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Sarah
Devoted June 2018

What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

Sarah, on May 7, 2018 at 5:13 PM

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All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received? I have two...

All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received?

I have two that come to mind:
1. A friend of mine didn't turn her RSVP in by the deadline. No biggie. I reached out and asked if she and her boyfriend were coming. Her response? "Possibly! Not sure yet." ... Ok. Asked her when she would know by, as we needed to let vendors know for their headcount purposes. Her response "I don't know, but vendors are usually pretty flexible about that stuff." Oh, really then? She did the same thing yesterday when I texted to ask if she was planning on attending my bridal shower next weekend that my MOH is throwing and privately reached out to her about. Same response: "event planners are usually flexible if you tell the that someone is 'iffy.'" Nevermind that my MOH is paying for a meal for her!

2. Had a family friend of FH return their RSVP with a paragraph written on the back that they would not be coming on account of their 11-year-old son and that we were not allowing children. We were both shocked that they went out of their way to complain about it!

Tell me your funniest/most shocking/rude responses to give me a laugh! Lord knows I need it Smiley laugh

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  • Melissa
    Dedicated August 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Our invites go out tomorrow - can’t wait 😂

    Less than four months to go and I had a cousin (whom I don’t want to invite) call me - not to say “congratulations” but instead to say “ I heard you might be getting married soon! I sure hope I get an invitation!” MIGHT be getting married soon?? Ugh.
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  • L
    Expert June 2018
    LeeAnne ·
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    All my RSVP's have been done on our wedding website... my fh niece rsvp'd for her boyfriend who literally just got out of jail for some not so good things after my fh sister already asked us a week prior if her daughter's bf's were invited & we told her no. So when I seen that RSVP come in I texted fh sister I'm a little confused why K just rsvpd for her bf when we just went over this... her response. Good news is kait (other daughter) wont be bringing anyone since she isnt with d anymore. My response Lol that's good news but K isn't bringing anyone either we don't have the room for plus ones.... she never responded back again... AWKWARD!!!!!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Crossing fingers for not complaints for you! We have been taking them all in stride, but some of them are just to eye-rolling and funny not to share!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Hahaha how awkward!!!
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  • Kiersten
    Expert February 2018
    Kiersten ·
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    A friend of my sister's who was invited to the wedding told us that the ceremony time didn't fit with her schedule. Allegedly she asked us to move it, along with some other nonsense. I never spoke with her, as my BFF/MOH went full beserk on her for all of us, and straight up told her she was no longer welcome. I found this all out later because no one wanted me to stress over trivial crap.
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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
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    You know, I tried talking to my vendors but they didn't seem to understand there's a super cool party we need to be at!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Hahaha good for you! These seats aren’t transferable like a concert ticket! I did allow my stepsister to bring some family friends because her hubby can’t go, but she reached out privately in a text to ask. So awkward when they just assume!
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Really?! I thought “vendors are usually pretty flexible”? 😂😂😂
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  • P.F.
    Super May 2018
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    Oh my goodness! 😂😂

    I needed this thread 😂
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  • xRApril
    Expert May 2018
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    FH and I were really good friends with one of my old bosses, but he quit over a year ago and we stopped talking. Then he randomly started talking to us again a few weeks ago, joined my gym and everything. I mentioned the wedding this week and he asked if it was at the courthouse. I said no it is going to be a church wedding. He got super offended that we didn’t invite him. I pointed out that we hadn’t talked to him in a year so we didn’t think he’d be interested in coming. He wouldn’t let it go so I told him he was more than welcone to come. Then he said no he can’t because we didn’t give him enough of a notice. I think he’s finally over it because he hasn’t brought it up since. It was just really weird.
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  • DC Wife 10.27.18
    Master October 2018
    DC Wife 10.27.18 ·
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    My parents are upset that we want to have our rehearsal dinner in DC (where our wedding is taking place) because they don’t want to have to look for parking two days in a row. They want our out of town guests to travel to Maryland where they live but, don’t want to host.
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  • M
    Super October 2018
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    I won't include some of the wacko responses from my first wedding.......
    I have heard so many reputable stories of people bringing their neighbors, friends, an old boyfriend of the bride.....I mean, really!!!
    It also amuses me how many people try to force themselves, their friends or family members into your wedding. "Well you are going to have my niece be your flower girl, right?" "You are having cousin Suzanne singing, right?"


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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
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    BIL told H that his 8 year old niece asked why Uncle Danny loved her more than Uncle Mike because kids weren't invited to our wedding. After a ton of back and forth they offered to bring their nanny and she watch H's nephews you are both under the age of 3 and we agreed to let his niece go. Had they just called us and asked us it would of saved us all a big headache and me a lot of hurt. I highly doubt his niece said that BIL just wanted to hurt H and it bothers me still.

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  • Tausha
    Just Said Yes July 2017
    Tausha ·
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    Didn’t have any rude responses that I can think of. But one thing in particular was stolen and I have yet to get it back. A very expensive lantern the one thing I actually wanted to keep and not try to resell just vanished. It’s been almost a year and I am still pretty salty about it 😕
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  • T
    Expert September 2018
    Tia_Fred ·
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    Thats to much for her to say that the vendors dont mind that ughh it konda does matter cause ur paying pp I think that's definitely rude. I havent sent my invites out yet just my STD's so I'm gonna follow this just to know what I'm in for and what to expect
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  • AD2AP
    VIP June 2018
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    I think there is a valid point here...

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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
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    HAHAHA that is crazy. Especially since they aren't hosting.

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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    So he doesn't love his niece because she can't come to their adult only wedding?

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  • Sagan
    Super July 2017
    Sagan ·
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    DH didn’t invite his first cousins. His mother’s siblings span over 20 years in age so most of his cousins are much older than he is and live 1500 miles away so there’s no relationship there.

    One cousin jumped down MIL’s throat a few days before the wedding, and proclaimed that she was just going to go as other cousin’s guest. Other cousin wasn’t invited either and was attending as her mother’s, DH’s aunt’s, guest. So that was fun.
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  • nolegirl
    Dedicated June 2018
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    I haven't gotten anything as bad as some of the other comments on here but a few things have rubbed me the wrong way! For some reason peoples comments about our registry have really annoyed me 😂 I've heard "are you sure that's the one you want?" (Referring to a specific item) and "is there anything nice that you want on it but didn't put?" Like noooo or else I would've put it on there??? And last night my friend told me "you really need to add more stuff because people will just get you random stuff" like I don't want to add more stuff I want cash 🙄🙄🙄
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