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Andrea
Master January 2021

What to do?

Andrea, on September 1, 2019 at 8:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 68

Hi everyone,

My FH's aunt is offering to pay for our honeymoon next April. However, she's not giving us the option of choosing where we want to go. For instance, she says she'll pay for the plane ride and the vacation itself but we HAVE to go to a certain resort in Cayo Coco. Well, we don't want to go to Cuba. We've asked her if she was willing to change the destination to another Caribbean Island and she said it's all or nothing. Fiance and I aren't liking the idea of it. Initially (She suggested she'd come on the honeymoon with us, and act as a babysitter for our kids.) I mean are you kidding me right now? How strange!!! We told her in that situation that we wouldn't have our kids with us on our honeymoon, and in the event that we were going to go honeymooning, that my MOH would be taking off a week to watch our kids during that time. His aunt seemed disappointed. I mean did we really have to explain we didn't want a third party with us on our special vacation? Sigh....


Anyway, his aunt is ringing down both of our phones, demanding to know if we're going to take her offer and go to the resort of her choice. We really don't want to take it, as it seems like too many strings attached. What do you think, friends? Odd situation? Or not so odd?

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Latest activity by Kristal, on September 4, 2019 at 10:40 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    It’s odd, but if it was me I’d just say no and move on.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Hey Sarah,

    Thank you for your inputSmiley heart

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Politely decline her offer and book your own honeymoon.

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  • Kristin
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    Agree with PP. I'd politely decline and say you guys had a different honeymoon destination in mind.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Thank you, Kristin!!

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    I would thank her for the offer, but decline and book the honeymoon you and your FH want.
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  • Merline
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    I have a cousin who "offered to pay for our honeymoon" but it's through her timeshare. We were still able to pick a different location, then Vegas (where her timeshare is located). It was a little hassle for her to change it out, but she was able. Maybe your FH aunt has a timeshare there in Cuba and doesn't want to deal with the headache of switching out the location?
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    I'm gonna be the odd ball here but I say since you won't have your kids she won't be going with you so let her pay. If it's free it's for me! Then you can always use your money to go on another trip anytime or use it for something else. If I had to pay I would go to the country of my choice but if someone else was paying for it.....

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  • Andrea
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    Thank you, Meghan!!

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  • Andrea
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    Hey Merline,

    That is actually a very interesting notion. I never thought about that.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hi Michelle,

    LOL!! I hear where you're coming from. Thanks for your input.

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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
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    I think if it's already making you feel weird..its best to say you appreciate her offer but no thank you.
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  • Megan
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    It sounds like there are a lot of strings attached. If you and FH aren’t feeling it, then thank her for her very generous offer and decline.

    If she’s this insistent, then maybe there’s a reason behind it, and you could talk to her about it. But that totally depends on the relationship!

    good luck with everything!
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hey Sara,

    Thank you so muchSmiley smile

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Hey Megan,

    Yeah she's really insistent on it. I mean I don't understand why there has to be strings attached. If she wants to pay for the honeymoon, that's totally gracious but you'd think she'd ask us where we want to go. Nope, fat chance. It's really bizarre and there's got to be a reason why we have to go to this specific resort in Cuba. We don't want it!! Thank you Megan!!Smiley smile

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  • Merline
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    Yeah that's the only thing coming to mind, since she's telling you a specific resort. I would decline and find somewhere you both would enjoy! Also, you have an awesome MOH willing to take a week off to watch the kids!
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    Yes!!! My MOH is my mom's friend from high school and she's known me every since I was an infant. She's a blessing in my life and that's her gift to me, watching our daughters in the event that we go away on vacation!

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    Definitely a bit odd. I would just call her and politely tell her you are going to plan your own honeymoon.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
    Andrea ·
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    Hi Cyndy,

    I know, that's what I'm saying. It's just strange. Thank you for your adviceSmiley smile

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    It is odd but it’s her money and she gets to choose what she does with it. It’s an offer that comes with strings obviously. If you don’t want to accept the strings, just say thank you and politely decline the offer
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