What to Do

View Quoted Comment Without a medical necessity most doctors won’t schedule an elective csection anyway. The good/bad thing is most first time moms go over their due date.

I would be super against him going. Not to scare you but anything can go wrong at any time and it’s no guarantee that the first flight out would be in enough time to be there for you. There’s no playing by ear I would definitely advise him to stay home.

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t put a lot of trust in hoping she goes over her due date when it comes to the father potentially missing the birth of their first born child. And I definitely think it’s a bad idea as I’ve said to schedule the birth. But the reality is that if she doesn’t feel comfortable enough telling him that he can’t go and that he has to stay home these are her 2 options. She said 2 very specific things. 1. She doesn’t want him to miss the birth of their first born child. And then she also said 2. But he really wants to go to his best friends wedding and bachelor party.... If the birth of their first born child and a bachelor party and wedding share equal importance, the options that I gave her are the only two realistic sure fire plans to meet both of those needs. And as I’ve said I think she should definitely take the good advice and just have him stay home as opposed to the bad advice. Hence why it’s bad advice. It’s advice that someone shouldn’t take

I for one would be extremely upset if my husband was even considering attending a wedding and bachelor party the week I was due to give birth - but that's me. Not to mention, during a worldwide pandemic, he's exposing himself to many people and then would be bringing anything back to his wife and newborn child. Sounds like a horrible idea. As for advice, I'd agree with the others... Once you're ready to announce, he can tell his friend that due to your pregnancy/due date, he may not be able to attend.

He should not be going on a plane during your ninth month.