What do you call your in-laws?

I actually try to avoid calling them anything aha. so if you can, try to avoid needing to address them aha. but one time i tried addressing her directly and i could not do so by saying anything else so i just had to say "mom". my husband calls my parents as mom and dad.

i mean you can also try to ask them if you could address them differently but i do think that if they told you to call them as mom and dad then it's probably best to respect that even if it's kind of uncomfortable. i know for me i wasn't cool with it in the beginning but eventually i came to being ok with it - though generally i still don't try to directly address them with mom and dad if i can aha

I call his mom nanny because thats what all the grandkids call her and I had to teach my then 2 year old what to call her. I call his dad Mr ___ because d is a Jr so anytime I call him by name his dad answers so its Mr ___ and Mrs ___ (d's step mom)

I call them by their first name

I either call them by their first name or just say hey to get their attention lol

I think it depends on the relationship you have with your in-laws. My future mother-in-law and I are cool. She lives out of state but we text and call and I’m comfortable with her. So I call her “Mom” (I have always used “Mommy” for my own mother. So they each have a different title). My future father-in-law goes by the nickname “Buddy”, so I call him that.

I just call them by their first names but I call him grandparents grandma and grandpa. I also think it’s weird calling them mom and dad. I don’t think there is anything wrong by just calling them by their first names

I think that is an endearing but awkward request. I'd use first names or a varation of mom and dad. Maybe Momma First Name and Dad First Name. In some cultures, you address your in laws as Mother and Father.

I don’t like my FHs parents so I call them by their first names. However I do call is grandma the name they call her;mommom. He however catches himself calling my parents mom and dad. He’s said their more like parents then his parents are. So I guess it really depends on your relationship with them and what you want to call
Them.

To me, it seems old fashioned/outdated to have that expected of you.

I won't be calling my in-laws Mom and Dad because....they aren't my mom and dad. Lol. Just like I'm not going to ask my stepdaughter to start calling me "Mom". She already has a mom. I don't know why it's any different for the bride/groom.

Just do what feels natural for YOU.

View Quoted Comment Haha, I avoid calling them anything, too! idk why, I just do. And my FH does the same with my parents. 😆


When I talk about them to other people I use their first names. My FH calls my parents Mr. ___ and Mrs. ___ when he does address them directly or talk about it. Maybe things will change if we have kids or after some time passes (although it's already been 7 years, lol).

I don't think you have to call them that just because they want you to. I don't really call my to-be-in-laws anything.. I think I just make eye contact with them and start speaking, or I just interject in group conversations (my partner is one of 5 kids, so the family gatherings really require you to just start talking or you'll never talk).

Generally, I tried to avoid calling either of them anything. They are separated and have been for over a decade, but my mother-in-law still goes by her married name. Because she is still married she would technically be a Mrs., but she wouldn't like if I called her Mrs. I also wouldn't feel comfortable calling her mom so if I need to get her attention I will call her by first name. I feel weird doing so because her first name is my grandmother's name and my middle name. As for my father-in-law, I rarely ever seen him. Like maybe once or twice a year. If I am talking about him, I refer to him by his first name, but I don't think I've actually ever called him by anything. I honestly can't stand him. He flipped me off in front of my parents at our wedding so I generally try to avoid conversation with him.

I was going to say I haven’t really called them anything. I certainly wouldn’t call them mom or dad, that’s what I call my parents. And my parents have been married for 37 years and my dad doesn’t ever directly address his in-laws. And in conversations about them with my mom he says “your mama” or “your dad” and then if it’s in a conversation about them with a friend or something he says “Shelia’s mom and dad”. And my dad lost his mom 32 years ago and my Granny (mom’s mom) has done a lot for him over the years.

I’d say call them what you’re comfortable saying and if they press you to call them something you’re not comfortable with, then just let them know.

I call them by their first names. DH calls my parents by their first names.

We're all adults, DH and I have our own parents, and so this works well. I do call his Grandpa (Name) by that, but all of my grandparents are gone.

If you aren't comfortable with it, then don't.

Maybe they just want you to know that they would be comfortable if you called them mom and dad. It doesn't mean you're obligated. I'm sure they don't want you to be uncomfortable. Maybe mention it to hubby and tell him you'd prefer to call them by their names. You've been married for awhile, so what have you been calling them up until now?

Her name doesn’t come up when talking to her (just one). But maybe you could come up with a cute alternative. Example fiancé Bob. Call them BMa. Works with most first names. Pops, M2 whatever your comfortable with.

I call my future in-laws by their names.

I call them by their first name

I’m pretty sure mine would love for me call them mom and dad as that’s how my MIL refers to herself and my FIL when she talks to me. But, I’m not comfortable with that as I have my own parents. I call them, and always have, by their first names. However, I call his grandparents grandma and grandpa, which I also don’t like. But when I met them I asked grandma what’s your name? And grandma was her response 🤷‍♀️ And I literally did not know her name to call her anything else, lol.

I call mine by their first names. I have my own mom and dad whom I am very close to. I would feel awkward calling them mom and dad.