FH and I were due to marry last December but postponed our wedding to December 2021 due to COVID. We didn’t make any changes to our plans other than the date, meaning that on 12 December 2021 we are meant to be walking down the aisle and hosting a big glitzy wedding with all the bells and whistles (in excess of $50,000 – which us and our parents are contributing to).
With the postponement and as time has progressed, I am tempted to just host an intimate ceremony with just our families, on the same date as we had planned. I have lost so much excitement for the wedding, and am not entirely sure what COVID restrictions will be in place at the time, so I feel like just doing something low key.
The downside to cancelling the big do and doing something small instead is that we will lose our deposits totalling $10,000 (and possibly face cancellation charges from our vendors) and we would need to spend some more money to organise alternate plans (i.e. we’d go out for a nice dinner afterward with the family). There could also be potential family drama in that, on my side of the family, I would only want my mum’s side there (but not my dad’s side as we aren’t too fond of them, not at least in an intimate setting).
I am not sure at this point what I want – all my life I have envisioned a big white wedding but now I feel so deflated and don’t really care about all the finer things (but am not sure if this is just because of my lack of excitement as a result of postponing). What would you do if you were in my position?
- Carry on as planned and try regain the excitement for the wedding
- Cancel the big wedding and do something low key?
