What Guests Don't Care About...

Opting out of favors and the grand exit. Originally I was gonna do open seating but I’ve decided it’s best to have a seating chart. We are also foregoing programs

Thinking about not doing a grand exit as we stay the night at our venue

I agree with all of these. Following for more.
I think all they really care about is food, drinks, and music. And location. Not too far to drive. Too far between ceremony and reception, etc.

I agree on most of these. As a guest, I don't care much about the design of your invitation, but I definitely think that it sets the tone for your event. I'm not going to throw a fit if the couple opts for open seating, but I do think it's annoying. And I definitely care about the cake lol. We won't have programs, escort cards, slideshows, any tosses, or a grand exit. We're still debating on a guest book.

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Krysee, that's what I realized early in my planning process! Good food, great entertainment, and make sure that the guests feel comfortable.

Agreed with these for the most part. The only one we're doing is favors. I'm confused about the escorts though, aren't those essential? How else will guests know where to sit?

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Some people do seating charts. Others also just have open seating.

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In the video, Jamie was saying just don't go overboard with the escort cards by hiring a calligrapher and having a bunch of cute details. She recommends maybe having a large seating chart instead.

View Quoted Comment Oh gotcha, thanks for clarifying! I didn't watch the video, just read the list. I know open seating was on there as well so it seemed kinda contradictory. I've been debating about what type of place cards to order, I'll have to throw a seating chart into my mix of options as well.

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It's totally fine, Maggie! Having a seating chart would be efficient to have for the wedding since no one has to stand there to assemble/line up all the escort cards. Someone just has to place the chart at a specified location at the venue and keep it moving. Just a thought!

View Quoted Comment All very valid points, I think you may have convinced me! I'm also trying to plan with sustainability in mind and this would be a far less wasteful option.

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Exactly! I'm glad that I could help!!!

I’m doing invitations, programs, guestbook, lots of desserts, edible favors, and linens because they are details I particularly like

i may reconsider open seating Epirus first dance will be like 45-75 seconds probably

we are not using escort cards, slideshow, any tosses, or exits

i think some things you do for guests and others for yourself; I don’t see how invitations could annoy a guest unless unclear but I can see that a 5 minute dance just for the couple (usually followed by several other dances) or choreography is actually annoying to guests or even unpleasant

its important to know your crowd when hosting a party... and accept early that not everyone will agree but everyone will have advice but you need to ultimately come to a happy medium between what you want and something that’s pleasing to your guests

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In the video, Jamie was saying that invitations are nice to look at, but they end up in the trash. My interpretation of that is guests don't really care about all the frilly details, font, etc on an invitation. They need to know the date, time, and location.

I recommend watching the video since she is a coordinator and she provides some good insight on weddings.

I do agree that as brides, we should find the happy medium to make sure guests are happy and we're happy too.

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I actually always liked the first dance! I think it is sweet watching the romance between the couple. I also like the exit. It is like celebrating them starting a new beginning.

This makes me sad reading this! Isn’t it ultimately about the couple and their special day/what’s important to them. The first dance is something sentimental to the couple, it’s not really about the guests.
I may be the only one that disagrees, but when I go to a wedding I love the guest book, bouquet/garter toss and the grand exit- it’s all a bit of fun!

View Quoted Comment Emma as I read the post I can honestly say some things on the list (I can see why that made the list). At the end of day you do whatever your heart desires for your special day. I might be scratching the favors? (Small liquor bottles). Because we are having an open bar . But I am so looking forward to our first dance. Personally besides our wedding vows the first dance will be the most romantic sentilemental part of the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes!! Agreed. I got emotional watching my friends first dance at her wedding and the exit, well it was just such an awesome way to end things, everyone was so happy and made the whole wedding experience feel real m sending the couple off

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Did you watch the video? No one said not to do the first dance or to skip the guest book. She's essentially saying not to worry or stress yourself out by trying to choreograph a routine for your first dance or feel like you need to dance for the entire song. She even said that the first dance is one of her favorite parts of the wedding. For the tosses she said "if it makes you uncomfortable or if it makes your fiance uncomfortable, no one will miss it." I think you're taking things way out of context.