What should the Groomsmen do on the day of the wedding??

My suggestion was gonna be golf.

What about brunch? Maybe you could look into that option and he and the boys could have a nice meal and a cocktail (if you allow).

I love the idea of a brunch somewhere. We are doing one while getting ready so they should have one too. I just need to fill up their time until 5:00 pm lol.

Are you using a limo that day? They might need to play musical cars and get some cars to the hall or hotel so you have some way to get home after the wedding.

Also, I would try to do as many pictures before the ceremony as possible. That way you have less to do after, and you can get to the hall faster. Do all your bridal shots, and your shots with your BM, and with the Groomsmen, flowergirl, RB.. etc. Invite your parents and siblings to come over to the house/hotel/church that you are getting ready at so that you can get some family shots done before the ceremony too. Same with the groom. Have him get all of his group and family shots done before the ceremony. that way after the ceremony you only need a few family shots at the alter, wedding party shot, and the Married Couple.

I agree with HayleyC, you will be amazed how much time you really DON'T have! If they are early risers, they may want to hold the day for wedding related activities. We are getting married at 4P and they are doing a golf outing the DAY BEFORE (we're doing a tea). The day of will be eating, getting cars to the venue, hair cuts, shaves, getting dressed and pictures! I would try to not put in too much that day. You may not want to tempt Murphy's Law.

My groomsmen are going to get me wasted the night before my wedding I have no doubt (it's become a tradition among my group of friends) so we will all be recovering that morning and sleeping in!

DH ran a few errands that day, but mostly they just relaxed, got changed, and grabbed a football to reenact this wonderful scene:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjgPYaCr6so

FH and the boys have their normal routine of soccer every sunday and a few weeks ago that's what he said he'll be doing the morning of the wedding or he might go play voleyball with them by the beach since we plan to stay at a hotel by the beach, we'll see

What do the boys like to do? My boys are playing golf all morning because my FH loves golf and he is really really good lol. But if that's not your guys thing find out what is.

I'd give them the day to themselves. Just have them meet at the ceremony venue about an hour before the ceremony if you aren't doing pictures beforehand. Let them spend the day with their own families and taking care of their own personal lives.

But who are we kidding... The guys will have to go pick up their tuxes that morning, get haircuts. Assuming they don't get out of bed until noon (like many men)- there goes the whole afternoon!

@Glenn- the whole getting wasted thing is super uncool! You can go out and drink, but you really shouldn't be hungover. It may just be me, but I see that is pretty damn disrespectful to your bride. She has worked her ass off for months planning this wedding, is spending all morning making sure everything is perfect and getting ready, and you're praying to the porcelain god...

@Meghan I have spent as much time planning the wedding as she has. Also, I never get hang overs no matter how much I drink. I will do my best to avoid it but I know my friends and I know how it's going to go so I'm realistic about it!

Nothing like picking peer pressure over your bride! Congrats

To be fair, I woke up on my wedding day with a hangover. That's what happens when your rehearsal dinner starts an hour late, and the restaurant placates you with red wine. Luckily I rallied well before the wedding.

But if DH had gone out til all hours the night before the wedding, and drank himself stupid because of some stupid guy tradition? I'd feel disrespected and upset.

I agree with the brunch! Also maybe, well even though it'd be early possibly, well for you no, maybe they can have ONE (lol) cocktail as a lil bonding thing some point before the ceremony, if they smoke cigars then that too (I dunno cigars seem like a cool guy thing haha, my FH doesn't smoke tho but I've heard of guys doing that before).

Not trying to start a fight but not sure how I'm disrespecting her? The wedding isn't until 4 so what's wrong if I sleep in after a night out with my buddies? What's worse actually, getting up super early to go play golf, being tired from that, rushing to get showered and dressed and to the venue and then being tired all day or sleeping in (remember, I don't get hangovers no matter how much I drink)?

In all seriousness though, I would suggest that you left your FH and his buddies plan something for that morning and I would also suggest that it be something low key that won't take a lot of energy as the wedding day is a long day and going to require lots of energy.

@Glenn - it's disrespectful because it's the night before your wedding, and your focus should be on your bride, not all your booze buddies.

I'm sure there are grooms who party and stay up late the night before the wedding, and are right as rain the next day. On the other hand, from what I've seen it's far, far more common for the groom to be a bit green, woozy and tired the next day, and no help whatsoever with all the last minute errands that come up.

I'm still trying to understand it though, if I'm not with her because she's out partying with her friends how am I supposed to focus on her the night before the wedding?

@Glenn, my take on it is, if your bride is fine with it and there aren't any crazy bachelor party type antics (which I'm guessing there wouldn't be) I don't see the problem..as long as you don't get to the point of getting sick that's fine and are not hungover..drink plenty of water after and pop some aspirin before bed.. I think being honest with your bride is key..Everyone has different traditions and what not, heck it's your last day as a single man, and I don't think we need to be judging you for that. jmo.

@Glenn I think if you and your bride have made seperate plans which include boozin than go with your plans. Its just as much your wedding as it is hers. I would just suggest not being totally smashed for the ceremony but from what you said you won't be. So go out and enjoy your last night as a single man with your buddies as long as its ok with your bride.

My FH has agreed to be standing by the morning off for last minute errands. For the most part, he's going to be able to sleep in and just rest.

And he and guys are going out the night before. They'll share a bottle of scotch and have a cigar. They're even going to do it at our venue on their patio. But if he was hungover, I'd be pissed! Being hungover isn't just about feeling bad- you look bad! We're spending too much on pictures for him to have bloodshot/pufffy eyes, etc.

FH knows the 'rules'. I want him to be on time, look spiffy and not have the urge to hurl...other than that....he can do what he wants. But knowing us...he will be running errands....i love that man!