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Sarah
Devoted June 2018

What is the rudest response you've received from guests?

Sarah, on May 7, 2018 at 5:13 PM

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All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received? I have two...

All the stress, laughs, cries, to-do lists, and decor aside, one thing I've noticed during wedding planning is people's etiquette (or lack-there-of) when it comes to being invited to a wedding or celebratory event. What's the rudest/funniest/most unbelievable responses you've received?

I have two that come to mind:
1. A friend of mine didn't turn her RSVP in by the deadline. No biggie. I reached out and asked if she and her boyfriend were coming. Her response? "Possibly! Not sure yet." ... Ok. Asked her when she would know by, as we needed to let vendors know for their headcount purposes. Her response "I don't know, but vendors are usually pretty flexible about that stuff." Oh, really then? She did the same thing yesterday when I texted to ask if she was planning on attending my bridal shower next weekend that my MOH is throwing and privately reached out to her about. Same response: "event planners are usually flexible if you tell the that someone is 'iffy.'" Nevermind that my MOH is paying for a meal for her!

2. Had a family friend of FH return their RSVP with a paragraph written on the back that they would not be coming on account of their 11-year-old son and that we were not allowing children. We were both shocked that they went out of their way to complain about it!

Tell me your funniest/most shocking/rude responses to give me a laugh! Lord knows I need it Smiley laugh

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  • S
    Devoted November 2018
    shante ·
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    Wow! I would have gone off. You are a lot more patient than I am.
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  • S
    Devoted November 2018
    shante ·
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    Lol she was bold to say the least
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  • Katie
    Master October 2016
    Katie ·
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    My DH and I were together for 4 years before we were engaged... but we were definitely not committed *Sarcasm*.

    **Your guests had a right to be upset. A plus one is for a truly single guest. Meaning they are not in a relationship with someone. If you invite someone to your wedding to celebrate your love and marriage perhaps you should have been considerate of their relationship too. Just sayin'.

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  • S
    Devoted November 2018
    shante ·
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    Lol this was hilarious
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  • DC
    Super May 2018
    DC ·
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    1. (week of the wedding) "What time is the wedding?"
    Um did you not get an invitation and link to a website with all info on it?
    "I lost the invitation."
    2. (week of the wedding) "Is it too late for these two people to come. They really want to."
    3. (last week) "I know reservations are in but can i bring a date?"
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    Dedicated March 2019
    Heidi ·
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    For real!! I’m getting ready to send the STD out and there are sooooo many work people acting like they are going to be invited because they noticed my engagement ring 🙄
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    Dedicated August 2018
    Sondra ·
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    I had people complain that mine was on a Sunday too. I politely told them that was our 12 year anniversary and there response is normally, "Oh, well then. I guess it has to be a Sunday then..."
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    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Have not gotten any RSVP like these yet but wait to see what we get. Smiley xd
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  • Katie
    Expert March 2018
    Katie ·
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    We had a family friend who swore up and down her and her party of 4 were coming. The day of the wedding my MIL calls me and lets me know that this womans “flight was canceled” umm ok well we were out of $1,000 because we had already paid for our guest count, still had a great time at our wedding. I say if thats the response of guest 1 she is probably not coming
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  • M
    Dedicated November 2018
    Megan ·
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    I would tell your friend that since your need a firm answer you will have to miss her at the events since your vendors need hard numbers. When she balks, tell her that you will miss her however since you are spending $100 a plate you will enjoy the money instead of a non eaten meal. I know that sounds snippy but how rude and inconsiderate is it to think that a wedding or bridal
    shower is inexpensive and a meal can just appear out of thin air.
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  • Nick & Joi
    Expert May 2018
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    Oh god im hoping this doesnt happen next week

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  • Nick & Joi
    Expert May 2018
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    Ok your friend needs to get it together, its rude and its not right when you are paying per head. The nerve of people.

    Ok here are a few things I went through....FMIL - Tells me 2 months after the engagement, "oh sorry i didnt call sooner to congratulate you but i dont care about what other people have going on when i have my own life" My jaw just dropped...

    I sent 70 invites, 65 rsvp backs, 1 decline and nothing from the other 4. I texted my friend to follow up and she said oh i lost the invite, guess i cant make it. I just left it there. The other couple I texted and left a vmail and never heard back. Final count went in this morning.

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    Savvy May 2018
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    A girlfriend of mine sent me this long sob story about how she was shocked and really hurt that I didn't ask her to be in my bridal party. My bridal party is my sister, my best friend of 17 years and best friend of 10 years.....Ive been friends with this girl 3 years. She text me last week with this....So ugh I'm glad I didnt ask since you obviously cant make it.

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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Hahaha I really wish I had responded with that! Just found out today that this same guest who kept bringing up flexibility is not coming to my bridal shower or bachelorette this weekend because, although she claimed she was too broke to do anything, she’s taking her boyfriend out of town this weekend to cheer him up from something. Not surprised in the slightest lol.

    wow, your experiences are ridiculous!!! I have two bridesmaids who are in my wedding without their husband and boyfriend, and they’re not jealous! That’s just normal! Dang.

    And wow, crazy your friend snapped like that! I love it when my bridesmaids plan amongst themselves, makes my life so much easier! So sorry to hear that Smiley sad I can’t believe she kicked you out for that.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Lol I’m dealing with something so similar! An old friend of mine kept telling me “don’t get marrried June 23!” Because her “other friends” were getting married that day. Needless to say, I didn’t make her a bridesmaid if she couldn’t come. Her friends ended up changing their wedding date and I was happy to hear that so she could attend the wedding - well apparently she all of a sudden had a boat trip that’s going on during that time... interesting! Only to find out she made a comment to someone how she was a bit surprised she wasn’t included. A lose-lose situation!
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  • Sarah
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    Sarah ·
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    Right?! Just the audacity of that alone is frustrating. Not so surprisingly, she “all of a sudden” can’t make it to the bridal shower or bachelorette party because she “forgot” and told her boyfriend she would take him out of town this weekend, despite her telling me she couldn’t attend the festivities because she’s broke... I told her no worries, I already had counted her as a no lol
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  • Sarah
    Devoted June 2018
    Sarah ·
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    Omg your FMIL said that?! Idk how I would respond. Wow. I’m so sorry!
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    I'm doing a wedding and reception where I currently live because it's essentially halfway between my family and his family then doing a reception in my hometown for my friends and family because we're only inviting a couple friends and close family to the wedding.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Wow, my mom and stepdad were together for 10 years and owned a home together for 8 years before getting married. I didn't realize that a ring dictated your level of commitment.

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  • danilaughs
    Expert August 2018
    danilaughs ·
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    My workplace is super casual — I’m in jeans and a T-shirt most of the time. I dressed up in a skirt and blouse a few weeks ago because I had several dressier work meetings, and my coworker saw me and commented “oh wow, maybe you’re really getting married after all!” E-%+£$ing-XCUSE ME?!?!?
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