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What traditions do you think are outdated and should no longer apply in 2021?

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mrswinteriscoming, on May 25, 2021 at 1:20 AM

Traditions vary significantly depending on where you’re from, how you were raised, what your ethnic/cultural/religious background is and so forth. What traditions and/or rules of etiquette do you think we can get rid of in 2021? For me some of these include: 1. the rule that you shouldn’t put a...

Traditions vary significantly depending on where you’re from, how you were raised, what your ethnic/cultural/religious background is and so forth.

What traditions and/or rules of etiquette do you think we can get rid of in 2021?

For me some of these include:

1. the rule that you shouldn’t put a dress code on your invitations (or otherwise alert guests to this);

2. the notion that a bride shouldn’t be involved in planning her bachelorette or bridal shower (to me, the latter is no different to planning your own birthday party);

3. the garter toss and bouquet toss!

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Expert October 2017
Florida Marlins · on May 27, 2021 at 11:54 AM
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Yes, this exactly. Plus my ecological self needs less paper out there. People take a photo of it to their phone, or put the date in their calendar, then recycle or throw it away.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on May 27, 2021 at 2:45 PM
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I agree with you!
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Judith · on May 27, 2021 at 8:13 PM
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This depends on your social or economic class. Especially for those under 30, almost every wedding I have been to, the towels are a step up from those 2 people bought before college , a 12 cup coffee pot is replacing a 4 cup, and for the first time , a cherry wood dining room table replaces Formica or molded plastic. A heck of a lot of people can use everything they can get. And many who have made the choice of a fixer-up house as the only way they will get a house they can afford, and small construction supplies are a godsend. After which, they need home goods they never bought while saving for a house. I think you greatly overestimate the number of people so we'll off they don't need anything.
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Rockstar December 2022
Michelle · on May 27, 2021 at 9:27 PM
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While I disagree on the required plus ones because not everyone wants strangers at their wedding nor are they always able/willing to have space and budget to accommodate them.
The rest are all spot on. There is a culture of making guests/attendants work for their meal or the bride has unrealistic expectations, expectations of guests paying for whatever the couple can’t afford themselves, the expectation of paying to cover your plate when the guests are not given a bill by the caterer. With many, it boils down to some people were raised without any manners (parents felt they were unnecessary) and want everyone to cater to their demands without question and with no thanks in return.
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Expert October 2017
Florida Marlins · on May 28, 2021 at 8:26 AM
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As someone who is a teacher, YES to parents not raising their kids without manners or defending bad behavior.
If I was asked to stand up for someone these days, I would flat out ask: "What are your expectations of me?" I am not going to be pressured to throw a shower, do all your errands and be your whipping girl for a year!
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