What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

View Quoted Comment Aghhh! That stinks!
My mom and dad use to party and drink when I was a baby, but then my brother died and they both stopped and hated it all after that because they wished they’d spent more time with him etc,. (It was a wreck, no drinking involved just a lot of rain and a curve). My dad literally forbids it in his house or on his yard, he wont even let my mom go to events with alcoholic beverages, I got that from him I guess, my fiancé and his family are literally night and day. They’re partying, have new relationships every month, dramatic, drug-involved, etc,. And he doesn’t drink or smoke or party or anything close to it. It makes me so mad when they try to make him. Good thing is he don’t care what they think he’ll be like “Pretty sure I just said no thanks, do not ask me again.” LOL

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I do like the good luck bouquet toss. That is sweet. We're having a bachelorette party of sorts and she's decided we'll both toss garters for luck.

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry for you loss, I know it was a long time ago but still. I can't imagine what that must of been like but I can understand the change. My mom will have one drink once in a great while and I think I have only ever seen my dad have one drink like 3 or 4 times in my lifetime, he might have one small sip of my mother's but that's it. He dislikes drinking because he had an alcoholic uncle growing up and saw what someone like that can do to a family. I've seen my cousins get drunk, one time my eldest cousin got so drunk she was crawling on her hands and knees and she had a young infant someone else had to take care of obviously. I was still in high school and it was horrible and made me mad. I have been buzzed and tipsy but never drunk, one drink socially once in a while and I'm fine. When I turned 21 my dad was a little overprotective about it worried I would become like his uncle and he still dislikes when I have one drink but he needs to understand I'm responsible with it.

My fiance's family is totally opposite too. My first time ever meeting these people they were so drunk that they were giving us a sex talk and advice. They also grabbed the biggest cup on the property they could find and made me some gross extremely strong drink after I refused shots of tequila over and over. There's always shots of tequila at their parties, doesn't matter if its 10am. There's always at least five new babies too every time..some of these kids are never watched, hence why we are having no kids at the wedding. I've only seen these people 3 times in the nearly 4 years together and I'm sure they dislike it and want me around much more but I don't like being around them because of the drinking, trying to force me to drink, and how they act once drunk. I'm lucky my fiance doesn't drink, smoke, etc as well but they don't try to make him drink..they only try to force me and he stands up for me too but they just laugh it off. Once we're married they'll probably expect me to be there for everything, his mom especially, but I have my own issues with her too. At first I wondered why my fiance never had much of a relationship with his immediette and extended family, I found out pretty quickly why.

View Quoted Comment We ( My Partner, & I ) agree with the Choice of Not having something at Our Bridal Shower/Wedding/Reception just because it’s “the Season for it”! We don’t know about excluding the Cha-Cha Slide, or Cupid Shuffle Though. Those are some of My SD’s ( Service Dog’s ) Favorite Dances?

It’s like She really likes these Songs!

Any Time we are at a Party or Wedding where My She hears either Song, There’s a certain way She seems to Ask me to Dance. She’ll give Me a Smile, & Woof while wagging her Tail! )

We got Curious. We thought: What would happen if We didn’t Dance? How would My SD react? We tried it out. Here’s what happened:

If I stay seated after My SD gave me her way of asking me to Dance. She then walked over to my Partner.

My SD smiled at My Partner, & Woofed while wagging her tail. If My Partner stayed in their seat.
After which, My SD walked over to My Dad, sat beside him, & Placed her chin on his leg. He looked at Her. He asked her: What is it? My SD looked at him, gives him a Big Smile, Placed her Paws on both of his legs, She Woofs, & wagging her tail. He asks her if she wants to Dance. She stands back on all fours, & waits for him to stand then they go to the dance floor to dance. My SD is so happy!!!

View Quoted Comment We agree with the Burlap.

We have a bit of it in most of the Stores ( Wedding, & Multi Type Stores) while visiting/Living inside some cities of the following States: Florida, South Carolina, North Carolina, Tennessee, Georgia, & Virginia.

No cha cha slide / cupid shuffle / SHOUT! / BrickHouse songs....

No children, no exceptions

No champagne toast for bride and groom, we will be toasting with whiskey (Jack Daniel's Sinatra)

No garter or bouquet toss

No religious ties / mentions, no prayer, no communion, no unity ceremony

No tables being called to go eat, just eat as youd like when you like... different food stands instead

We have been guests at a TON of weddings and most important to us was making this wedding a reflection of who we are as a couple and making it a damn fun time.

To resolve a lot of the issues we see at weddings
- fun and sentimental music for the ceremony (non traditional) even have a friend playing music live.
- friends standing up are girls and guys not dependent on "sides" (ie : I have a man if honor)
- we wrote our own vows and have a close friend marrying us who wrote the ceremony specific to us.... not an hour to pontificate about religious scripture/ traditions
- casual food set up / 3open bars / welcome bar (grab white, grab a drink, grab a dance and repeat)

No organized group dances, cha cha slide etc etc etc and absolutely no drama!

View Quoted Comment Awesome!! Have so much fun!!

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Hopefully the entire rustic theme is over!

View Quoted Comment My wedding is 10/2/2020 and I agree with the whole pumpkin thing for fall weddings! I’m just trying to not be a bride when it’s 100 degrees out! I’m definitely not focusing on what the season is rather then how I want MY wedding. Remember it’s your wedding and it’s okay to have bright colors whatever the season!

Any choreographed dance, bouquet toss, garter retrieval and toss

I refuse to pay for people's alcohol I'm not a drinker at all really I might have a glass of wine or two that's about it. We may not even go that route anyways unless our folks will be paying for the alcohol.

Probably other stuff we will not be doing but I can't think it's too early in the morning for me😂

We wont be having a dollar dance or bouquet/garter toss. FH and I said no to those out the gate.

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Hahaha great reasoning! I am not doing it because everyone there is married basically, anyone who isn't is sort of young, or there would only be one or two people #awkward!

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Agreed! I feel like the "dollar dance" is tacky, and not something you see too often anymore.

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I let the temperature dictate my date too. I do not want to be a sweaty mess on that day!

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Cheers to your plan lady!

No dollar dance for me although my mom really wants one lol

No bouquet or garter toss, no smashing cake in each other's faces, most line dances are banned (but I love YMCA; it's a sentimental thing), no mason jars, burlap, unity anything, floral centerpieces, no Beyonce, Jay-Z, rap, no signature cocktails or champagne, photo booths, donut walls, candy bars, or anything else you might find on Pinterest. I will be 54 on my wedding day, BTW, so if I sound like an old fogey, that's why. What we will have is fun, family, dancing, and a lot of love.

Both my fiancé and I are VERY uninterested in having the garter toss...

Everything about it makes me uncomfortable hahaha