What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

Black
Just black
Want no one (girls) with black dresses or anything thats black

And obviously no white

Refuse to have a photo booth. Not a fan. Think it’s tacky and overdone

My list of "no items"

No tosses of any kind- they creep me out.
No crappy music (like many have mentioned chicken dance, macarena, Cha Cha slide crap)
No dollar dance
No formal parent dance (out of respect for my FH who lost his mom a couple years ago)
No toasts (because seriously no one needs to be publicly told all the stupid crap we did in our early years...)
No Grand entrance/exit
No unity candle or whatever
No cake smash

Just a lot of laid back fun and games for us on our day!

- No boquet/garter toss
- No rustic. Not a country girl.
- No cheesy signs
- No honeyfun or money dance
- No grand exit for staged pictures
-No cash bar...let the booze flow
-No lecture on the definition of marriage

Mine are controversial.

No bridesmaids: In my extended family, sisters are expected to become bridesmaids. I have 2 younger sisters, but (1) we are not particularly close due to age differences, (2) my fiance only has his best man so I did not want an uneven number of attendants, and (3) my middle sister is emotionally unstable and therefore a liability. As an engineer, the vast majority of my friends are male and I've never had a female best friend. So I decided to nix the idea of bridesmaids altogether and instead, my gay best friend will be my "man of honor".

No homophobia: I'm hetero, but obviously, my Man of Honor is very important to me and the wedding will be in SF. My extended family is 99% Catholic but are accepting of gays for the most part, yet there pockets of social conservatism here and there. I will be asking my DOC to escort relatives or other guests out if there is any hint of bad behavior on their part.

Bow ties. Never liked them.

No crappy food, and NO GARTER TOSS. Also no Bruno Mars 😂

View Quoted Comment I totally respect your choice but I am insisting on the cupid shuffle lol 😂😂 and was planning to shop for (artificial) pumpkins after Halloween of this year when stuff like that is going on sale

Absolutely no bouquet or garter toss. And no white dress!

Country music of any sort was the absolute must not be anywhere near my wedding. I cannot stand country music lol.

Overdone, cliche, wedding music.... cha cha slide, shout, ymca, celebrate, macarina, Cupid shuffle, etc....

View Quoted Comment Omg I completely agree with the garter toss!!

I refuse to allow a tip jar on the bar! I think that a tip jar at a wedding has to be the absolute tackiest thing... you don’t invite guests to your wedding and ask them to pull out their wallets.

I refuse to have drama at my wedding because I want everyone to have a good time and celebrate our wedding. As for music, I’m have a great selection for everyone (guest ages varies). Therefore has to be clean (without all the cursing and derogatory things about people. You know music can be rough. For now that it is it. I’m pretty sure that there will be other things that I will come across that I don’t want at my wedding.

My FH really wants pumpkins at our wedding. It's a huge no for me! I LOVE fall decor for my home, but not for my wedding.

I refused to have those floating candle centerpieces 🤢 I could BARF! Omg and the mirrors? Get out. Eww.

View Quoted Comment SAME! no mason jars allowed!

No bouquet/garter toss or grand entrances or exits, no father/daughter dance, no tiered wedding cake - all those things annoy me for one reason or another - but a big one for me was no disposable plates/glasses/flatware. I don't care how "fancy" they look, I don't think I could enjoy myself watching my guests eat off of paper plates.

View Quoted Comment I didnt grow up with my dad. Yes I know him, he came around. He gave my mom some money as a child but as far as a relationship, we never developed one. As an adult we talk and see each other but....I DO NOT WANT HIM TO WALK ME but my Aunts and Grandma are given me soo much flack for that....ummm it's my wedding. I am definitely considering walking alone!

These no list are hilarious!!! Hmmm you guys have given me motivation..lol.

I like the no side veggie( now I have to figure out an additional side). We have a salad. I eat them but at weddings veggies are always soggy and cold.


No kids. Only if we chose to have them in the wedding..and some exception for siblings.
No garter toss
No MOG or FOB dance
No derogatory, cursing music
No grand exit
No limousines
No more than 35/45 min on pics
No cake smash
No real flowers
No first look
No drama
So this last one is sooooooo controversial!
I didnt grow up with my dad. Yes I know him, he came around. He gave my mom some money as a child but as far as a relationship, we never developed one. As an adult we talk and see each other but....I DO NOT WANT HIM TO WALK ME but my Aunts and Grandma are given me soo much flack for that....ummm it's my wedding. I am definitely considering walking alone...or with my 13 yr old daughter..no she will not be giving me either. I might have him walk with his 12 yr old son.

So far that's it......but I may have some more!