What do most brides/couples struggle with?

I'm four months into planning! The things I've struggled with in order are:

1. guest list and bridal party decisions. So hard to worry about hurting feelings!

2. Vendors: some call you back, some don't, some some don't follow through in a timely manner.

3. Just planning in general! It takes a lot of time! I had NO idea.

What I would do differently:

1. Smaller guest list and smaller bridal party (less work!)

2. I would have just arranged for my own hair appointment and not my whole bridal party. My wedding planner suggested I ask if my bridesmaids were interested and I told them it was optional, but then one was upset about the price, so it just felt awkward and I feel like I should pay for it all even tho it's expensive for the whole thing.

3. I would have hired a wedding planner right away! I had NO idea what I was doing.

4. I would have set days/times for wedding planning with my fiancé right away. Instead I was overwhelmed trying to do it by myself and excluding him from things because I thought he wasn't interested.

You are such a good bridesmaid already for even asking!!

The first thing we struggled with was whether we wanted to elope or not. FH is the last to be married, and I'm the only daughter, so knew eloping would hurt families. First thing I had to search for was a dress, I'm a major tomboy so it took awhile to find something I didn't feel like a complete idiot wearing. There were a couple times I was uncomfortable having a sales lady try to chat with me "You must be sooo excited" "How did he ask you" "Have you decided such and such". I'm just busy thinking "this was a stupid idea, why the heck am I so worried about this?" Moms on both sides always want to be included way more than we want, ask a bazillion questions about things we hadn't got to or had no intention of including just stressed me out more. The closer we get the more questions, even after both FH and I said it was all under control and if we didn't have everything already planned and organized we wouldn't have told people a date.

Wow! Those are all great responses. So if you had a magic wand and were able to find an ideal solution to your wedding planning struggle, what would that solution look like?

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Our current struggle is having family members in the wedding party! Do you have to have them even if they don’t like you! My fiancé and I are on the same page ! But since it’s his sister who is not in the wedding the world has ended!!! Please help!