What if I feel too fat?

Will this be your first time?

We all can feel a little insecure from time to time, I know I do, especially with the stress of an upcoming wedding.. ( ours is 4/21/17 ^-^)

But let me tell you, you are spending the rest of your life with this man.... own it, own your body and be empowered by it. You hold the power

Buy something that you FEEL good in. Something that makes you feel fierce and sexy. You don't have to strip tease. Having something cute to wear will be enough if you want to do something different.. It's eye candy anyway

Don't worry, it will come naturally. You're in love, let that take over, instincts will do the rest.

I'm going to assume that you haven't slept together yet, and if I've got that wrong I apologize. Hopefully this isn't TMI, but my FH and I had sex pretty much up until the end of my pregnancy, and he was never once in any danger of being squished. You and your partner will communicate throughout, and both of you can ask for a change of position for whatever reason in order to be more comfortable.

That communication is key. Talk to him. Tell him you're nervous about him liking your body, about the pressure of marital sex, about making him happy. I am 100% certain he'll reassure you and want to help you through that. He may be nervous too, and you can help him with his own issues.

Also, my FH has told me many times that men do not lie in bed counting up a woman's flaws. Or even noticing them. The thought process pretty much begins and ends with "Yay! Naked lady!"

Like @delfina said he will not be worried about your flaws at all. He will be so excited to be with his WIFE especially if it's his first time, he will think you are the most amazing person in the world. If you are larger it's not like he doesn't already know that and love you for you exactly the way you are. If you're really nervous for your first time you can try doing it in the dark. That way you can focus on figuring things out and then in the future worry about actually showing each other your bodies. Eventually you will hardly even notice when you are naked around him and won't even think twice about it

Aww, I think most of us struggle with insecurity from time to time. He will love you no matter what and won't notice your "flaws".

If you drink at all, sometimes a glass of wine can help take the edge off of your nerves.

Oh girl, he is gonna be over the moon happy whenever the time comes. You will see how happy he is and that will make you more comfortable, promise. Maybe buy some pretty nightgowns and robes and that will make you feel better too

I'm sure you're beautiful and he will be SOOO excited to be with you! I'm super insecure but once you open yourself up to the idea of being sexy and your partner shows that they're excited and loving it, you feel so empowered! Just embrace the fact that he's crazy for you and that you're beautiful just the way you are and you'll enjoy yourself! Let loose!

I was insecure about what my man would think about me too. I have always been self-conscious, especially after my last relationship. My man always assures me that he loves me for who I am and wouldn't change anything about me. I'm sure your FH will tell you the same thing! After all, he is marrying you!

You should definitely communicate with him about your nerves but I can say your not going to squish him

When I'm feeling insecure I just tell myself that he knows what I look like & isn't going to suddenly expect a supermodel when I get naked! If he wants you with your clothes on he will want you with them off!

Whenever I'm not feeling the best about my body, we turn on what FH calls 'ambiance lighting', which is literally just our closet light. We like to be able to see each other, but the light is a little softer and I feel like it outlines my flaws a little less.

Also having a few drinks never hurts

Yes, this would be my first time, but not for him. I think that's why I'm so nervous about it. One, I'm not very confident with my body and Two, because he knows what he's doing and I don't. But I think I will take your all's advice and have a couple drinks to calm the nerves lol

If it's your 1st time...You'd be nervous/self conscious regardless of how fit you may or may not be. Just try to enjoy the night

My FH took my virginity long time ago and he wasn't one. I was a skinny Minnie then but after 4 years together I've gained a little. He still makes me feel sexy when we're intimate. He loves you for all of you! Nothing to be ashamed of!

I second PPs: there is no way you are going to squish him. Just remember couples of all different body types are able to have great sex. I find that the first time with a new partner is always a little awkward as you are getting to know each other's bodies and preferences, but I have no doubt the two of you will work it out rather quickly. Just try to relax and enjoy this new way of connecting

He loves you for you! This is a journey that you are beginning together. The thing to remember most is that this is the first time the two of you will be with one another, so any other experience is not relevant. You are getting to explore one another in a new way together. No one else can compare to that.

I've been with my FH for almost 9 years in total and we were each other's first times. But through high school he did have other partners that were MUCH smaller than I. Here we are 7 years strong and getting married and I still find myself comparing myself and insecure at times. My FH is quite a bit smaller than I and I struggled with being above him during sex for awhile. Talk to him about it and he will help make sure you are comfortable!

Honestly I think it hurts HIM so much when he can tell I'm feeling insecure. He doesn't understand how this woman that he is totally in love with could feel any sort of doubt about herself. I'm sure your FH absolutely feels that way as well. There is a reason you two are becoming partners for life! Drink a glass of wine, it will be just fine!

I've gained weight throughout the years and my husband has told me flat out that he likes having a little more to hold on to. Someone else said it best - your man is just going to be excited to have a naked woman in bed with him and the naked woman is going to be the woman he is completely in love with. It seriously doesn't get any sexier than that.

My husband has gained weight and is slowly losing his hair and I still think he's the sexiest because he's HIM. It goes both ways... your husband will think you're the sexiest because you're you.

If you guys haven't been intimate before, he won't be able to think of anything but how excited he is to finally be intimate!! He certainly won't be judging you or analyzing your body.

If you're too big to be on top, there are many other positions that would work. Missionary, from behind, him standing and you on the edge of the bed are all good ideas. Personally I think girl-on-top is overrated anyways; I'd rather be lazy and "dead fish" it