What to do with moh

View Quoted Comment In the beginning she made it seem like she’d do anything to help me out and I did lay out expectations with her agreeing and I honestly don’t think I was asking a lot other than communicating with the girls and showing up to these events if she could. But she hasn’t been the most involved in communicating and the girls would step up, which I was thankful for. What made me upset was her last minute cancellations. I honestly didn’t want to have a bach because everyone was so busy but they insisted I should throw one anyways, so I planned the bach myself. I’m afraid the day of the bridal shower she’ll text me saying she can’t make it like she did with the bath. Just so last minute.


She also won’t communicate with me, I can’t understand her when she is vague with all her answers. She has other issues in her life other than my wedding and I get that, but the least she could do is give me an explanation as to why she’s lacking on her end so I could understand. She’s somewhat planning her future wedding when she doesn’t even have a bf either.
I realized I’m just venting than really looking for answers on here and I know I didn’t do the best job in explaining the situation but there were other factors on why I was upset. It’s a lot of my emotions built up and the wedding being so soon.

If she's "planning a wedding, but doesn't currently have a boyfriend," I think that's a major red flag that she is probably going through some stuff right now (that might also help explain why she seems to be "out drinking all night"). I understand you feel disappointed and it seems like she isn't following through on the initial impression she gave about her commitment to being involved, but it seems like this may have little to do with you and a lot to do with things she's struggling with. As others have suggested, lower your expectations of her and see how things play out at the wedding and after. In the meanwhile, enjoy the support you have from others. Good luck!