What does this even mean😞

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Yes, this! I know it's hard to move on and think of your life without someone who has been in it for so long, but he's shown you how much he doesn't value you by talking to other women and trying to call your bluff by telling you to just leave instead of working on issues with you. A real partner would communicate with you and compromise with you.

I know you mentioned that he says he can talk to you, but when he talks is it actual communication or is it just words that he never backs up? Leaving will be hard now, but it would be something that you can look back on and say to yourself "I am glad I'm not allowing myself to put up with behavior like that anymore."

View Quoted Comment Thank you. And yes- I’m very appreciative of the encouraging comments. I have made a decision and it is time to move on.,

View Quoted Comment Couldn’t have said it better myself❤️

View Quoted Comment We've only had three, at the most, conversations regarding us in almost five years. I am 100% not kidding. It is usually him pointing the blame on me and repetitive words. And he says this is me "trying to control him or force him ". Obviously he does not have a normal thought process. I should have walked three years ago when I started recognizing the repetitive cycle with him. Against my better judgment I gave him a chance. He ran out of his chances. HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. Period. That is something I had to realize and come to terms with on my own. He is not capable of being in a normal, healthy, Functional relationship /marriage. That is now very obvious to me. Just wish I would have caught on sooner .

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You know this now. It's a big world out there. Definitely there will be something better for you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! Ugh I hate starting from the beginning

View Quoted Comment Absolutely - words he can not and has no intention of backing up and/or following through

View Quoted Comment My only hesitation is that every time it comes down to me leaving he says "of course I want to Marry you " and"your the only one I want ". So I guess that's false hope and I know deep down maybe it is true or maybe it's not...

View Quoted Comment When I told him it bothers me whem he had said he isn't ready, he literally doesn't remember saying it. When it has come down to it in the past and I'm ready to go he says what I want to hear
like, "of course I want to marry you ""you're the love of my life and you're the only one I want ".

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I get that, but it's better than where you are now! Maybe take some time for yourself. I'm sorry this happened!

I was in a relationship similar to this with a man child who had failure to launch. He couldn’t express feelings and jerked me around for years. 3 years before I booted his pathetic excuse making a&&.
I regret wasting so much time as you hope things will change, but they most likely won’t. Pick yourself up and move on. You deserve better.

View Quoted Comment Ugh… mine is a man child as well…why? lol why do some men miss the stop at mature island?? It’s so hard. I know I deserve more and I know it is time but unfortunately my heart isn’t.

Run, life is short. You can love someone and it not be the right fit. If you had just gotten divorced you might need time to see what else is out there.