What do you wish you could say to your Bridesmaids??

@Ashleigh H. I feel you. For the most part my maids have been great, but i do feel like sometimes they are less excited about my wedding than I was about theirs. It is hard bc we all live so far apart, but still when I see them (one in particular) they aren't as psyched/giddy into it as I thought they would be.

Ya. I do agree that some brides can overkill with the DIY projects and so forth. I'm not doing ANY DIY. I work too much and too lazy on my off days to do that hahaha.

I did a ton of DIY projects, but I didn't expect or insist that anyone do it. Rather, I had Crafting Sundays where I put out mimosas and snacks, and anyone who wanted to come help (BM or not) was welcome to do so. We got a lot of projects - and bonding - done on those cold afternoons!

Well mine are my teenage and tweenaged daughters, I just want them to put their phones down for the ceremony. That's all I ask of them.

All I asked of my BMs was to pay for their dress and show up. THAT'S IT. They are all in different states so I didn't feel that I could reasonably ask for more than that. My bestfriend paid for her dress and got her measurements done as soon as I asked. My sister, sister-in-law and FSIL...smh. I had to hound the HELL out of them. I was really very surprised at my SIL because she married my brother only a few years ago and when planning her wedding she also had to wrangle girls to get their dresses ordered, etc. EXCEPT for me. I did exactly what she asked when she asked. These are all girls that I love and trust. I have no clue why it was so difficult for them and this dress thing.

I guess the good thing is that the dresses are on order and should be here soon.

"Please care a little bit more"

I would tell my BM's that they are all important to me no matter what order they stand in for the ceremony or their "title".

I have 2 sisters and one is my MOH! the other one is being a B*#@$ about it. She says it jokingly but i know she isn't joking. She has also said that she is happy she doesn't have to wear the MOH dress. (they all have the same dress, they choose it not me, but the MOH is yellow and the BM are grey.) she is law school so she has no extra time. yet she still gives me grief!! UGH! but I am thankful for all their help!

I dont ask or expect anything for them, besides getting their dress on time and being there for me on my wedding day. WELLLLL task one (most of them) couldnt complete. Two of them still have not ordered their dress(both FSILs). At this point i do not even care and if dress doesnt make it on time, then they wont be in the wedding, POINT BLANK PERIOD. They just show no interest at all. I am well aware that nobody will care about MY wedding just as i do but i dont think much is expected from them at all.. I wish i could just tell them to stop PROCASTINATING and get their ishhh together.

I would say "hey ladies I know that you are super busy with your wonderful lives and careers and getting master's degrees and PhD's and crap but when I go out of my way to send you a text can you at least respond!!! Also why does it take you three months to send me 27.00 for shoes that I am about strass the hell out of but you can spend 50 a weekend on drinks at the bar(yeap, I peeped that last time we went out). And last but not least I know that you live far away but dammit can you please take your ass to the local dress shop and get measured for your dress like I asked you too already. I dont give a damn about you wanting to wait till you lose 10 more pounds!!!!! lol that felt pretty good. I love my BM's they are the best friends a stressed out bride can ever have.