One of these instances for example: she tried to guilt trip me for having to leave her house earlier than normal (keep in mind I was with her for 5 hours that day) because my mom had just lost her brother recently [my uncle] and I felt I needed to check on her. That honestly was appalling to me. But I just left and figured she would apologize to me at some point because that was crazy.... but she didn't. Moving on to the wedding. She has not asked me anything at all about how the planning is going, or shown any excitement or interest. If I bring my wedding up she quickly changes the subject to what's going on with her. My other bridesmaid actually asked for everyone's info in my bridal party to start planning things. Keep in mind I'm only having 3 people in my bridal party.
Moving on, our relationship has been strained since she freaked out at me for going to check on my mom. We haven't been talking very much and the other day she texted me to tell me she couldn't travel at all for my Bachelorette party. She literally goes on multiple trips a year with her husband and is about to go away with him for 6 days in Mexico without her 16 month old. Needless to say traveling isn't normally a problem for her. She also just went to Florida this past summer for 4 nights for her sister's Bachelorette party. I told her my Bachelorette party wouldn't be until September 2022 and maybe we could discuss more in person. I asked her what her reservations were about going [its Nashville which is less than a 2 hour plane ride]. She got very defensive. Her answer was that she has a child to take care of and its so hard to plan things out because she doesn't know where she'll be in a year and it's so hard having limited support.
Let me tell you, she has one of the most supportive husband's I've ever seen, her son is in daycare 3 days a week, she is a stay at home mom, her husband's mom is a very hands on grandma and takes her son often. She is only home alone 1 day a week with her child. It just seems like she's using her child as an excuse as to why she can't be involved with celebrating with me. I never have asked her for anything at all. All I wanted is for her to want to be involved with my wedding and celebrate with me.
I think its absolutely wrong. I feel that if she wanted to be there for me she would be. And I know I've been a very good friend to her, so honestly I'm hurt. I'm at the point where I don't even feel that I want her in the wedding. However... her husband is supposed to be officiating. So that's awkward. Do you have any suggestions on how I should proceed? I could have her as a bridesmaid but I'm not sure. How would you handle this? Sorry for the book.
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