What things do you refuse to have at your wedding?

No alcohol
no wedding/bridal party
no saying vows in front of everyone

I'm trying to refuse as much waste as possible. So, no RSVP cards (we're having our guests call or text their RSVPs), no programs (maybe one big program board?) Lots of reusable items, and no favors that'll just get thrown away (we're opting for sunflower seeds)

I refuse to have fake flowers, I really love fresh flowers and the naturalness and freshness. We are using Sam’s club to keep it cheap. I also refuse to have fake plastic champagne glasses. They drove me nuts and they are such a pain, like falling over. Basically our caterer said nice plastic verse real plates was a forty cent different. It’s not fine China, but it was only $400 (.40 cent per person), so it wasn’t much in the grand scheme of the cost.

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Head Tables and the grand entrance where the bridal party is paired up with the groomsmen—we both find it presumptuous to do that especially for people in our party who are married, engaged or dating for a long time. So we discussed this with our DJ and he will be informed as to who is who’s escort just after we get to the reception.

Other pet peeves: cash bar.

No groom's cake - FH says it's a waste of money & cake 🤷
No Kane Brown - FH can't stand his music, I'm ok with him but he's not my fave...
& no alcohol at all - neither of us drink & venue is alcohol-free anyway. I just recently removed my toxic alcoholic father from my life... I am very uncomfortable being around people we know when they are drinking. If people can't come spend our wedding with us & enjoy it sober, then we don't need them there anyway 🙃

I absolutely hate everything rustic!!!! It is not what I pictured for my wedding. I also am having a fall wedding and we are not doing the reds and oranges or pumpkins. My mom wanted me to do fall with all of that and I don’t care if my wedding does not fit the fall themes or not. I also refuse for people to wear jeans or flip flops. Our wedding isn’t black tie or super fancy but I do want it to be elegant and everyone look nice and not homeless. We are not sure about all the details of our wedding but I want to keep my bouquet and not toss it. Also there may be like 4 single girls there. It was always awkward for me to participate and a little embarrassing so I thought maybe I would just eliminate that. As for the garter toss probably the same thing. Plus I think my hubby would rather take my items off in private.

View Quoted Comment 🤗🤗 old school rap is the best this new stuff OMG!!! Back in the day they actually allowed you to hear what they said! I don't like that whole guy does something EXTRA with the bouquet winner too I can definitely see it causing an issue.

I'm refusing to have hard liquor and a cake. Were doing a closed beer/wine bar and a dessert bar instead

I love this! I too find myself getting upset at the things I would love to have but can't afford. I never thought to just focus on the things that I can control that I would never want there! My FH and I are also not doing the super corny "sand ceremony" or candle lighting, etc. To us they're impractical and unnecessary. Another thing I refuse to have at our wedding is any choreographed dancing!! I've seen VERY few that actually look decent instead of totally cringe-y.

We decided really early on to not have any kids in the wedding, they tend to take attention away from the actual ceremony most of the time that i've seen! also lots of horrible songs like 'we are family' and 'celebrate good times' ....

Drama. I refuse to have drama before, during, or after our wedding.

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LOL this is my list exactly. like to the T.

View Quoted Comment FH axed that immediately when we started planning too. He has no desire to be the center of attention in that way. Also no bouquet toss. I’m paying too much for those pretty flowers lol

View Quoted Comment I 100% did this. My sister started showing me Pinterest filled with mason jars and burlap and lace stuff and I banned that pretty quick

I banned shiny vests of any color for the groom/groomsmen. Reminds me of prom 99 lol

No bouquet and garter tosses. No mason jars. No “burlap and lace” theme. No “theme” in general. No cake cutting.

Oh! And no dollar dance. FH finds it super uncomfortable to ask for more money from people who already probably spent money on a gift or card. It just feels uncomfortable for both of us.

View Quoted Comment This one is interesting to me. Why no vows? Genuinely curious

View Quoted Comment Oh. My. God. Yes! I absolutely hate those vests! I do not think they look good on anyone and make an event look tacky. Why do the groomsmen need to match the bridesmaids exactly? This isn’t prom.