What has been the most stressful for you?

The most stressful thing for me was having to move my wedding up because my fiance's deployment, which in the end I think is the money factor and moving the wedding from where I really wanted it (in Maine, where I grew up) to where it was most convenient for me (Maryland). It moved up 5 months... having our budget shrink by 5K

View Quoted Comment That is hilarious!! I love it!! I should’ve used that threat for my guys. I’m stressed over the tuxes too. I wanted all the guys to order them June 1st but apparently I was crazy for wanting that (I don’t know... maybe I am!). Because a majority of the guys wanted to lose weight 🙄 I’m all for looking your best, but I’m my opinion if you haven’t been working towards that all along then it’s probably not going to happen. You can’t lose THAT much weight in a months time. Whatever!! Now the new rule is order your tuxes by the bachelor party (which is NEXT WEEKEND) or you can’t go.

Family has been the most stressful part. Even though I keep saying that there really isn't anything to be done right now and that I will reach out if something comes along, certain family members keep getting upset that they are being "excluded". The actual wedding process is not as dramatic as all the people that are trying to help with it.

View Quoted Comment Girl same with the RSVPs. I knew all along I would be stressed over it, but not this much! We invited 175, I’ve has answers from around 110 and I still haven’t heard from the rest of the guest list. I’ve expressed to my MIL to be and all she keeps saying is “the NOs just won’t come back” or “don’t call people and ask because it’s messes with your numbers. They will always say yes because they will feel bad”. All I have to say to that is ummmmmmm... NO. And I might add that it is LITERALLY all her people. I refuse to have an extra 30 something freakin people show up unexpectedly. It is so rude for people not to respond! Obviously I care if you can come or not, but if not then just tell me! I need to know how much I’m paying for!

View Quoted Comment I have no issues with the guys, and I’m so thankful for that. For some reason it’s the girls that always cause the drama. Very glad it’s his girls, not mine lol.

Congrats on the raise! For me it has been dealing with family drama. My FMIL and my mom are both very strong women and very opinionated. So having to put my foot down with both of them has been tough. Also those two don't get along becaue of their personalities so trying to have those 2 and my MOH plan my shower together has been very stressful. Thank goodness for my MOH taking the brunt of it so I don't have to lol

My biggest stressor, by far, was family navigation. It felt like a delicate dance of lost sanity.

That is awesome about the raise! The most stressful thing for us has been dealing with people inviting themselves when we have said multiple times that we are at venue capacity and now that invitations are out, waiting for RSVP's to come in. Sticking to budget hasn't been too terrible for us but the prices for everything "wedding" is ridiculous.

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I agree with this. And this is even with me DIYing and finding things on clearance.

Getting my FH to do things! Lol He has every intention on helping out but I give him a list and a deadline to get things done by and I almost always have to remind him to do it. Ugh. He's been a bit better about it lately but he's in charge of contacting the caterer and DJ so some things just can't wait!

View Quoted Comment YEEEEESSSSS!!!!! The fricken RSVPs already have stamps on them so all they need to do is write their name, indicate yes or no, and drop it in the mail! It's not rocket science people! Lol We have about 10 days until our deadline and we have a little less than half back.

My biggest stress is vendors and their little to no communication. The venue guy is a total A** and doesn't want to answer any questions. We are keeping him because if we backed out our deposit wouldn't go back to us! The first few HMUA I wanted to hire didn't respond or would respond a week later. I am big on communication and if I don't get answers it gets me really stressed.

Congrats on the raise 6K a year is BIG!

View Quoted Comment OMG yes! Hahaha I sent my dad an email yesterday, because some of the US guests hadn’t received invites yet and yesterday was the due date, so I ask if he got it and “oh by the way I’ve heard zilch from your brothers and their kids has anyone indicated they plan on coming?”

I kid you not, “oh yes I got the invite, what do you want me to wear? I need that information yesterday. Uncle J and Aunt K could come, or Uncle S because they’re all retired. They haven’t said anything to me. Maybe it’s a surprise!!!?”

NO dad. Just no. I told him well then they won’t have a seat 😂 ... oh and he still hasn’t RSVPd for himself. I mean he’s my dad, I know he’s coming but come ON.

For me, it's far and away been reconciling my guest list to my budget and not letting feral people run away with the whole thing.

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Girl same!!! xD I just got my first few back and now I'm like.... texting people and asking if they happen to know yet LOL! Mine aren't due back till August 1..........

We are doing a DIY wedding and the most stressful is getting money to buy the stuff for our wedding. Mainly decor and food. We used airbnb to book a house for the weekend and are doing a backyard wedding. Cool thing is they have a pavillion on their property, we just have to decorate it.

Also another super stupid frustration is that my BMs and I use the Group Me app for conversion. So we don’t blow up each other’s phones. And they literally NEVER RESPOND TO ANY OF MY MESSAGES. And I never text them anything unless it’s important. Nope. SO ANNOYING!

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I TOTALLY agree with this! I'm getting married on the 19th and wow am I stressed out!

For me it's trying to come up with the money for a DJ. It may come down to that or food...and we gotta eat

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Thats crazy! My parents didn't RSVP either (were still a ways out) but they weren't planning on RSVPing they told me "Well we are your parents you should just assume we will be there." I'm like gee thanks mom. lol