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Sarah
Devoted June 2018

What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

Sarah, on May 7, 2018 at 5:13 PM

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All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received? I have two...

All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received?

I have two that come to mind:
1. A friend of mine didn't turn her RSVP in by the deadline. No biggie. I reached out and asked if she and her boyfriend were coming. Her response? "Possibly! Not sure yet." ... Ok. Asked her when she would know by, as we needed to let vendors know for their headcount purposes. Her response "I don't know, but vendors are usually pretty flexible about that stuff." Oh, really then? She did the same thing yesterday when I texted to ask if she was planning on attending my bridal shower next weekend that my MOH is throwing and privately reached out to her about. Same response: "event planners are usually flexible if you tell the that someone is 'iffy.'" Nevermind that my MOH is paying for a meal for her!

2. Had a family friend of FH return their RSVP with a paragraph written on the back that they would not be coming on account of their 11-year-old son and that we were not allowing children. We were both shocked that they went out of their way to complain about it!

Tell me your funniest/most shocking/rude responses to give me a laugh! Lord knows I need it Smiley laugh

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  • AD2AP
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    AD2AP ·
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    From what it sounds like, the other brothers kid can come but not his kid... that's rude.

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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
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    That was my thought! He loves his niece but we didn't want children there, but we did agree to let her come. Had they just called us and talked to us instead of the way it was handled we would have agreed to that a lot sooner and without H feeling like the worst uncle ever.

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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
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    The only child that was invited to my wedding originally was the one I gave birth to. I'm talking about one brother. H's niece was invited to her uncle on her mothers side wedding but not to ours. BIL was trying to make H feel bad.

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  • starsinwaves
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    I'm glad this got bumped because I just remembered the one I had this morning.

    It wasn't me, it was my mom, but... my aunt apparently got really mad/upset that she and her family aren't invited to the RD. We're only having wedding party, SOs, and immediate family because we can't afford to feed everyone. My aunt kept saying to my mom "but we're you're only family!" (sort of true on my mom's side, it's her only sibling and we don't talk to their parents). But my dad is one of seven, I have step-family, and of course, there's FH's family. If we extended the RD to aunts/uncles/cousins it would be about 3/4 of the wedding guests. And my aunt did not understand why we couldn't invite her and not my other aunts and uncles.

    I just really don't get some people. Plus, we'll be at the beach, my aunt's favorite place in the world. Go get some extra sun time!

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  • A_Mart
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    Oh my! Hope your friend decides soon! Has she been married before or work in the industry? Imagine that's where her comment about vendors being flexible might come from, but I've never seen a vendor be that flexible, lol. Most have deadlines for a reason!

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  • AD2AP
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    Oh totally apologize! I must have read it wrong.

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  • Paola
    Devoted December 2018
    Paola ·
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    We haven’t sent out our invites yet but I’ve dealt with people whom I haven’t spoken in ages reaching out to “congratulate me” and then follow it up with “ I’m assuming I’m invited right?”

    Uhhhh no? I Haven’t spoken to you in years.
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  • K
    Dedicated July 2018
    Karen ·
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    I think the second question is actually very innocent and depending what the real meaning behind it is...may have actually been beneficial to you. They’re asking if you want something NICE that you didn’t down. To me it sounds like they’re trying to indirectly ask you if there’s something you wanted that’s more expensive that you didn’t want to put down bc of its price. At least if I said that, that’s what I would mean.
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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
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    It's ok! I realized I named two uncles and I see how it could be misread! But Uncle Mike is my H lol.

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  • PrincessLawrence
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    Oh well dont know if mine are that bad but I have two as well.

    One: A girl I asked to be my BM and we had her dress and everything already didnt know if she was going to make it. They won a trip to Greece at Lake Shake but have yet to be told when they are going and she has no say when they go so her response was "I can not give you a def answer if I will be there or not" my thing is then why accept BM?? BTW I asked her after she won this trip

    Two: I got an RSVP back no name no nothing (I numbered but they are off some how) with "We are only coming to the ceremony"

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  • MrsHanlon
    Devoted July 2018
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    Since the week FH and I got engaged (two years ago) a girlfriend of one of his groomsmen has been blowing up my phone with texts asking for invites to the bach weekend, shower, all related events under the sun that I have no control over. I barely know this girl but she pulled me aside at a dinner party last week to tell me that she's been "feeling very left out" of the bridal party which BLEW MY MIND. I had to say something about it because I've felt so stepped on for the past two years.
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  • M
    Super October 2018
    Michelle ·
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    People act like money is easily disposable 🙁
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  • Charity
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    I totally agree! wow that was so nice of you to pay for any of her dress.

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  • Lindsay
    Dedicated October 2018
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    I haven’t sent invitations out yet but I did send save the dates out in January giving people plenty of notice so they can plan. My mom has gotten a few people complaining that it’s on a Sunday and not a Saturday.
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  • S
    Dedicated May 2018
    Sharay ·
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    I think I can top all of these. I sent an invite to my cousins in another state I was expecting maybe 4 people at most. Well my deadline rolled around and no rsvp so I figured they were not coming. About 4 weeks before my wedding a cousin messages me on Facebook and says oh by the way we are coming to your wedding there will be 18 of us! Yes you read right 18! I politely told them no way!
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  • Meet_The_Clarks
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    My cousin invited herself to my wedding (I'm in NJ and she is in AK), then invited herself to rehearsal dinner and then had the nerve to ask if her 16 yo daughter could come, whom I've met all of 2 times. Seriously?

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    OH no! that's so sad! :-( i don't blame you for being salty, I would be hurt, too. For anyone to steal ANYTHING from a wedding, let alone something you really wanted, is rude!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
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    Right?! I was like well, thank you for telling me my vendors should flexibly ignore the cost for your being there. My FH said I should have been catty and responded, "well, you don't necessarily need to eat... your hunger is pretty flexible, right?" LOL!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
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    Hahaha that's unbelievable! Oh man. Worst we have seen with our rehearsal dinner is that family is saying we "HAVE" to invite so-and-so because they're traveling this far, or we HAVE to invite this person because her SIL is invited and it would be weird, so on and so forth... yet I don't see any of these same family members trying to offer to pay for these "HAVE TO" attend guests...

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
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    Hahaha oh gosh, we haven't gotten the registry comments YET, but I know a girlfriend of mine that is getting married this Friday has! She overheard her aunt say "well if that's really the tableware they want, I guess..." LOL! We didn't add TOO much but surprisingly no one has gotten us the plate ware or silverware we have been wanting. We are good with cash too! :-P

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