So we are super lucky to have inherited some jewelry. My fiance proposed to me with a VERY nice ring his mom gave him. He said she has a shopping "hobby", apparently had the diamonds from something else and then made them into this ring a few years before we met. It's fine, it is way more than I would ever want him to spend (good thing he didn't!) though not really my style. Neither of us can wear something very fancy due to our respective jobs so it wouldn't be weird to not wear them regularly. He said honestly he doesn't care if we sell it in a while after the wedding after wearing it a few times and get something more practical/put $$ into savings/retirement. We want to retire early, it's a big priority for us. I'm okay with this but don't know if it's appropriate.
My grandmother passed away a year ago and my aunt also afterwards offered me my grandmother's and great-grandmother's rings. The whole thing was awkward- first off she sent my uncle in to grab them off of her literal dead body at the end of the funeral. Yikes. Then sent me a picture of them on her hand with no explanation (I had to call and be like, What are these creepy fingers you sent me). I had a complicated relationship with my gmom who was often critical (just didn't understand my lifestyle/issues with dementia 
. ). My great-grandmother there was also some bad ju-ju- suicide attempts her whole life (she lived to age 96) including the first time my mom met my dad's family- she was recovering from an attempt and everyone got mad at her for bringing a gift for her ("we don't talk about that"). Also issues with my aunt. She has again offered the rings now that we are engaged. She said definitely no problem to redo them how we like. My fiance thinks I should just accept them, wear them once or twice, and sell them.
We are definitely fine with finances but it would definitely definitely help to have some extra $$ towards the wedding or our savings. I feel feelings of guilt/uncomfortable to accept the rings and sell them, but I don't want them either. What should we do?
