and BM don’t have a problem with it 😊 there’s an entire thread about it from about a week ago 😂 it’s what I want to do. Plus, it’s a joint bachelor/bachelorette party, and I’m putting the whole thing together. I’m really excited about it.

View Quoted Comment Just looked at it. Looks like everyone agrees it’s the wrong thing for you to do.

View Quoted Comment Right, but that’s not really stopping me. I want to, so I am. Not really concerned with if it’s “wrong.” As far as the relevancy to OP, I was just saying I’m paying for myself because I know my BMs probably couldn’t with everything I’m planning. I may end up helping them out, depending d on the final plans. The last thing I’d want to do is out anyone out. I think that etiquette is important, but everyone’s situation is different and won’t always fit into the perfect etiquette cookie-cutter rules, so sometimes compromise is necessary 😊

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Keeping it on OP discussion, the polite thing would be to make sure you, as one of the hosts, pick something that everyone can afford. the bride wants a bachelorette party to celebrate her and her girls and spend time, not "just to have" something lavish or extraordinary. . . I am sure because you are her friend and she choose to have you stand next to her when she is wed, that whatever you choose to do she will appreciate and remember. its not about having a pintrest or movie "dream" bachelorette. if she wants to do something special with you girls that she specifically wants she can find another time to do them.

For our bachelorette that i planned for my friend we paid for the hotel, we carpooled or drove separately to the location (1-2 hours away). When did a girls night sleepover the first night and i paid for our pizza. Everyone pitched in brought drinks, even the few guests who werent in the bridal party. The next days as we went out for dinner we all paid for our own food but one of us would pay for the bride's food/drinks. I think for individual services like spa, shopping, excursions (bar crawls, tours), each person covers their own cost or everyone can pitch in its up to you. Just make sure everyone is on board and is aware of what excursions and things you want to go so everyone has money

My girls are splitting everything even and then covering me