What if uninvited’s just show up!?

Honestly, you're gonna cause yourself more stress and waste time doing a seating chart. I wouldn't bother. Make it easier on yourself and just choose not to care if this happens. Because it will. don't let it ruin your day.

It will definitely happen. My fiance and I will be doing buffet style reception. We decided on adding one or 2 extra tables (since we are renting the place and have a family friend cater for us). We will also have an usher at the door, after everyone who has their name on the list go in the extra guests can go in. So far this is our plan. You can always just have someone check names from the guest list from the ceremony too. I saw a friend of mine did that at her wedding, ceremony and reception my name had to be in the list to participate.

Might be a hassle, but what we plan to do is enlist our moms, and possible BM and MOH to help us call the guests who have not Rsvp'd by the date (or a week before) and just ask are you coming... if they ask if they can bring a plus 1 and the answer is no, then maybe that will sway their decision right then and there. But either way you'll likely get a response. I personally will not be having an extra table because I'm not really trying to accommodate a whole table worth of extra non rsvp-ers. If there's 1 or 2 people then whatever.

I would assume your guests RSVPd for your wedding. Why would you expect them to RSVP for 1 and then bring 2?

If you have a few specific people in mind who you think are likely to do this, talk with them. I'm going to assume that these random people aren't significant others since it would be incredibly rude to not invite a SO.

I'd also talk with your venue coordinator and ask how they would handle it. Many places would be prepared to squeeze in one more person at the table and/or be prepared to let then know that since they weren't invited that they can't stay.

I agree w those who said to talk to ppl who you think might do this and make sure they understand. Calling for rsvps is a good way of puttint it out there that u need an exact guest count as space or whatever is limited and u need to have exact numbers.

I’m doing a seating chart, place cards, and renting just enough chairs and tables to seat the number of people who RSVPed (we’ll have extra, but I’m not advertising that to family). Anyone that was not invited will be turned away.

This is just a funny because its what i told my mom i would put on my RSVP.

"if you dont RSVP or are uninvited bring a chair and a sandwich"

lol dont stress it will or will not happen. Remember why your getting married

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I'm wondering this too. If you think someone will do this you should have a talk with them about how you will not be accommodating anyone that wasn't invited. I'm really not down for rewarding bad behavior. Why should I have to pay extra money for rentals and food because someone decides to bring someone who wasn't invited to my wedding? That's exactly what RSVPs are for.

Im worried about this too
My sister invited her neighbor
I met him once...why is he coming?
My mom invited this lady and her sister
I dont remember meeting her I guess shes a family friend
I also heard this guy was talking to my brother in law about a wedding he was invited to and its my wedding but his name is Mark I never invited mark!!

This is legit one of my concerns. My venue has a max out number. We invited that many guests. I know 100% won’t come....buuuuut....i wasn’t planning on setting extra tables for crashers. Less tables equal more dance floor

I think if you do a seating chart this is a good way to make it clear whoever doesn’t have an actual placement can not be accommodated. When the person has no chair then they can be turned away. I will also do a phone call with people who don’t RSVP before marking them as a no. I won’t be accommodating any uninvited guest or people who don’t RSVP.

On our RSVP we put “___ out of ____ guests invited will attend” so that way if we put that only one guest was invited they knew they couldn’t bring a plus one.

But dont waste your time with the seating chart. At my wedding, a week and a half ago, we had guests actually rearrange the name cards because they wanted to seat next to someone different. It was so rude.

Our RSVP cards state "We have reserved ____ seats in your honor."

So they will know if they bring extra people, they won't have a seat. We have a seating char for tables, but not specific chairs. We are doing buffet so food isn't so much an issue but if people bring extras there will be no seats. We will not be setting out an extra empty table either, we are close to max capacity and I will not be accommodating to the rude people who choose to essentially "crash". They will awkwardly have to stand or squeeze a chair into a table.

We are having a DOC to control this situation for us. We have to pay 150% of the cost (already at $140 a head) for any person that shows up not on our final count, so we are having someone there to turn them away because I refuse to pay $200 for that rude person that tries to show up. We are making it clear how many spots we are saving for each invited person and those without invitations or a plus one won't be allowed in.

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You should have a talk with your family about this. That could get out of control very quickly. Its so odd to me that people would show up to the wedding of someone they barely know! If they do not get an actual invitation I would have my DOC escort them out. I don't care who told them they could come.

View Quoted Comment Did you actually put that on your rsvp’s!! Hahaha that is too funny 😂

I can say that we didn't have any random people show up. I would definitely do a seating chart. You don't need to assign the specific seats, just the table. I wouldn't try to accommodate them by having random extra tables or chairs, just plan for those that RSVP. If people show up, they won't have dinner or a seat, so would hopefully just leave. If you have a DOC, they can definitely take note of people standing around without a seat when it comes to dinner. If not, maybe talk to your caterer. As they are serving the food they could take note of people who are not in a seat. They can just be prepared to let people know that they can't accommodate additional guests. I wouldn't let it stress you out on the day of. A lot of people seem to share your concern. Is this really that common?!? I have never been to a wedding where an uninvited guest showed up.

OH i just remembered something...so this also depends on culture! I believe it is pretty common for Indian guests to not rsvp and show up. Gf married an Indian guy and about 30 guests showed up and they never RSVP. It was a nightmare as they were getting married at an upscale venue w a plated seated dinner and having to add 3 tables at moment's notice was just craziness. NOT to mention extremely expensive but her parents pulled it off. Another gf married someone from Morocco. They didn't know until last minute who of his family would be coming (they wouldnt make travel arrangements till the very last min and i think its pretty common for that culture).

So not sure if any of the cultural differences play a role for you but thought to mention just in case.

I would turn the guest away. You can't plan on accommodating everyone. You will stress yourself out too much thinking about every little thing