What to do when You have Multiple Best Friends

I wouldn't assign too many different titles other than the usual maid of honor or matron of honor. I'm sure all of your friends are very important to you. Maybe just do something special for your three best friends and write in a card how much they mean to you individually. I had the same problem. But I picked the friend who would be most helpful to me and the most creative and accessible in the bunch. I don't think it was any surprise to my other 3 best friends.

Maybe you can use one of them as a Matron of honor if they are married...that's what i did...

What about not having an Maid's of Honor so you don't have to pick one? If they're all super close friends, they'll all be willing to help out in the ways they're best able to.

None of them... Pick a sister or a family member if you have one close - this way you keep strong ties w/ all six girls

I'm with Tatyana and Lisa v- Ask them all to be your Bridesmaids and I'm sure they will all be thrilled to help in anyway they can. If you have a sister (or even if he does) if you feel you really want a MOH, ask her... otherwise, I'm sure no one will be upset. I had to share my MOH duties with another girl once and it was the most obnoxious thing to do. I honestly hated it.

Bridesmaids. If you want to differentciate have the 3 you don't care for as much not do much at the ceremony. Have your bff in a different colour and sign the lisence and then have the 2 other close ones do readings or do one reading together and maybe make their bouquets different

I agree, make the other two bridesmaids. I have several besties as well, but I am having two MOHs and no bridesmaids. I asked another close friend to be my "lady in waiting" for the day, and she was cool with that.

I have 4 bridesmaids and no maid of honor. Same with my FI and the groomsmen. One of my bridesmaids is my half sister, but she's 9 years old so I felt kind of silly making her the MOH since the other 3 will actually be doing all the duties! My FI doesn't have any siblings so it just made sense for us.

I was in the same situation as well. I love each of my bridesmaids equally and it was tough for me to choose one of them to be my maid of honor...oddly enough only two of them are actually not married, so then I just picked my younger cousin that I grew up with to be my maid of honor. Then I decided to pick my child hood friend to be my matron of honor because she is getting married on 9/1/2012 so when my wedding rolls around she will be married. She has been my best friend since high school. The other two girls are my great friends and I cherish them, and they are just so happy that I asked them to be in the wedding. They understand that I have friends that I have had since childhood and they aren't upset that they couldn't be the maid of honor.

Well unlike everyone else's response mines is a little different. I have 3 bffs and 1 sorority sister that I'm really close with. They are all like sisters to me and I love them all the same and could never pIck and choose between them. Therefore I have an MOH team with 1 junior bm(my younger cousin). My MOH team consists of two matrons of honor and two maids of honor. They are all equally helpful and creative. They will split the tasks of MOH between the four of them. One thing I haven't decided yet is if they will walk down the aisle with a groomsmen or by themselves.

I had the same problem but I did what Santana suggested and picked the friend that I knew would be able to be there for me the most and really help me get things done. Nobody said anything and the other girls were really happy to be asked to be BM's. All have really come together and worked as a team to get the stuff accomplished and help me in every way that they can.

Hi Jessica! Quite the predicament you're in! Watch out to not cause too much unnecessary stress on you during the wedding planning process. If you have three best friends, but only want two maid of honors (which is already one more than you need) then it sounds like you're just asking for stress. Obviously, you aren't doing it intentionally, but it will be brought on with this decision. How many duties do you really need your Maid of Honor to handle? Do you just need someone who will be there to listen to you vent? Or is this the person that's going to be your right hand gal during your planning? If your answer is the second one, then you might need to select one of the local besties to be your Maid of Honor--18 hour away friend will understand, then you just schedule some time when she comes in for the wedding to go get pampered and share your nerves with her so she feels completely included and special. You're the one who needs to feel special cause its your wedding, but (continued)

It sounds like you really want to honor your best friends during your wedding some how some way, so think outside the box a little and don't think the title of "Maid of Honor" is the only way you can make your friends feel special and honored.

Hopefully when you make your decision you'll let everyone on the thread know how it turned out!

If you are having only three, I'd make both of the other two bridesmaids. That avoids one of the three looking like the odd woman out.

Use the best friends as bridesmaids and a close family member as your Maid or Man of honor...

could be a sister, cousin, brother, etc.

family always trumps friends when it comes to that

What are they gonna say? Don't use your brother, use me....that would sound really spoiled and mean...

.....hence why I only had my sister as my MOH and my niece as my FG. I didn't want to choose between friends. I like the idea of the MOH team so they all can help out and all be honored.

I have several best friends also and I have 2 sisters which I am close to also. One of the besties was the reason I met my FH. But even though I would have liked to have them all be in that position....in the end I chose the one that I knew would keep me grounded and would be my barrier from the stress. What's funny all my friends and my sisters knew that it would be her and respected my decision

I am also having a difficult time with this. I have an older sister (i wasnt her MOH), a Childhood BFF and College BFF (was never their MOHs either). Luckily we all grew up in the same town and everyone knows each other/gets along okay. I am leaning towards having all 3 be MOH with my sis standing right by me during which also works for walking in tallest to shortest. Luckily all the MOHs husbands will be groomsmen and will be paired up with their wives in the same height order. ceremonytashij84 how did you list them in your program. or anyone for that matter? Are they all just listed a MOH or did you write a little something special about the friendship/bond instead?