What excites you most about marriage? What scares you the most?

I am most excited about being married to the man I love and growing old together.

I am most nervous about trying to get pregnant. I am 30 and I know my chances are very good but all I ever wanted is to be married with kids and it seems like he is to good to be true so the world needs to balance out my happiness by making conceiving hard. Kinda paranoid I guess.

We are practically living a married life together already, without actually being married. I am excited to grow old with him and have someone that is basically me in a boy form who loves me unconditionally and will always be my #1 fan.

I am terrified of us changing and not being able to handle those changes. I know I can, because I love him now for who he is and who he will become, but I am afraid that we might go through some kind of change that we just can't handle. I don't think that will happen, but that is my fear.

We have been together for 11 years of him being in the military so I am most excited to go to the commissary alone and to be the one who says where he gets to be buried at. Stupid as it sounds, we have a child, and as it stands if something happened to him his parents would bring him back to California to bury him and my child (and I) would not have any say and nowhere to go "visit" him. Morbid I know, but those are the things you think of after such a long time together. Most people think our last name is the same anyway, we have all the family stuff..house, kids, cars, illness. etc.

I am worried about nothing since we have already been together so long, through sickness, financial hardship, grad school, many moves across thousands of miles, military separations, etc. We just roll with it.

I'm excited about it all. Especially half Asian babies.

I'm most nervous that one day he will wake up and decide I'm not good enough.

Champagne, half Asian babies may be the cutest thing that has ever existed.

This is a great topic! It's nice to have a reminder of why we are all here, especially in the midst of the chaos of wedding planning. =)

I'm most excited about the fact that FH and I are promising each other forever and that we will always be there for one another. We started dating when we were really young, and we have quite a few rocky spots in the history of our relationship. Although the breaks were good for us to be able to grow as individuals, it scares me to think that we almost made the biggest mistake of our lives by thinking that we didn't want to be together or that our relationship wasn't worth working on. I'll never forget when I realized that FH was the only person I could ever see myself being with forever, then realizing it may have been too late. It was a terrible feeling. I'm so thankful that we found our way back to each other after all that we have been through. And I'm so excited that we will never have to go through that again. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

What scares me most? Probably growing old and him passing away before me. I've had a glimpse into what life would be like without him in the past, and it's not something I ever want to have to deal with again.

I'm so excited to have someone to grow old with & share wonderful experiences. Life is about experiences and making memories. I'm also excited to have his surname and knowing that no matter what, he's mine "go to" guy.

Downside, I wish we knew each other sooner and could have experience having children together. But now it's too late for me to have any children but we will have grandchildren. My son is getting married in 2016

I'm excited that things will be official, and that marriage will make the adoption process easier for us.

What I'm scared of is that his family will continue to meddle in our lives well after the wedding, or that when we adopt, our child won't be welcomed as warmly as we're hoping. In which case we may have to sever a few ties.

I'm excited for our honeymoon and future travels, just me and him. I am excited to change my last name (@Trixey, I feel your pain... I grew up with the last name which is the same name as a certain famous singing chipmunk). I am really excited to see FH be a father to our future children. As someone who grew up without an involved father (my parents divorced when I was young), I am excited to see what a real father-child relationship looks like, and I know my FH will be a great dad.

However, I am scared to become a parent! Similar to @MelissaV and @Kathryn, but also I just don't feel ready yet. I am wondering if/when that's going to happen, or if we just have to jump in at some point and hope for the best. Also I have an irrational fear of FH dying in some horrible way, because I can't imagine living without him.

Also I'm totally with @Champagne on being excited for half Asian babies. I sincerely hope that our kids have his eyes and not mine...maybe my color, but please have his shape!!

We'd have half-asian babies too, lol. I didn't mention though, I'm nervous about children. I think we will have children, but my heart doesn't feel like it wants children. Plus, having children is a huge risk in pretty much every way possible.

On a slightly unrelated note really quickly, this morning I turned on the TV and there was an infomercial on about some type of exercise equipment or something. It played in the background while I was setting our DVR for the day and they were doing interviews. A guy came on and said "Being in my 40's and after having 4 kids, I never thought my body would look this way again..." I turned to my FH and was like "After 4 kids? WTF did his kids do to HIS body that he even remotely thinks that's a good excuse?!" My FH could not stop laughing. Yeah we women are the ones that take the risk with our bodies. That's why it's such a terrifying thought. I wish it were easier for me to overlook the risks, but it's not.

We've been married for just over four months. Exciting: I still love coming home to him, or getting happy when he comes home after me. Our talks that we have every night in bed before we go to sleep. Scary: He's divorced and i'm terrified that he would walk away from me the way he did to her (though they had MAJOR issues but still)

@livelybride: OMG YES!!! married sex is amazing

I'm most excited for us to be officially a unit, a family, and go through life events as a team. We've lived together and gone through high school, college, and career starting together but there's so much more to come and I'm excited to have him by my side.

I'm most nervous that he won't want to deal with my shit anymore and walk away. My dad did that to my mom and then my stepdad has threatened it before so it's more from that than anything else.

I am most excited about knowing that we can finally start a little family together. We both don't want kids until after we are married.

I'm not really too scared about anything. If it didn't work out, it wasn't meant to be but I don't try and think about that stuff.

My biggest fear was fights like the one we had yesterday, but then you wake up in the morning with that person and realize, this really is forever and we really arenʻt going anywhere.

Already married and were living together for 11 months before the wedding.

Most excited: About him being my HUSBAND. Not my fiance, not my boyfriend, still my friend.....my best friend. I was very excited to change my name. Excited for all of the "firsts" of the marriage. Our joke for the first couple of weeks was "Hey this is the first time we have done ________ married."

Most nervous about: Combining money. This one actually worried both of us and we talked about keeping it seperate long and hard. The checking account is joint now and the first round of bills has been paid. Both of us had pretty ugly marriages/divorces in our past that were financially ugly so that's where the fear came in for us.

And a Praise the Lord because of that nervousness: We no longer have the discussion of "Who's turn is it to buy dinner/movie?" We were driving the other night and he started laughing. When I asked why he was laughing he said "Because it was running through my mind that I would be nice and fill your car up for you. It's not being nice anymore is it?" LOL

@Macksgirl - I hear you on the nervous part.

I'm excited that we don't have to "live out of suitcases" anymore. We share the same home, name, cats, etc. It's a little odd, because I find myself referring to things like "your A/C needs to be serviced or "Did you know there's a leak on your porch?" It's OURS now. Haha! I'm excited that I have someone who's there - no matter what. We've been through some "no matter what" in the last year or so and I believe this marriage makes it even stronger.

I'm worried that we might fall into too familiar of a routine. I do love some routine, but certainly don't want the rest of our lives to be boring. I'm also worried about his health. I tell him that we BOTH need to take care of ourselves, for each other, too. I'd like to get a good 40 years in before we have to say goodbye.

Like most others have said, I don't think anything is going to change in our day to day lives. I'm excited to introduce him as my husband and me his wife. When we went to get his health card renewed in order to get our marriage license, the woman asked him why he was getting it renewed (it was 8 years expired) and he said because he's getting married. Sort of off track here, but I has yet to here him say the words and he had this amazing smile on his face.

I'm afraid of not being financially stable. We both work at the same place, full-time, but it's not good money. After the wedding stuff has died down, I am going to be finding a better job and hopefully he will be doing the same. I don't want us to live a life of debt.

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