What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

I’m black, my fiancé is white. I family member on my side told me to “make sure there’s not more white people than black people,” and that I should try to “have more place vendors and more black bridesmaids because I wouldn’t want my culture to get lost.” Needless to say, I went off on that person 🙄

Mine was my friend telling me she’s just not sure bc it’s a thursday & people don’t get off until 5... valid point but people do work weekends also & i took off for her wedding... another one was someone that wasn’t invited to the wedding asking fmil for details of the wedding & we had to tell them yet again that they weren’t invited 🤦🏼‍♀️ awkward

FMIL insisted on inviting her friend to the wedding, who FH doesn’t even like. They’re paying for the venue, so we put the friend and husband on the list and sent them a STD. Their daughter (who again, FH doesn’t like) had the nerve to message him and complain about how she wasn’t invited.

1.) One person invited her 2 sisters who live in CA (she’s in TX), she had already been told “no” by my FIL. When H’s grandmother (her sister in law) called and said “hey this isn’t going to work” she responded that she would have to “rearrange some things” even though the whole reason she was coming to CA was for the wedding. Then she called back and said she wouldn’t be attending. Then her daughter sent a save the date to my in-laws and not us 😂.

2.) “hey just seeing if you can come, and if you’re bringing a guest”
“I’m not sure. No guest. But I’ll be there maybe.”
“Hey just checking back in I need my final count today are you thinking you’ll be able to make it?”
“sorry I didn’t reply I didn’t realize the return date passed. It’s just who I am as a person. Yes I’ll be there”
*didnt show up*

3.) *person replies with an uninvited plus-one*
-we let it go we had room.
*her daughter replies a week later also with an uninvited plus-one*
-neither ‘couple’ shows up.

4.) woman who is not invited whatsoever
emails (2 very long and completely different emails) to MIL & FIL.
Calls (barely 20 min after the emails were sent) both of H’s grandmothers.
Some things she said “they will get lovely gifts”, “wow marriage”, “I LOVE weddings”(about 20 times), “I’d love to come and just stand in the back”, “what date, and time?”

I think that’s about it...

View Quoted Comment Yes she did, already bought it. She tried to hint about the flower girl to FH, he told her the planning is taken care of and we have it handled. Now, I can laugh at it... but at that moment I wanted to scream.

I'm sorry you have encountered such unnecessary antics. Sometimes it is difficult for people to acknowledge situations where their needs and desires are only secondary to the needs and desires of other people. Please try to look forward to enjoying the company of individuals who support your union, and try not to give too much attention to unpleasantness.

I always love people inviting themselves to be bridesmaids, guests... and even an old coworker of mine from 11 years ago wanted to be my wedding planner. ?!? Then his sister said we couldn’t get married in October as that’s ‘her month’ (say wha?) and then his mom is all, ‘you can’t wear white, you shouldn’t wear a ball gown, you can’t wear a veil’... As soon as I had my dress, damn right I went out and bought a veil! And we decided to elope! Best decision I ever made...

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Same. I think it was 3-4 people for us.

View Quoted Comment Oh please don’t mistake my post for not being happy and looking forward to our big day, celebrating with all our loved ones, because I definitely am! However, sometimes it’s relieving and refreshing to commiserate with other brides experiencing similar woes, not to mentions some stories being downright funny and laughable after the fact!

View Quoted Comment That reminds me of my dad. My dad is Italian and my mom is half Portuguese and half Spaniard. I'm marrying an Irish man. My dad pushed for an Italian or Portuguese Venue and church. I said no to the church because his family won't understand and it's not fair. He turned to me when I started planning the wedding and said "you can marry him if you want but if you don't invite more of our side than his then you two aren't going to make much money from the wedding. They aren't like Italians and Portuguese, you'll get kitchen stuff and a bit of money. That's all I'm going to say."

I had a cousin who was determined to bring her son and DIL (both grown ups) and first it was a FB msg, then emailing, then she called me. Take the answer (I can't say take a hint, I passed that a long time ago.) "They can stand in the back and come to the reception and NOT EAT or pay for their own meal." Yeah......no.

Another friend asked me "Did you elope? I saw pics on FB of you in Florida! I can't miss your wedding!!!" Guess who missed it? Without calling/texting/emailing? Guess why? Her daughter's boyfriend broke up with her. Guess she couldn't leave her for, oh, an hour or so.

My own sister hassled me about whether I was inviting her son's GF - I was, but her tone was one of "Well she BETTER be invited!!"

I had a cousin not show but she texted me the night before saying she had 103 fever and was in Urgent Care. Nope, I agree....stay home!! LOL!

The night before my wedding my aunt texted me and told me that she and my uncle wouldn't be able to make it "but just let the caterer know and they'll be able to change their count, I used to work in food service so I know they will do it". The night before my wedding....Yeah, no, that's not how that works but ok. I just didn't reply back to her.

FH kinda friend declined our invite and then invited us to a party he's throwing the same day. Because we will totally cancel our wedding for your party!

My dad is refusing to send back his RSVP card because he doesn't want to waste 50 cents on a stamp.... a stamp I already paid for/placed on the already addressed envelope. Seriously he just needs to check yes and send it back.

And my cousin texted my sister to find out if her bf and her brothers gf are invited. She and I are pretty close so not sure why she texted my sister, who didn't know the answer.

Oh and FH's one guest told us that his gf we didn't invite couldn't make it. Well that's cool because she wasn't invited.

View Quoted Comment Wow!! This tops the list! Lmao. That’s so wrong

I posted this in another post...

1.My dad and I barely have a relationship at all. We talk maybe once a year and I see him once every few years. He lives with his sister. I sent out my invitations and I sent one to my aunt and her husband and my dad. All one invitation because it’s one address and one fridge to hang it on, so I didn’t even think of sending more than one to the same address, but my aunt said I should send him his own. Then she was asking about where he would sit (would I sit him with her or my mom who he hates), then she asked me to have my mom write him a letter apologizing for divorcing him 19 years ago and say that she will be cordial towards him so he should come to the wedding. I shouldn’t have to do all this to get my father to come to my wedding!

2. Then my other aunt texts me and wakes me up at 5:30am saying that I have to change my menu because she doesn’t eat fish or pork, and she’s allergic to peppers which are in the vegetarian option. I couldn’t believe it! I’ve been to plenty of events where I didn’t like or couldn’t eat the food and filled up on bread or salad. There was one time I stopped at Hardee’s beforehand. So she said she wanted chicken, so I check to see what kind of chicken they have and I text it back to her, and she said she can’t have that either, she’ll just have salad and rice which is what she should have done in the first place. Then she said the whole family is coming including my cousin’s girlfriend, who was not invited. But I can’t say no because they are out of state and booked their airfare. It’s just so rude and frustrating!!!

View Quoted Comment Oh my gosh! You have seen it all! How sweet of your cousin to text you all while being at Urgent Care and sick! Totally understandable, yikes!

So far no complaints aside from what an awesome time we have planned for our wedding wkend. But it will be July in Cleveland so I'll expect the complaining then!

View Quoted Comment Why is it that people think they “know” how it works just because they’ve worked remotely in that field?! The girl who keeps telling me “vendors are flexible” is doing so because she works in marketing events 🙄 I just want to respond “marketing vendors are NOT the same as wedding vendors!!!!”

View Quoted Comment Hahaha oh my gosh!!! The nerve! Wow. You sure you couldn’t just move it?