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Beginner August 2021

What to do?

Jamie, on August 10, 2021 at 11:02 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11
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It’s down to the wire and is wedding week I have horrible news. ( it’s bad to me). My grandparents were in charge of inviting 1/4 of attendees we agreed on this three months ago and confirmed twice in the past two months. Yesterday they informed me that they completely forgot to tell them the date!!! I didn’t know got to react but I thought it might be better since there was more room around everyone then some other guests have called and told us that they are not coming because of covid. This yet again my worst fear happening. I feel like I should cancel but I have no idea anymore. I feel defeated and embarrassed I don’t know what to do. Is anyone else in the same boat?

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Latest activity by Shadia, on September 14, 2021 at 3:07 AM
  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Did you not send invitations? Everyone on the guest list should have been sent an invitation from you and your fiance.
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  • J
    Beginner August 2021
    Jamie ·
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    No we sent e invitations. Grandparents guests are colder and a lot of them don’t have or use emails. He told me this and said “don’t worry about them I’ll take care of it” a month later he said “make sure you write them down on the list because I invited them” I said “so they’re a definite yes to attending?” He said “yes”. Two weeks later we were discussing the head count and he read aloud who was on his end saying “these people have told me verbally yea they’re coming and wrote it down”.
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    This doesn't make a lot of sense. Did you send the guests you are referring to invitations? If so they should have rsvp'd directly to you rather than through your grandparents.
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  • J
    Beginner August 2021
    Jamie ·
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    No We didn’t send physical invitations. We sent e invitations. Everyone knew this. They don’t have or use emails so he told me he would take care of his group
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Unfortunately there isn't really anything that can be done at this point. I think it would have been best for you to have sent physical invitations to those that don't have an email.
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  • J
    Beginner August 2021
    Jamie ·
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    Yeah I wish I did but I just took his word for it there were other things during planning that he took the reins of and actually did them
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    OK, though I agree you should have sent out physical invitations to any guests for whom e-invitations are not appropriate, and followed up on any responses you didn't personally receive, what's done is done (I am mostly recording this for anyone reading who is still in the invitation phase).

    But I would definitely not cancel your wedding just because your grandparents friends aren't coming. Your wedding is this month and cancelling will only bring cons instead of pros at this point.

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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    If not too late, can you personally call these people to check on their RSVP status? Some may be excited to attend despite the invitation confusion.
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  • Samantha
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    Samantha ·
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    This is a good idea - they may be free and want to attend!
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    Beginner August 2021
    Jamie ·
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    He called all of them yesterday and said 2 of 12 are available
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  • Jasmine S.
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    Jasmine S. ·
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    This is a bit annoying, but you're so close to your date so not much you can do. It's not an issue unless you're going to be under the minimum guest count for your venue. If you are a bit under, I would call up your friends (the ones who actually RSVPed) and let them know they can bring a plus one.
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