what is wrong with People!?

That is so frustrating indeed! People just don’t realize how much trouble we go thru in planning

Yes, it's frustrating. Take deep breaths.

Ugh it’s the worst! We had such a terrible time having people RSVP and book for our international destination wedding which ended up being cancelled!!! 😂 I still am upset at those people. (Not really, but they’re rude.) The few last guests who kept saying they were coming but never RSVPed or booked- I’m like we have to pay $175/person and didn’t want to pay for people who weren’t going to actually book! I would not save a spot for them if they didn’t RSVP, but this is my experience after planning 2 weddings! 💗

Contact them again and tell them you need a definite answer by tomorrow night, and if they haven’t given you one by then, you’ll be counting them as a no. As for your FIL, your fiancé needs to tell him that his invitee isn’t invited and won’t be permitted into the reception, and that it’s on FIL to tell them that.

I feel you!

We got married last year, and I have family members who still haven't contacted us at all! (There's a bit more to that story, but still.)

Honestly, you have to give them an ultimatum. "If you do not tell me yes by Monday, we will not reserve a seat for you."

Definitely frustrating. I would give them another date and let them know whoever doesn’t rsvp will not be able to attend anymore

I am totally with you! I’m getting married two weeks from tomorrow and we STILL don’t have all our RSVPs back. It’s so frustrating!

Its the worst!!!!!!!!! We had people RSVP and then not show or cancel the week of! It's stressful, but when your wedding day comes it won't matter its just a pain leading up to it.

I agree with the others- give them a limit & if they don’t respond let them know they’re won’t be a seat for them.

This is one of the main reasons I decided to have a destination wedding. Our all inclusive resort requires that the guess fully pay of their rooms 3 months before the wedding. I informed our guess that its 4 months before the wedding, just to give the slackers and last minute people an entire extra month to pay on their room. We still plan to send our guess an official RSVP, but we are using the rooms as an unofficial RSVP. I'll final head count will be based off of the amount of rooms booked, since you have to inform the resort how many individuals are staying in a room together.

I sent out the RSVPs back in March and had a two month deadline for their answers. Only a few actually responded back. I sent out a scripted letter to the rest during August about the covid restrictions and that if they hadn't replied within 48hours of receiving the letter, then I would take it as a no. Obviously worded better than I just did. It's covid and a lot of people aren't going to risk coming so I get that. We got a few people call ahead and tell us that they were coming. So we finally have a final guest count. Sent the invites early September that included the covid information and rules (we're having thermal check ins and giving them face shields and hand sanitizer upon entry).
I like to be reasonable but for me personally, it was so frustrating that people couldn't RSVP in time, especially since we had to prep with table rentals and all.