What to do?

That’s odd, I wouldn’t agree with all the restrictions. If someone would gift you the honeymoon it should be your choice. I would just say no thank you

Thank you all so much for your input. It is thoroughly appreciated

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Yeah it may be a re gift and I think a previous poster friend even suggested a time share. We'll just save for the honeymoon we want. Honestly the honeymoon was the last thing on our minds. It would have been nice if she just asked us where we want to go instead of telling us.

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Yep - just say no thank you. Way too many strings and a true gift has no strings.

View Quoted Comment Yea i totally agree. Good for you both. Hopefully she doesn't get to upset.

I thought the reinstated the travel restrictions on Cuba and are no longer allowing US citizens to travel there. For that reason alone, it would be a hard pass on the offer. Even if the ban is lifted, it still would feel too risky to plan a trip to Cuba right now. But just as important, you should go where you want to go. While the offer is very nice, if it’s not something you want, it’s not what you want. You wouldn’t have chosen a wedding gown someone else chose that you hated just because they offered to pay for it. Don’t let someone else choose how you’re going to start your marriage either.

Too many strings. Don't go where you do not want to, for any amount of money. Does she have plans to surprise you by booking herself elsewhere in the same place?
And politically, who knows how things will stand in that area next April? I would not book anywhere in the Caribbean or Mexico more than a month or two in advance, since Trump and Co are pushing political and economic buttons, that may get travelers in problems, not welcome in places, or US requiring they come home . You do not want a trip in chaos

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I'm not in the US, I'm from Canada! I just like using the American WW because it's way more interactive than the Canadian site. Thank you for your feedback, Jeanie!

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Hi Judith,

Thank you so much for you concern! I'm not from the US, I'm from Canada. But I totally agree with you on the fact that there are too many strings attached.

Wow. I’d say VERY odd! Plus, gifts don’t come with strings. If it were me I would definitely decline and pay for my own honeymoon!

Girl, first off if it seems like too many strings attached then it probably is. I think you both a have a beautiful idea to be just you two and have a friend take care of the kids.
While going where YOU want to go.

The resorts in Cuba are dirt cheap. About $40 per person/day gets you in a “fancy” all included resort. My family is Cuban, my mom takes 1 week of her 3 week trip and invited her cousins to all stay there with her. Maybe it’s affordable for her?.. just a thought

I'd say no as it's not what you guys want. I find it rude to offer but then make it what she wants? Esp inviting herself but as you said, you don't want to take it so don't. Just thank for the offer/generosity! Plan a honeymoon ya'll want and enjoy!

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Hey,

Tell me about it, Almarina! We will definitely consider our options. Thank you so much!

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Hey Sylvia,

I don't want to brag, but FH's aunt has serious money. Like serious. I don't even want to get into how much money this woman actually has. The least she could have done was give us a few options in Cuba! That's the least she could have done. But ... I'm not feeling the idea. Trust me, if I didn't know the aunt very well, I would have thought the same thing, that maybe it's what she could afford. But this definitely isn't the reason. It can't be! Thank you SO much for your feedback

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Hi Amanda,

Tell me about it!! It would have been totally different if we were asked where we wanted to go, or if she had given us a few options. But, nope! Thank you so much for your input

Nice of her to want to send you somewhere, but she should let you choose. However, she said it's all or nothing. So, I would say we appreciate the offer, but we really don't want to go to Cuba and we have another place in mind for our honeymoon, so thanks for the offer, but we are going to have to decline. Also, if you're worried about getting you honeymoon paid for. You can always create a honeymoon registry or Wanderable.com or another site. And guests that want to help out with that will gift you money.

It's possible she has a deal/relationship with that resort (my parents have time shares, right, so they often offer very restrictive choices but funded vacations - and I'm always very grateful, but then I get to decide). Even so, if that's not what you want to do, then don't do it! You can give her an explanation if you like, which doesn't mean you owe her all your thinking. Say thanks, no thanks, and do your own thing.

If you take her up on the honeymoon offer with all those strings attached, you're also setting yourselves up to be micromanaged by her! If you enjoy the trip, she'll expect to be asked what you should do for other decision making items; like if you should have more kids, where to live, etc. She'll come at you with, 'I'll make your decisions. I chose the honeymoon spot & you enjoyed that so much!'

If you go & don't enjoy it, it'll be your fault because you didn't let yourselves relax knowing it was all on her dime.

I would explain that you thought of her offer & are truly grateful but you'd rather go somewhere else. You could suggest having her put the money that would have funded your trip to another use like a future down payment on a home or a college fund for your kids. I hope some of my ideas help.

Definitely odd. Its your honeymoon. Its a lovely gesture, albeit the restrictions are strange. I would say no if it makes you that uncomfortable.