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Michelle
Rockstar December 2022

What tradition are you tossing out?

Michelle, on May 25, 2021 at 4:19 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 29
It’s a completely different thing from etiquette because it’s a custom that has been around for awhile that doesn’t offend anyone and create awkwardness if you choose not to participate. Usually it’s something people have done so long they can’t tell you why but it’s not missed if it’s not there most of the time.


For example:We are planning to skip the MC along with announcements and toasts at the reception. Also skipping the bouquet/garter tosses, bridesmaid proposal boxes (new as of the last couple years at most so not old enough to be tradition yet), parent dances and participation. There might be others that can’t think of at the moment.

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Latest activity by Madison, on June 11, 2021 at 8:32 PM
  • Liz
    Devoted June 2021
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    We’re skipping bouquet toss garter. And any goofy dances like money dances etc...
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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
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    We are skipping bouquet/garter toss, something old/new/borrowed/blue, giving the bride away, tossing rice (or tossing anything), no MC/announcments

    Haven't decided if I'll wear a veil, have MOH/BM speeches (not forcing but if they want they can), I wouldn't mind skipping parent dances, I don't want to dance with my dad - but my FH can dance with his mom if he wants to (we aren't having a DJ because we aren't much of dancers anyways, but will have a playlist),

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    Skipping wedding party intros and the garter toss. Likely also skipping a grand exit and maybe even a grand entrance. We will be around at our cocktail hour so everyone has seen us
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  • Taylor
    Devoted October 2021
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    Skipping the bouquet and garter toss, any sort of end of the night send off, and the money dance for sure. Thinking of skipping introductions too, as were doing a first look, so we’ll be around for cocktail hour, so I’m not sure I find it necessary.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    I’m thinking of skipping the garter toss as I would find it very awkward to do I front of my family.
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  • Emily
    Devoted June 2021
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    We are skipping the bouquet garter toss, along with wedding party introductions.
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  • Sam
    Devoted October 2021
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    Hi there,


    We are also not doing the bouquet toss and garter toss. I feel now a days many weddings have steered away from “traditional” wedding reception events. My fiancé and I are also not having a maid of honor or best man.
    Good luck to you!Smiley smile
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
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    I don't think we're going to have a first dance (or father/daughter or any of those dances). It will be hard enough for my fiancé to have everyone looking at him for the ceremony, let alone the reception
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  • Melanie
    Just Said Yes November 2020
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    Hi,

    I just got married this past weekend. We skipped many traditions, I did not wear a veil or garter. WE did not do a garter or bouquet toss, end of the night sendoff, grand entrance as we only had 25 people. Did not wear anything old, something new or blue.

    Melanie

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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
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    We aren't doing bouquet/garter toss, mother/son or father/daughter dance, and no introductions for the bridal party. We are doing a very restricted number of family photos, and then will release our bridal party back to the 'wild' for cocktail hour while my new husband and I will go off and get couple photos. We're also doing the very fewest number of speeches we could manage - both dads, and then us speaking together.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
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    Garter and bouquet toss, only FH will do a speech, wedding party announcement, probably a few other things. My brother is walking down the aisle.
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  • Sabrina
    Savvy August 2021
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    We are skipping the entire formal reception format. We aren't doing any dancing instead we are eating drinking and playing yard games at our reception. We just want to relax with our guests. We are having a small 40 person wedding.
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  • J
    Savvy December 2022
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    I’m definitely not doing a garter because it’s so weird. I honestly would get rid of the father giving you away thing, I’m not because my dad is paying for the entire wedding, however I hate the concept of him giving me away like I’m property. I think if anything I’ll have him walk me down the aisle but not give me away I’m the verbal consent often given. I’m my own person. I find the practice misogynistic and rooted in a time when women and wives were considered property to the man of the house.
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  • Corin
    Beginner April 2022
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    We are skipping the bouquet/garter toss and are replacing it with having all the married couples come on the dance floor and the dj is gonna count through put the song and if you’ve been married that long you stay on the floor and the last couple standing gets the bouquet. I personally am not doing the father/daughter dance either.
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  • Lexi70
    Savvy June 2022
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    No garter/bouquet toss. Not sure if we'll introduce the wedding party, likely not. We will only do a first dance. No other (mother/son, father/daughter) ones. We may not do a cake cutting. And likely no toasts other than maybe FH welcoming everyone.

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  • Patty
    Savvy October 2021
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    We are also being pretty non-traditional...the only reception announcements will be the cake cutting, and the 2 of us being introduced as we enter the reception area. We'll probably have the wedding officiant say grace after the first dance prior to dinner but no other speeches. No parents dances, no bouquet/garter toss, no line dances. The only reason we will be announced as we enter is my FH is a huge Metallica fan, and we'll walk in during the intro to Enter Sandman! (no pyro though...lol!!!)

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
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    We tossed out a lot of things. Traditional cakes, garter toss, bouquet toss, speeches, MC, dancing all together, alcohol. We went for more of an afternoon high tea party vibe instead of a dance party vibe and it worked great.

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  • Courtney
    Expert September 2022
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    We won't be having a wedding party, nor will we be doing toasts. Absolutely skipping the bouquet/garter toss. Our main dessert is going to be artisan cookies but we'll have a small chocolate cake because it's the one thing FH requested. No grand exit, and probably not really any entrance either.

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  • L
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    We skipped the bouquet/garter toss

    Did not have an MC or bridal party announcements (I don't get those at all and HATE them as a BM)

    I paid for all the BM dresses

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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    I've been to like one wedding as an adult and honestly I didn't even think about the actual "giving away." We're skipping quite a few traditional things in our wedding and I think that's a good one to add to the list.

    My fiancé "asked" my parents to marry me, but that was actually more of him just telling them he was going to propose because I requested that they and my grandma know before he did. Since he would tell his family before, I wanted to make sure mine knew too.

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