What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

I think the rudest thing so far is my FH side of the family rsvp'ing to my soon-to-be mother-in-law instead of me. She has nothing to do with the planning of my wedding, but people RSVP to her. I have my phone number on the invites to call me if you have any questions or to RSVP, and I even have a Facebook group page that you can RSVP on there. But they still insist on going to her.

View Quoted Comment I had this happen. she started telling me all of these people were coming & i just politely said oh that’s weird i haven’t received any rsvps. and they started pouring in. good luck 👍🏼

View Quoted Comment The nerve of some people! Realizing weddings tend to bring out the ugly in some people.

i had a similar scenario with my own mother. My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. My mother requested her best friend be invited, I invited her but not her son whom I’ve had issues with in the past (screwed me over financially, attempted to physically attack me). I’ve seen him since and remained distant but pleasant for the sake of our mother’s friendship.

Well my mother’s friend lost her mind that her son wasn’t invited. There has been 4 weeks of non stop drama between my mother and I.

You had me cracking up when you're like, "Your hunger is pretty flexible, right?" Hahaha would have been hilarious if you said that. Like seriously, give me a straight answer.

As for my stories, I have a couple (sorry they're long, it just kinda upsets me still): 1) FH asked his best friend of nearly 9 years to be a groomsman and he was overjoyed to accept. He even said if it was ANYONE'S wedding he wanted to stand in, it would be FH's. Well a week later his wife tells him to step down because she was jealous he'd be walking down the isle with "some other woman" and mad that I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. I have other friends/family that I'm closer to so that's why I didn't ask her. I'm not really fond of her to begin with, but that's beside the point. I'm thinking, "It's not like I'm hiring hookers to be my bridesmaids!! 3 of the 4 are family! You're already married to him, what's there to be insecure about??" He tried taking to her but she wouldn't budge and he ended up stepping down. FH was upset for awhile and it killed me to see him so hurt.
2) I was asked to also be a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding and I said yes. Mine is in October and hers in September. Between planning my own wedding and reading some other stories, I know how difficult it can be to shop for dresses, whether it be your own or bridesmaids. I got lucky with my girls' dresses so when she mentioned dress shopping, I suggest this place because they were having a sale at the time. There was poor communication between her girls from the beginning and they kept canceling on her. When a month went by with no talk of anything, I messaged the group to see when they're available. Not only was I trying to be helpful, but I need to know these things so I can make my own appointments and plan my wedding. She went OFF on me saying "it's not your wedding nor are you the MOH, so kindly drop it, thanks." She kicked me out and I was hurt at first but then I'm like whatever if you're going to act like that then good riddance!
Again, sorry it's long, I just had to get it out there. Thanks for listening to my rants.

Haven't sent invites yet, but I've heard several of FH's friends have complained to him about our wedding being a Friday - and some of them did it in front of me last weekend - I wanted to blow up on them. My friends and family must be more easygoing, or else they just know that it's horrible to tell a stressed out bride 3 months before her wedding that she's inconveniencing you >: (

Also have had numerous coworkers ask if they're invited (they're not).

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Yikes! I wouldn't even know what to say to all of that! Hopefully your FH stood up to her!

1. I used to be super close with this one girl in highschool (we're not anymore), she's now friends with one of my BM's. When my mom sent my BM the shower invite, said girl saw and messaged me on fb asking where her's is. On top of that, she keeps saying she better get an invite to the wedding...funny thing is, we don't talk or hangout (without my BM) and my FH told me we need to invite her to the wedding so any future get together that she comes too won't cause any drama or awkwardness for me...and i really don't want her there

2. My FFIL asked me if kids were invited to the reception, I told him no (thinking he meant guests kids, immediate family kids are invited). He told me, that if his grandkids aren't going to be there, then neither is he...

The person we've been having the most trouble with is my FMIL. There have been countless incidents, but the most recent regarding invites is when she tried to manipulate a blank invitation. When FH pressed her, she admitted it was for her flavor-of-the-month boyfriend who FH hasn't even met (this was about 2 months ago and that's right, they aren't together anymore). He told her no and she went off on him ("is this what you want, or is it what SHE wants?"). He said it was his decision (and it was). But FH's dad (whom he adored) passed away 6 years ago and it kills him that his mom is now running around with all these randos. I'm finding sweet ways to honor his dad at the wedding, and even if FH had been neutral about it, there is no WAY I would let her prance around some stranger she met online in front of him at the wedding.
I'm still furious that she would even try to do that to him! 😡😡😡

View Quoted Comment Ha! I know my dad will be the same and the community mail box is on his front lawn!😂

Well this is more of a BM thing but I thought it was pretty rude...my friend and I are in each other's weddings and went to go buy our bridesmaid dresses this weekend. I was looking forward to something light and fun since planning has been very emotionally draining for me. So for her wedding she picked the dress and color (didn't ask anyone's budget) and asked us to go to a specific salon to order so we would get a group discount on these $300 dresses. Well her two friends decided to buy used dresses online but didn't tell her until after they bought and received the dresses. At the salon she started having a meltdown when she explained the situation to the consultant. Mind you the one friend offered to pay the 10% difference for the rest of the bridal party to make things right with the bride but she declined and wouldn't let it go....

I voiced my opinion that it's not that big a deal (there's obviously NOTHING she can do about it now and at least they have the dress) and that I didn't think a bride should dictate where BM buy their dresses from. My friend (and the consultant) jumped down my throat and she was basically yelling at me in the damn store about dress oxidation and dye lots. I was so pissed because I didn't do anything wrong - I was there buying the dang dress with no complaints! Luckily the consultant brought us a bottle of champagne to calm my friend down and it actually saved the visit. (And we ended up getting the discount anyway...)

So then it was time for her to try on dresses for my wedding - I told everyone a few loose guidelines and let them chose a color from a palette for there dresses and everyone got their first choice, including her. At the visit she was stressed about the color(dusty rose) because I said that blush was too light but there were plenty of other similar colors to dusty rose. Then she tried on 3 dresses and then said, "pick one - I really don't care..." SMH

My FMIL has given me a run for my money and we have 8 months still to go.

First, she started telling people they were invited BEFORE we even sent save the dates and then called to make sure we'd send them one! Then some of her other friends asked her if they were going to be invited to which she responds "I don't know, Jamie and Kyle are in charge of their list not me." Gahhhh. Making us look like the bad guys if we don't invite them. She also raised hell over wanting to invite 10 of her cousins. So yeah, our guest list went from 120 to 150 because of her side.

I also had a coworker who I was sort of friends with when I started my job 2 years ago. We haven't talked in months and on her last day she walked over to my desk and goes ..."so I'm still invited to your wedding, right?" .....she was never invited in the first place. I was so shocked she flat out asked me that I stumbled on my answer. Needless to say she's still not invited.

Our guest list seems to be the demon of this wedding. It grows over night. It's solid now, because save the dates went out already, but I still have people asking me if they get a plus one, if they can bring their friends, random people, etc.

We had a disastrous hotel block situation and so I have been calling them religiously to check on our block. One of my aunts had reserved two of the rooms so we assumed that she was coming but we just got her RSVP card back saying she will not be coming. I am so confused!

View Quoted Comment This part is what scares me! Paying "per person" and have no shows...

Fh’s sister in law had the nerve to ask if she could bring two more friends to our wedding. Mind you I never ever met the people in my life. Like seriously? She’s going to know people on Fh’s side of the family.

My cousin who has never been to a wedding before (he was 29 at the time) was super pumped when my DH and I got engaged. Wouldn't stop talking about the wedding and how excited he was. I called him about 2 weeks before invites went out to ask him his new address. He gave it to me and then started asking a bunch of questions about what to expect at the wedding. I told him we had a caterer, he could wear whatever he wanted, we would have booze and a DJ. He was like, "Wow, you have all that? Well you know I probably won't go because it's just not something I do." Umm...what? Ok I guess? He never did RSVP...

Following this thread. I’m pretty far from RSVPs, but I’m looking forward to the interesting responses.😬

One of my FH's friends, who is fairly close to, was hoping to be a groomsmen. However, we want a small wedding, like only a few groomsmen from family, so we kindly told him we wouldn't be having anyone outside the family as a bridal party member. Although he didn't say anything rude, but for the past year of engagement every time we see him he always brings up how "man, I wish I was a groomsmen".... SO ANNOYING

View Quoted Comment We're gonna send the STDs super early as well for a "destination" (out of state) wedding...do you think it has helped to send them out so early?

They are mad because I won’t we will not pay for plus ones if they are not married or engaged. Weddings are too expensive to pay for non committed relationships.

View Quoted Comment That’s actually pretty rude on your part. People can be in committed relationships without being married or engaged. I was with my H for 8 years before getting engaged.