What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

We will not have any burlap at the wedding, I just don't like it and as someone else mentioned, it's all over the wedding section lately, it's just not for me!!

Also, we won't be having a first look, we both want the first time he see's me to be as I'm walking down the isle towards him!! I've decided to do a "first look" type thing with the wedding party, as we will be taking all pics we can that don't involve the groom before the ceremony, that way we can still save a little time in pics before the ceremony but it won't involve the groom having to see me before the ceremony!!

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Agreed. No BBQ!!!!!!!!

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I've never even heard of any of those things lol

As a couple we both decided against a photo booth because we thought it takes away from the evening. We know it is a big hit with younger children so we have decided to set up a kids table with activities and glow sticks to help offset not having a photo booth.

Burlap, baby’s breath or mason jars

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Omg THANK YOU for mentioning the obeying thing. I never even thought about that. But it's definitely something I am completely against so that's a great one to bring up with the officiant!

For me, I refuse to have people in JEANS at our wedding. He's from Iowa (we're getting married in CO) and I've seen people attend weddings in jeans, tennis shoes, sweatpants, etc. and that will NOT be tolerated lol I will kick them out myself!

Also, no bbq - it's messy. I went to a friend's wedding and got bbq sauce all over my top and it was NOT cute.

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How did you manage to tell your guests no kids at the wedding? will it be a specific age that aren't allowed? Did you specify in the invitation/website? We want to do the same - sorry to parents out there! - because I really want this to be fun for everyone, not a chore for the parents! Did you provide childcare options around the area as well?

View Quoted Comment People should know that the only people invited are the ones named on the envelope. We aren’t allowing anyone under 18. I think some people list this kind of thing on their website, but we didn’t. My fiancé’s side is providing childcare bc their family has a lot of small children. But I’m not providing anything for my side. People can figure it out! Don’t feel bad about not wanting kids at your wedding. It’s your day! You aren’t responsible for them. Have fun!

No garter toss, no cash bar and I know I'm in the minority here, but absolutely no rustic anything.

View Quoted Comment We’re banning those too! As well as Sweet Caroline and Bruno Mars lol

View Quoted Comment Yes! The Cake Face Smash was the 1st thing My Partner, & I have agreed on.

We understand, & Love the Idea of the “WCT Photo”

”WCT Photo” is the Photo that’s taken of Person 1, & Person 2 feeding each other a Piece of their Wedding Cake.

What We DON’T UNDERSTAND is the Reasons of why People have a Cake Smash to the Face. It’s a “TCP”!

“TCP” Means: TackyCakePhoto We don’t know HOW that was Created.

It’s really Ridiculous! We think that Whoever created the “TCP” SHOULD be Shot multiple Times, & Buried.

We Do NOT understand it at all!
We mean, tell US if this is right, ok?

1st: You, & Yours try various Flavors of Cake that You will be serving at Your Wedding.

2nd: You, & Yours pick the Design, Frosting/Fondant Color(s), & Possible Signage for the Cake.

3rd: You, & Yours Cut your Cake to feed each other as the Photographer takes Pictures. All that does make sense to US.

then, to Be Funny, We guess, one of You decides to smash, or “miss” your Partner’s mouth as they are trying to take a bite out of the piece your feeding to them, & it ends up anywhere EXCEPT where they wanted it to go! We go, a “TCP”!

It’s like: Person 1: (tastes Cake )
Person 1 says: Oh, this Cake is good.

Person 2 says: It is? Oh, I want to taste it.

Person 1 says: Ok, here you are, dear. ( takes a piece of Cake. ) ( places piece in front of Person 2 )

Person 2: ( moves close to Eat piece/take a bite of cake. )

Person 1: ( Quickly smashes piece of Cake into Person 2’s Mouth/Face. )

which Photographer takes a Snapshot of.

We are going to tell you from experience of all the weddings that We have attended.

Most of of the Time, it wasn’t planned for Person 1 to do the Cake Face Smash to Person 2.

Half the time a Relative said something to them, & they thought it would be Funny to do it.

the other half of the Time, Person 1 thought Person 2 was going to take a good bite of Cake, not practically the WHOLE piece of cake. In that case, what happens is When Person 2 does this, Person 1 has been startled, their hand “jolts” which moves the rest of that piece of cake, & it ends up being “smashed” onto the Person’s Face.

In in both cases, If You Have People taking Pictures during that time, Someone is Guaranteed to take the “TCP”!

How do We change this?

There are two alternatives.

1. Person 1., & Person 2 use a Fork to take a nice “bite” of each Piece of Cake, then feed it to each other.

2. Person 1, & Person 2 having Cupcakes as their “WCT Photo”

View Quoted Comment My Partner, & I are really thinking about Not Letting Anyone call US Bride/Groom, or Mrs.,&Mr.

So far, We really like the Idea of being Each other’s Partner. If we do this, We understand that the Only way we would be Mr., & Mrs. is on the Paperwork.
Which we are ok with.

If We decide to call each other Partner, our Friends, & Family will too.

We already have the Pastors, Ministers, & Clergy in mind that we want to have.

they have all expressed to us that they have no Problem using the word Partner for US.

there’s 3 ways that we can do this.

1. Partners, You May now kiss.

2. Partner M, you may now kiss Partner C.

3. Partner C., You May now kiss Partner M.

The Ministers, Pastors, & Clergy are ok with US asking them to NOT use the Following words during Our Wedding.

Let US Pray, Spirit/Spiritual/Spirituality, God, Faith, Holiness, Lord, Pure, Holy, Christ, Church, Etc.


You would think with an exclusion of these words that there wouldn’t be much left to do.

Though there still is a great amount left for them to use.

Also the Obey thing. Our Ministers, Pastors, & Clergy are ok with US not using that phrase or wording in the Vows, or any other time during our Wedding.

We only refuse certain artists during the recetion. FH hate Nicki Minaj and Cardi B. He made it very clear to our DJ that they cannot be played.

Bouquet and garter toss. As someone in the wedding industry, these always slow down the flow of the evening and are sometimes awkward. I'd rather spend that time dancing and partying.

Ohh.. so many, I am a picky one and he is too haha.
No plus ones, we want a small wedding with ONLY people we know and love a lot, I did invite some uncles and aunts I barely know for my parents though, other than that no exceptions.
No garter anything, I find that degrading and no something appropriate for a wedding, why is that even a thing?
No rap, hate it. No cursing or sexual music whatsoever.
No alcohol, his family drinks, he doesn’t at all and neither do it, my family is against it.
No cameras (besides the photographer and my mom/his mom).
No cake in the face, we can save that for after when I change into a different dress and do it with a cupcake or something. I get nervous imagining it getting on my dress or ruining my makeup.
No club dancing or inappropriate dancing of any sort, (whyyy do people do that at weddings??).
No speeches by me lol I am not good at being the center of attention, I’m already super nervous about everything else I’m not adding that to the list.
No bad vibes, my family will literally tell someone to leave if they’re disrespectful (my fam has no chill) lol, but seriously some of his family is like completely against me (because I don’t drink or smoke or party and they don’t like that I don’t accept it or think their inappropriate relationships and jokes are funny) (that’s not all of his family though, some are understanding and sweet).
No jokes about running away, I hate it when people ask me if I want to run away or need a get away car, like I get it’s a joke but I don’t find it funny. I make that very obvious to, by not laughing. I think it’s rude. I’d prefer a “I wish you a happy marriage “ over a “hey you need a getaway car so you can haul a**?! It’s not too late to change your mind” like please just stop🛑 ✋

okay i think thats most most of it, yeah I’m picky lol. My dream wedding is pure, religious, intimate, sweet, quite and simple.

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No:
Kids under the age of 13
Open bar/wine and beer- only cash bar
Plated dinner (yay for buffet!)
BBQ
Real flowers (except for only in the glass cylinders in water)- budget and fiance's horrible allergies
Photobooth
Religion in ceremony or at all, both of us are completely nonreligious
NO CORN!!!! I HATE CORN WITH A FIERY PASSION!! (much to everyone else's amusement and teasing)
Glitter or bedazzled crud
Backdrop canvas my mom wants to do
All the nice but waaay too expensive ideas my mom has
All the completely insane ideas my mom has

Also not getting a whole new ring for my wedding ring, I absolutely love my engagement ring and how unique it is. I don't want a different one, he did an awesome enough job with this one♥️

View Quoted Comment High five for the no rap and no cake in the face 🙌

I also have a VERY similar issue between me and my family and his side of the family, he is so unlike them its crazy. I don't need to get totally smashed at EVERY little party, a kid's party and easter included, to have fun. If I don't want a drink don't force it down my throat or demand to know if pregnancy is the reason! Its one of my fears for the day of: his drunk family members jumping on my nondrinking family members. Its what they do DX

View Quoted Comment Your list sounds just like ours! Except we are inviting everyone out to the dance floor and both tossing our bouquets and whoever catches them will have good luck!