What excites you most about marriage? What scares you the most?

The legality of it. Knowing that he will always be mine excites me. The day to day won't change, but being legally wed makes buying a house, etc easier. I am also excited about being able to refer to him as my husband, something I have wanted to be able to do for a long time.

As far as nerves- the kid situation, combining finances, and where life will lead us location wise. However, I am certain that we will roll with the punches and grow from any struggles as we have in the past.

These are great to read. I do want to add I am so afraid of him dying before I get the chance to be his wife. . He is almost 66 and I am 53. Things happen at this age. I even took out wedding insurance, just in case. Sad I know. I have been divorced for 27 years, waited my whole life for this, for him, for my forever. Saddens me that we will never have children never have a most likely 20 year anniversary, maybe not a 10. But this time I don't want fear to stop me, I would not trade the time I have had with him, if I can be married at least one day with him, it will be the best day I will ever have.. Forever

@Val- That is one of the sweetest things I have ever heard. That is what marriage is all about.

I'm most excited about the day of being a Mrs. I am concerned about how much works goes into making a marriage work.

What scares me the most is definitely the financial tangling. I am super excited to marry my FH and all that but I just really believe that finances should be separate (for my relationship, not trying to tell others what to do). Not sure of laws in the US, but in Canada it is mandatory to file taxes together which I find ridiculous. I own property from before we got in a relationship and I want that to remain solely in my name, for sentimental and practical reasons. I am not sure how the laws work for/against me in this matter (I've received different answers from different lawyers). I also just think our current arrangement works well - we each put in an agreed-upon amount of money from our paycheques to pay our joint bills, and the rest of the money is our own to pay our own things - like car insurance, phone bills, and just buying stuff, etc.

So, I am scared for the financial aspect of it and the taxes and how it affects my property ownership etc.

But I am excited to see how we change over the years and to start a family (in a few years). And for my cat to finally accept him (hopefully) haha.

I'm excited about everything, and scared of nothing. At least nothing imminent.

Excited for living life together! Not that we didn't do that before we were married, but now that DH has finished school, he's making better money, and in a few years I will be too, so we'll be able to do more things like travel together. Also, some day, buying a house, and kids.

Scared of divorce and death. Divorce because it happens so often and law school's supposedly hell on marriages.. death obviously, and more specifically because my grandfather died over the summer and my grandmother is having a really hard time dealing with it. I'm not sure how I would do in that situation and I don't want to know.

I'm most excited to finally pick a place to "settle down" (I've moved a LOT) and buy a home together.

I'm scared that he'll get want kids and I won't. Right now, neither of us have a desire for children. But he talks about our future kids. I haven't ruled out the possibility of having them, but I can't see myself ever wanting one, either. I'm 28 and will be 29 when we marry. So I have time, but not a TON of time....

Being able to call him my husband.

Honestly, the thing that scares me the most is losing him. I know it's premature to talk about it, but I mentioned before it happened to his close friend last year just 2 years after he was married and just had a 5month old. That scares the hell out of me. When he's gone and I call him and he don't answer after a certain amount of time (he always answers me) I go into panic mode. I hate it. I don't get mad because I don't trust him, I worry. I just wish I didn't have that fear.

Other than that. I think nothing will change but my last name and the fact our sons parents will be officially married. It is gonna be kinda of funny having such an Asian last name and I'm Mexican. I looked mixed (I always get questioned my ethnicity from mixed white and Asian) completely off. Lol. So, I don't really turn to many heads with an Asian baby, but when he was little he looked super Asian and everytime it was me and him people always double looked. So my last name will be a HUGE change from

my current. But I already practice saying it (yes I'm cheesy) and it rolls off my tongue (yep even more cheesier). I just can't wait to be married. I'll be 30 by the time were married so I want to hurry and add another baby maybe two as well, and hope to do so by the time I'm 35.

I'm excited that we will always be by each other's side. Looking at all of things we've gone through in our years together shows we can get though anything as long as we are together. We're very supportive and loving and I want that for my life.

I'm scared of us finding a place to settle down. We currently live in NYC but we know we don't want to stay here or raise a family here and we have no idea where we want to move to. But I have a stable job in the city and uprooting to find a new place to live together will create problems. I'm not sure if we should just suck it up and stay here or go for broke and move somewhere we like but have no job security.

I think the most exciting thing about marriage, to me, is just building that life together...all the adventures (the big and small) we will have as husband and wife! We already have lived together for years and own our own home so to me it's just a natural next step, making "official" what we already have now. The scary thing is that we could actually have kids- without people judging or being disappointed lol.

The most exciting thing for me is it being all official and everything. We've already lived together for 4 years so I don't think on the daily basis will change. We've also had our finances combined for almost a year now.

I am worried about it not working out or me losing him early. I think it will work out. We've been together for 10 years and worked through a lot of stuff but you never know what the future will hold.

I am most excited about spending the rest of my life with my best friend.

The thing that scares me the most? I'm afraid that one day, FH wont want to put up with me anymore. I'm a handful. I'm selfish. I'm self centered. I'm territorial. I'm high strung. I get snippy when I'm stressed. I'm afraid some day in the future... five years? Ten years? Twenty years? That he'll decide he's fed to the teeth, and leave. I try so hard to curb these issues that I know are flaws that are very likely to drive people away... :/

I'm excited for the forever with my FH!

The scary..... I will be 36 next year!? I want so much to have a family and not be an old mom. Looks like I will be an old mom. And even though we earn decent money we aren't even able to afford a middle class lifestyle. Houses go for $1,000,000 here. Sigh. How can you raise a family?

Most excited about: Living together, officially being able to call him my husband, starting a family someday, and just having him by my side, knowing that when I get home late after work he is gonna be there, and when one of us has had a rough day and just wants to curl up and cry the other person will be there to lift em up and hold em.

Scared about: Being a mom and getting pregnant right away, losing him like what @Futuremrschang said about the phone calls, him regretting his decision and thinking I am to difficult, and not being good enough for him.