What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

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We are dealing with this SAME issue exactly! FH's aunt keeps insisting that we need to invite this aunt or that cousin to the RD that FH doesn't even talk to! We tallied up if we invited ALL guests traveling in, and it would be over 50% of our wedding attendance, and WE are paying for the RD, AND part of the wedding! No thank you. We made a compromise for 2 aunts because their sister is invited, but put our feet down there, finally.

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That's what is so frustrating! She has been married before, and she works in marketing event coordination, which is NOT the same as wedding events, but she feels she has a better understanding of it from her position I guess. But let alone that, having been married before herself, you'd think she'd understand at least a little! I'm going to just hound her at the end of the month before final head counts are due lol. The worst part is, it's not like she can just decide to show up that day. She lives here in TX where I live, and wedding is in my home town in CA. She's kinda gotta get a plane ticket and hotel!

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Guys, I'm not even joking when I say at one point when my mom was considering hosting she mentioned very seriously that we should just have it at our house to save money....At our house? Days before our wedding we should hold an event at our house for 25 people? Also, WE LIVE IN DC!!! When she decided she wasn't hosting. I decided she didn't have a say anymore. I am keeping every bit of it a secret from here on out to avoid any unwanted (or financed) input! LOL

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Lol that's such an awkward convo! I haven't personally experience that, but my FH has! One of his best friends is his boss (lucky guy), and is a groomsman in our wedding. Then, he's also friends with 2 other guys on his team who are invited to the wedding. One of the guys on his team he's not fond of at all, let's call him Steve. Steve approached him one day when he was talking over flight arrangements with this groomsman boss and said, "yeah the wedding is coming up, right?!" FH said "yep, in June," thinking nothing of it. Steve responds "so where are y'all registered at? I need to work on a gift." ... Umm... he's not invited to the wedding! Super awkward.

This thread has me shook 😂😂😭 and upset for a lot of you. I knew people could be unbelievably rude but for some reason I wasn't expecting it for weddings, like people would stop being petty for a short amount of time and be understanding. Dunno why I thought like that lmao.

Now I'm just trying to think of ways to minimize +1's, but feel like it will only add to possible future drama. We haven't even sent out our STD yet and I'm worried hahaha.

I'm expecting a lot of people to be pissed at me. Oh well. I have a budget, and we both have large families, so we're inviting a lot of people. The only thing I will have a major issue with is not rsvp'ing and showing, or rsvp'ing and not showing. There are people who could have those spots, and if someone gives me those vague, maybe answers I'm just gonna tell them I've made the decision for them, I am sending my STDs and invitations out early for a reason

View Quoted Comment It’s beyond awkward! Lol I don’t know what it is about weddings but it makes people lose all social etiquette haha never in my life have I assumed I’m “invited” to things unless I’m given a proper invitation.

View Quoted Comment I’m giving all my singles a plus one. It does bump up the cost but I remember attending a wedding where I wasn’s given a +1 and I ONLY knew the bride and I was so uncomfortable the whole time. Besides it’s not my place to judge how far along someone is an a relationship, at three months I knew I was dating the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Best of luck! The guest list is definitely a tiresome task.

We are having a small destination wedding on an island with immediate family and friends only (in between the 2 countries we are from) and are 80% sure a friend of mine who wasn't invited is going to fly 10 hours to be there. Lots of questions prying about the event "out of curiosity."

I think it's hilarious the friend doesn't think we know the plan he's hatching, bit if we're correct in our assumption, it'll put us in a pretty awk spot on the day of: give in and invite them but be mad they placed themselves above the family we didn't invite and haven't seen for 3 years, or feel bad that we rejected someone who travelled that far.


Never heard of anyone flying that far to crash a wedding! It's not a birthday party haha. I mean, we didn't claim the island and anyone should vacation when and where they want, but knowing a friend is lurking around probably wanting to "hang out" def amuses me. I guess whatever happens happens!

Omg! I would of replied to her your uninvited! Some people do have some nerves to piss off people. I feel that they think they are entitled to something? To begging with it's a honor to be invited as a guest to someone's wedding. Good one it made me laugh.

We had people who never responded to the RSVPs and also not to the texts we sent them directly to double check

View Quoted Comment Same here! My friend forgot supposedly. Reached out and here was the convo:

Me: hey, are you okay?
Friend: hey, I misplaced the invitation. When is your wedding? We don't want to miss it.
Me: yesterday.

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I’ve been very nervous to vent about this but I’ve had 2 things come up...When my FH called my dad to ask for his permission to ask for my hand(we were living about 3hrs away at the time) the first thing my step mom said to him cause he was on speaker, was to “make sure we didn’t have the date set for Charlie’s birthday”, (my step sister’s son) When he told me that at first I was upset but I got over it pretty quickly. Also when we went dress shopping my step mom offered to pay for my dress which I was hesitate because it was a dress that was over my budget but fell in love with it, and I am SO VERY grateful she paid for it but as we are leaving after she pays she goes “okay now don’t get pregnant..”

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My story is similar. Right after my FH and I got engaged, we went to my hometown to visit my family (about 4.5 hours away from where we live). Of course, being newly-engaged, everyone asks about the wedding. We're visiting with one of my aunts in a neighboring town when she asks, "Are you getting married here or there?" I say, "there," thinking that by "there" she means northwest Indiana (where we live). Nope, she meant the town over, my hometown. Then she said, "Well, how are we all going to get there?" My dad said, "By driving?"

Then, after FH and I got back home from our visit, she messaged me on Facebook and told me that I really should have it in my hometown so that it would be easier for my parents. When I pointed out that would not be easier for me, she suggested having two weddings.

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View Quoted Comment Wow because two weddings would be easier! 🤦‍♀️

This week my MOH and I were discussing options on certain things for my reception. She said we should have a million things and how certain things that FH and I want, wouldn't work out or wouldn't be fun. She said we should add a few things that we didn't want/ didn't want to spend money on, and she had the nerve to tell me to get a REAL JOB so we can afford these things. I'm still livid and want to boot her ass out of my wedding. I know its not "wedding etiquette" but she has pushed me too far.

View Quoted Comment Right there with ya.

I kind of love this thread. It also enrages me. I am trying to prepare myself; we haven't sent out invites yet (planning to send in June for our September wedding) but everyone got an STD in October (PLENTY of time to plan).If responses to the bridal shower are any indication I am going to have this situation on my hands because we have a huge list now that my mOH sent me of people we need responses from and it's on June 2nd. I texted a couple of people and they were like "oh yeah, I got it....um, I think I should be free that day!" like hello. We are spending money on you. Tell me yes or no. I don't want to get rude but when it comes to the wedding RSVPS I am going to be very forward, each person is like $230 a plate, they can go F themselves if they think it's rude for me to reach out.

What happened to etiquette? Sometimes I hate this modern social media driven day and age...

View Quoted Comment That's actually a really nice idea! Most of my single friends are military and somehow or another we all know each other lol but it'd still be nice to give them the option to bring someone. I'll have to try to convince my fiancee ^o^