What do you & your spouse usually give as a wedding gift?

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You're like the first person who said registry lol

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Yes, I get that. So what would be the average cost par person then ?

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Oh wow this is the first that I've ever heard of this! So I guess in your social circle a registry is a must?

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I thought that was the most common gift, but now I am learning that in some social circles it isn't

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Aww that's cute, he keeps it the same across the board lol but I know I would personally prefer cash so that's what I normally do

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I like the idea of getting it shipped directly to them so they aren't worrying about transporting gifts at the end of the night

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I definitely understand giving what you can afford

For family and friends, cash, as generous as I can within my budget. For work friends - invited to the wedding or not - I get either a $50 (approx) gift from the registry or general use kitchen item like pyrex dishes, etc and include a gift receipt.

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Oh that's nice of you! At work we have a small department so myself and my employees each chip in to get either a nice gift or cash/gift cards.

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We used to have a person who coordinated that but she's been gone a few years and no one picked up the mantle. It's IT and mostly men so sometimes I don't even know someone got married until months later or I see them with a wedding ring. But if I do know, I'll do a gift.

If I’m invited to the shower, I usually do some kind of themed gift off their registry. An example might be dish towels, pot holders, and some bigger utensils. I usually keep shower gifts around $50 unless it’s a really close friend. Then I give closer to $100. For the wedding itself, we always give cash- $200 for the two of us and more if the kids are invited or if we’re close to the couple.

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Oh yes understandable.

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That's really nice of you and very generous!

View Quoted Comment Our families and (separately) every social group we have been part of since we were kids has only used the registry for both the shower and the wedding. Cash in any form is taboo. If you can’t afford to give a gift then you pick up a card at the grocery store, with no cash/check/gift card inside.


That’s not to say that someone outside of the social circle will not give cash but the ones we mainly socialize with do not give cash, whether due to how they were raised or personal preference or whatever. It is what it is. To be honest, the rare times I have gotten cash as a gift I didn’t know what to do with it.

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I would prefer cash, my husband and I have lived together for almost 4 years before getting married we pretty much bought everything that we wanted ourselves. I'd definitely rather have either cash or gift cards - preferably cash. For us it didn't have anything to do with how we were raised, most of our social circle would prefer cash over a gift any day!

Last week or the week before on the wedding section of Instagram there was a post a vendor made that said “Don’t think of it as a registry. Think of it as a wish list of stuff you want but would never spend your own money on” which makes perfect sense.

View Quoted Comment Yes I get that, I hate making registries. The only one I enjoyed was for our baby shower. But that's understandable

For weddings, we shop from the registry. We generally DON'T give cash, we like to pick some of the random stuff on the registry that might get overlooked (like a ton of the little kitchen stuff, or if some relative picked up like... half the towels or something). If it's a purely honeymoon registry, we like to pay for an experience.

For baby showers, I make blankets. Which means we never look at registries. Which means, when we started making our own baby registry, DH *freaked out*. He had NO IDEA how much stuff goes on them! I make blankets because my late aunt used to make blankets (the one she made for me was my Favorite Blankie throughout childhood), and I wanted to continue the tradition.

View Quoted Comment I absolutely LOVE homemade blankets, I had a friend who would make them for my son. But yes I understand why your husband had no idea, registries can definitely take up some time lol. I like the idea of paying for experiences though, especially if you know the couple never done it before

I always check the registry if the couple has one, and if I buy off the registry I have the gift shipped to the couple beforehand instead of bringing it to the wedding. if nothing from the registry jumps out to me, I'll give cash!