What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

I’ve never heard of vows including “obey” in them. Could be because every wedding I’ve attended the woman is very independent as is, but still that’s never occurred to me. As for me I absolutely want all the corny cliche dances and activities. Aside from the cake smash I’m super picky about nasty substances near my pores. The only refusal I have is certain people who are married into my family will NOT be allowed anywhere near my wedding.

No cake smashing, no garter, definitely no obey!!!!!!!!

For us there will be no “Giving Away” the bride and I’ve decided to walk myself down the isle. In this day in age, I don’t need anyones permission to marry my fiancé. Not everyone will understand my choice, but I’m great with starting a new tradition. We’re not having burlap at our wedding either. We’re going for a rustic not country vibe. Although I love the bouquet and garter toss, we won’t be having it. The thought of my fiancé exposing that side of our relationship and my legs to my family, especially my grandmother is so embarrassing... On a side note, I always rock the electric slide and cupid shuffle and add my own spin on it. So I can’t wait for those songs to play!

No bouquet or garter toss for us! I've never wanted to do a bouquet toss, and my FH felt weird about a garter toss, so here we are. We're also not doing readings during the ceremony.

I agree that sometimes it feels like it's easier to figure out what to say no to than what we want!

No bouquet toss or garter toss. Never really understood the photo booth thing. I'm also over burlap, mason jars, and wood slices. And absolutely will not be wearing a veil!

We had no kids, no waiting around for guests (food and drink were available upon arrival, as was the bride and groom), no interruption photos (all were done before the wedding), no stuffy ceremony (our wedding essentially was a party that happened to be a wedding reception that happened to have a wedding in it), no waiting for toasts (part of the ceremony), no large wedding party (best friend and brother only), no assigned seating, no head table, no cake, no garter toss, no bouquet toss, no song requests by guests, no send off.
really bummed my mom out without cake and garter toss, but it truly was a wedding my husband and I dreamt up and it came to life in the best way possible. We designed it in a way that we completely soaked the day in and were completely present, spending time with friends and family.

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I'm also walking myself down the aisle! I would love to have my 6 year old walk in with me, but she said she'd be too nervous. I have a feeling she may have a change of heart the day of, but I won't push her to do anything she doesn't want to.

No excessive amount of empty chairs! Since our ceremony will be more intimate (no more than 50 guests) and outside, we have the option of playing around with a more circular layout. If we ultimately decide against that layout, then we can adjust the number of seats accordingly before the ceremony starts. I think I would be bothered by there being too much empty space or people scattered around.

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My FH already feeds me when I stay with him, so I think we'll be good.

I think almost anything considered traditional we won't do or have to be honest.

I've said for a long time I will not wear white when I marry.

I promised FH that he doesn't have to wear a suit on the day, and I stand by that.

I'll either walk down the aisle alone or with FH.

No here comes the bride.

No trashing the dress.

No alcohol.

No garter toss.

No fake flowers.

There's probably more, but those are the ones that come to mind at the moment.

No mason jars, Burlap & Lace, Tree stumps, Rusty decor. I can not STAND it.

No "Naked wedding cake" CAKE MUST HAVE FROSTING!!!!!!!!!! If you dont like it, scrape it off!

I am on a budget and need to be as cost effective as possible, but I truly believe there is a way to have a beautiful wedding and not look cheap.

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We're doing a garter auction!

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I'll be 41 when I get married. It will be my first wedding. I have 2 children who are my world. I will have my girls walk me down instead of my dad and not "GIVE" me away but change the wording to "SHARE" me with my FH.

My FMIL's BS!!! That's our biggest fear right now is his micromanaging witch of a step-mother will just... be herself! She's already given us crap about our ceremony venue and our HOUSE being too small!

I refuse to do the dollar dance, it just seems to ackward. I refused to play suavemente at my reception but many people are asking for it to be played lol.

No hard liquor


Wine and beer and sweet tea and soft drinks and juices for the kids 😁
No flower toss or garter toss

We are doing no alcohol at all. Not because my FH and I don’t drink (we do), but we each have a lot of people in our families who struggle with alcoholism and also have more conservative members who would be uncomfortable with it. We’ve gotten some push back (“what’s a wedding with no alcohol?!”) but it’s something we feel strongly about for the reception. We’re hoping to help combat this by doing an afternoon/brunch wedding on a Sunday and having pressed juices and other fun drinks.

View Quoted Comment Omg girl I thought I was the only one... just because I’m on a budget doesn’t mean it has to look like it...

I refuse to have any mason jars, burlap and lace, and anything “rustic.” I from Oklahoma and that’s the big trend... everywhere I look it’s a barn wedding or a “rustic” theme. It’s cute just not for my wedding...

I had to fight my grandmother on the fact that there will be NO sleigh, reindeer, snowman, OR A SANTA CLAUS at my December wedding. Just because it's in December doesn't mean it's Christmas.

No favors and no kids. Sorry guys.