What NOT to do at/for your wedding (Spinoff from Cheapskate Nik's Post)

Don't have your maid of honor, father, mother and very close family friend toast you at the wedding, while your husband's BM (that's actually your sister's husband, because you wouldn't let him pick his own BM) is the only one who speak for him. Also, don't have that many toasts. It's long and boring.

Do not spend so much time getting photographs done all over the place that you miss half of your reception, and have to have the "first dance" when people have already been dancing for an hour.

Don't get caught up in drama - It's your wedding day and if your cousin starts fighting with Aunt Bertha - Find someone to kindly ask them to leave.

Make sure you assign someone BEFORE the wedding day to take things down, transport, your gifts, etc so you aren't trying to do it in your wedding dress.

Don't purposefully spill wine on the girl that decided to wear white to your wedding...

... you might accidently get it on your own dress

Don't have an exceptionally long ceremony that ends up boring your guests. Seriously, I've never heard of anyone complain about a ceremony being too short, but I have heard plenty about the opposite...

While it's awesome that you want to stand up there for two hours saying your vows and having this elaborate show of love between you and your future spouse, keep in mind that people don't enjoy tediously long ceremonies whether they be for an award, graduation, or wedding. The only way this is forgivable is if you are literally offering some sort of amazing show to your guests as a part of the ceremony (we're talking like the MTV music video awards here....and even those can get a bit long...)

@Ashley P. we are date twins!!

Do make sure if you have an open bar, they card people. We had an 19 yr old get served.

-Do not send a RSVP card with choices of meals then at the reception allow the wait staff to let people choose what they want. My sister request one meal on her card but by the time they got to our table, they were out. Apparently, people from the front of the room changed their minds and got the back of the rooms food. Lovely.

-Please don't make the kids wait longer than the adults to eat. Those sad eyes, watching you enjoy your food as they starve. Fantastic.

*Peacock*TheStripper * lmao at your wine comment! haha

don't have your 'real' ceremony for immediate family only, and only invite SOME of the family, (and not arrange for seating for your outdoor wedding, so your guests have to scramble and steal benches from here and there...)and then have another random ceremony once everyone gets into the reception hall.. and THEN make everyone leave and re-enter so you can have you receiving line... are you guys confused? because I was...

don't have everything timed right to the last second (and post said timeline as part of the centrepiece) .. your guests will NOT feel like guests, but extras in a lame as movie production...

thats what it was... a lame ass production... *siiiigh*

LOL this is a funny post....

Lol @ the posts against portapotties. Sorry ladies, but if you had an outdoor wedding/reception here in AK, no one would look differently at the portapotties, especially if you were out of any of the cities

For someone who has not been to a whole lot of weddings, I really appreciate these posts. It makes me wish I had been to more weddings.

I was a flower girl in my aunt's wedding, when I was like 8, which did not last, but I really don't remember it much. It was a small thing in the backyard of my parents house. I was also a bridesmaid at age 13 in my grandma's second wedding, like 2 yrs after we lost my grandpa. It was fun. & I tagged along with my mom once to a small church wedding for a coworker of hers. other than that, no weddings. I know when a cousin got married some years back, she invited only my parents, and I was pretty bummed about that, and a daughter of my grandma's friend had a big wedding a few years back, and apparently, it was a 'no kids' wedding. I was like 16 or so, and pretty bummed about that too. I was 16 like 7 years ago but it doesn't feel that long ago.

@Pumpkin - For the longest time, my Mom had always told me that if I wanted her to pay for the wedding, that I would HAVE to have a polka band. Luckily when I got engaged, I told her we could play some polka music (from my Grandfather's band) but the rest would be mine and FH's choice. She is ok with that now. Thank goodness!

I agree with whomever said that the Bride and Groom need to say hi to everyone. I hate going to a wedding and only briefly seeing the couple....as we are leaving the reception.

-Have enough seats for everyone at the ceremony. Even it is only 20 minutes, standing in the sand is unpleasant and awkward, as is having to sit on the radiator.

-Receiving lines are awful, but the bride and grom (minimally, parents should too) need to greet each guest throughout the evening.

-Take a few minutes after the ceremony for just you and your new spouce to bask in matrimony. But just a few minutes, and try to sneak in some water and food because you probably won't get too much at the reception.

-Don't ask people traveling for the wedding to set up the hall for the reception, babysit the MOH child the day of and help break down the hall. (especially if they are the only ones 'assigned')

-Make sure there are enough bathroom stalls for everyone, you don't want guests wasting time in line for one.

-Don't get drunk.

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Don't brag to your florist about your heirloom cake and knife set for months and then 2 days before the Wedding hand her a stainless steel butterknife and pie server with "spots" of wear on them..

If your florist points out something 3 or 4 times and ask if you would like that changed..take the hint and ask her what she thinks.

Never ask a silk florist to "shellac my flowers, so they will last forever"..

If you have never seen it or heard of it being done, there might be a reason..do your homework.

If a friend is kind enough to DYI every last detail of your decor/flowers/cake, please be considerate of her time and do not hand her heirloom Irish Crystal Vases for the Event covered in dead leaves and "things". Wash them first, please.

When ordering items, if you see it for $32 in a small size and ask for a larger size, please do not be upset when your request for 12 can not be accomidated for $120 for all, of the larger size.

Pointsettas, roses, mums, honeysuckle vine,

Do figure out what pictures you NEED before the wedding and let the photographer know. So that they have a plan of what they will shoot. DONT make your bridesmaids bustle and rebustle your train for pictures... leaving bride, groom, and bridal party missing 75% of the wedding.

Do have uncles/distant relatives who want a role in the wedding keep an eye out for rambunctious drunks who may ruin photo-ops and the wedding entirely. Another good job for them? Do make sure someone is watching to make sure people don't steal centerpieces that are rented ... (I've seen it happen)

Dont... whatever you do... DONT... allow anyone (cheap people) to fill children's bottles with alcohol (for safe keeping) ... Toddlers should NOT be drinking. At least 5 kids got drunk. The dancing can be amusing... effects of alcohol for a child... not so much!(Worst wedding ever)

@Subi-- OMG that happened, alcohol in bottles?!? WOAAH. WTH! yikes!

Pointsettas, roses, mums, honeysuckle vine (in tiny figure 8's) shafts of wheat and carnations are not the best floral pallet...

Wear what makes you happy, however if you are in Ohio and doing an Autumn theme, please leave the cotton two piece shirt and skirt in khacki with bright orange and torquoise hybiscus flowers and palm leaves at home and wear anything else.

Unless you wish to be tourtuored for 20 years, do not insist on baby pink ties and cummberbunds..trust me on that one...

All true..

-Do make sure that you provided plenty of food in your cocktail hour if you're going to make your guests wait a long time for dinner.

-Do make sure that your venue has a plan for snow removal if you have a winter wedding...You do not need for your 85 year Grandma to slip and break a hip

-Do not stick to only one kind of music at your reception....it gets a little irritating especially with rap and country

-Do not leave until you have greeted and spoke to each guest! It's not acceptable, it's rude to ignore your guests.

-Do not forget to tip your vendors, or please tip them before you start drinking that night.

Not that I really expect anyone to fill baby bottles with alcohol, but these posts are helpful! (And also shows some of the extreme selfishness of some brides)

-Do not let your caterer pour the champagne for the toast before you get to the venue. They got stuck in traffic for over an hour and it was all flat and warm by the time we toasted!

-Do not let your mother wear a brand new wedding dress on YOUR wedding day. It was all anyone talked about.

-If you want to have a lot of speeches/special dances, spread them out so your guests aren't starving.