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Dedicated August 2014

What if babies cry during the ceremony?

Tina, on February 27, 2014 at 11:53 PM

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Sone of my close friends just had babies. I want them to be at the ceremony but just wonder what if the babies cry during the ceremony?

Sone of my close friends just had babies. I want them to be at the ceremony but just wonder what if the babies cry during the ceremony?

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  • SupermanBride
    Master October 2014
    SupermanBride ·
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    HAHA tina, my mom says that all the time!!

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  • S
    Master July 2014
    Soon2beMrsLittle ·
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    As Robin said, Tina set an age limit. and if thats a problem then hire an events sitter, that way your friends are still able to come and the babies will be taken care of.

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    I learned it not too long ago. J chided me with my ever asking what ifs. He said ifs are for children (don't think I don't use that when he slips with an if!).

    Yeah I sound like everyone's mom here. Or their grandma (( sigh ))

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  • Piecesofadream
    Master June 2014
    Piecesofadream ·
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    And this is why you don't have kids at weddings Smiley smile

    On a serious not, when you invite kids or welcome kids its the risk you run. Most parents will just take their child away when they are crying.

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  • Mrs. Shanon V
    Master May 2014
    Mrs. Shanon V ·
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    The only baby that will be at my wedding (possibly, although highly unlikely, really) is my week old niece. And I'm so in love with her already, it won't matter a bit.

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  • FutureMrsGriff
    Dedicated November 2014
    FutureMrsGriff ·
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    I would just keep continuing. Kids cry everyday, it's what they do. My 2 year old will probably cry at my wedding but that's because he won't want to sit. Do I care? Nope. I just will make the ceremony short sweet and to the point. The end. Bring on the party!

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
    Shannon S. ·
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    I think people are being silly in their responses, vs. mocking or rude. For the most part, parents know the drill. They take seats near the exit, so they can duck out if their child fusses. It's a rare (and obnoxious) parent who lets their spawn yowl through a wedding.

    You can help the situation by giving the parents a quiet space for calming their children, or by offering babysitting services during the ceremony. And, most importantly, you can let it go - wedding days always have hiccups.

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  • MissMadeline
    Master June 2014
    MissMadeline ·
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    Kill them. Kill them all.

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  • KayDwitWill
    Master May 2015
    KayDwitWill ·
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    While you had some concerns about a baby crying others will think your question is silly. Just tell your friends if they bring their kids sit near the exit just in case their babies cry.

    I'm allowing kids at my outdoor wedding so I'm expecting some to be running around to include my own daughter who will be 2 years old at the time. I hope their parents keep them from running up to the alter but I know it's a chance I'm taking. It's life. Kids are kids.

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  • LoveLee
    Dedicated October 2015
    LoveLee ·
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    I do see your concern, however if you are having kids/ babies at your wedding you have to somewhat expect that this could happen. In the end the ceremony will go on and honestly I dont think most people will even think much about it if it does happen

    For me personally I just think there are bigger more significant things to worry about Smiley smile

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Crying babies inevitably draw the attention to themselves and away from the ceremony, (which is always emotional, and usually expensive to construct). That becomes the focus of the ceremony, and no one can ignore it for more than a few seconds. Your question isn't silly, and most officiants won't just continue. They may not address it, but they'll stop until the child does.

    This is one moment in a baby's day; it is, ideally, a monumental moment in your life. It's not their fault; they're babies. It's probably been a long day for them by the time they get to the ceremony. They're unconcerned with anyone but themselves, and that's to be expected.

    If you can NOT have kids (if that's your choice), problem solved. Adults crying don't usually make as much noise..... If you have them, let their parents know, in a concerned, gracious way, that there is somewhere set up for them in another room (really, as easy as a couple of comfy chairs, a couple bottles of water and a soundproof wall; many churches have these areas built in....) where they can retire so that they, their babies, and you are all more at ease. No parent loves hearing their baby cry and/or become a scene stealer,but some of them don't really understand how distracting this can be in a sacred setting (even a secular sacred setting.....)

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Since many of my weddings are casual, simple affairs, it is not unusual to have a baby present who is the child of the B&G. If baby/toddler is not content with being held by a grandparent, the couple usually ends up holding the child during the ceremony. I've learned to just go with the flow!

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  • Krystal
    Devoted October 2014
    Krystal ·
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    That is my biggest fear! To have my special moment ruined by a crying baby! I have seen it too many times where a baby starts crying during a ceremony or a reading at a funeral and the parent just lets them and doesn't even take out! So aggravating!!! I have requested no children under 10.

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  • Eleanor
    VIP October 2014
    Eleanor ·
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    Infanticide.

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  • GrayCatVintage
    Master October 2015
    GrayCatVintage ·
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    The problem today is some parents can be SO damn rude and inconsiderate now a days that they just let their infants wail while they coo at them to try and get them to stop instead of rushing out with the baby which is what they should do. Same with officiants who have to say a zillion times to shut your cell phones OFF only to have one ring or vibrate so loudly against a pew that everyone gasps and stares - then they still don't shut it off.

    Just bank on if you are allowing kids at your ceremony, one will cry, cut up, or have an "incident" where the mother will have to run out with a diaper bag. Do not expect all parents to be courteous however and automatically assume they will remove a noisy baby because they only will about half the time.

    Just like you can assume someone's cell phone will ring, your Uncle Bob will have pneumonia and cough the whole time, your mother in law will start to cry uncontrollably, the officiant will misspeak and people will laugh, etc. Crap just happens Smiley tongue

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  • Sarah and Lindsey
    Devoted May 2015
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    Eh, it happens. You could always talk to your officiant to see how he/she usually deals with that situation.

    When my parents got married, they got married in a chapel on the beach, and a stray dog walked in and fell asleep in the middle of the aisle. Sometimes you just gotta roll with it and realize that while you can't control everything, you will still have an amazing time if you focus on what matters. In ten years, nobody will remember a baby crying.

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  • Miss P.
    Master September 2014
    Miss P. ·
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    Babies suck.


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  • rusticbride
    Master May 2014
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    It's not ideal but it can happen. I can't imagine my wedding without kids there... they're a part of my family, and therefore a part of my life. I wouldn't want to not have them there.

    If they cry, they cry. I'm going to be married either way. Will it be annoying if the parent doesn't console them in another area? Sure, but I would hope they make preparations beforehand for the child to not be hungry, tired/cranky, etc. Whatever happens, happens. A 20 minutes ceremony isn't going to keep me from banning kids for the entire night.

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  • mscountry
    Master July 2014
    mscountry ·
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    Most parents will sit in the back and take the bay out if it cries. There will be babies and toddlers at mine but I don't care if they cry or fuss the wedding will go on. My FH and I understand this and just laugh because we don't know if one will make noise or not since our wedding is outdoors the crying will not be as loud as indoors.

    I am like rusticbride and can't imagine our wedding without these kids there.

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  • LavenderJoy
    Master September 2014
    LavenderJoy ·
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    @Tina aka Nonna, I just LOL'd at If "ifs" and "buts" were candy and nuts, we'd all have a merry Christmas." <-- Never heard that before.

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