What to do with a shy future hubby!?

Talk to him about what would make him most comfortable. Perhaps he would prefer not to have a spotlight dance, but would be willing to have your first dance during your first look (or during cocktail hour, just the two of you). As far as not liking to have his picture taken - it's going to be taken a. lot. regardless of whether you do a first look. We didn't, and I have probably 10 pictures of H watching me walk down the aisle (so there were more, and these are the best). Maybe see if you can have an engagement shoot if you haven't (I know, I know, it's coming up quickly) or something so you can work with your photographer before the wedding?

I agree with Becky! You could always do your first dance privately, or even skip it. Or, you could invite everyone onto the dance floor to dance with you as your first dance, which would help take a lot of the pressure off. As for him being nervous in front of a camera, an engagement session helps a LOT with becoming comfortable in front of the camera and with the photographer. Many wedding photographers do a good job of trying to be "invisible" throughout the day so that you don't even know when your picture is being taken.

View Quoted Comment I guess I should have also mentioned he also turned down the engagement shoot long ago as well 😂

Highly recommend an engagement photo shoot, even if is close to your wedding, as it really is a practice run for the big day - it helps you both get comfortable with the photographer, learn what poses you like best, and even allows for you to test your hair and makeup.


My fiancé didn’t see the need for an engagement photo shoot (or Save the Dates) and didn’t like the idea that other people may see us posing for photos, but, as it was really important to me, he compromised, and, honestly, after the first 30 mins, it felt like a date night. The photographer walked us all around the park, and, as he was leading the way and taking photos as we were walking or as we naturally stopping, it felt like it was just us, exploring.
If he doesn’t feel comfortable with a professional photographer, perhaps a family member or friend could take the photos? Or a friend of a friend? Or maybe they have recommendations.