What was the most stressful part of planning?

I think all the little details have been the most stressful. Things like making the flower girl basket, deciding what jewelry to wear and will it match my belt and headpiece. I have 80 votive holders sitting in my living room that I need to dip in glitter. I brought it on myself. HaHa! The guest list was easy for me. It took me about 20 minutes to write down everyone I'm closest too and that put us at close to 80. Then I wrote down FH family and got a list from his Mom. It wasn't bad for me. I think the stress will come and go. You have a lot of time. Try not to worry yourself too much.

The guest list was by far the most draining thing about the wedding. Having people include themselves and send you their addresses without you ever asking for it was something that I could have gone without. Luckily it worked out.

@MrsMet - I looked specifically on the USPS website to pick something that they have on-hand (because I'm impatient and like to buy things in person if at all possible) - the first place didn't have ANY and said they were super popular. The second place had 2 sheets - again, they were really popular. But they were really nice and offered to call another post office, who evidently had thousands of them.

1. Guest List - Plus ones inviting plus ones, MIL invited people after invites went out and guests trying to invite people (people DH and I have never met) at the last minute. A week before my wedding, I was mostly rolling with it. Luckily DH, MIL and FIL were finally understanding how this whole wedding planning works and were taking care of their own guests. FIL was really upset at one of their friends for wanting to add a whole table, 10 people a few days before the wedding. He set her straight. Getting addresses for DH side was a bit difficult as well.

2. Seating Chart - I thought the guest list was bad, this was worse. Luckily I only had 7 tables, but still.

3. RSVP - You love them and you hate them, but most guests don't use them.

ETA: Op most things can definitely be resolved. Your FH and you can get through anything, as long as you two are on the same page, talk things over and take some breaks from anything wedding.

The people with their stupid opinions and wanting to invite others

@Z_Runner. I'm in that same boat. God Forbid you dont do something her way. DRAMA QUEEN!!!

Wedding planning has been honestly amazing. Its been a lot of fun. My stress comes from people. My dad, my FIL's and other various people who think they have some sort of say in our wedding. I just wish everyone could shut up and back off... and its only getting worse the closer we get.

@ bunny, omg!!! Well I'm glad you finally found one, but that sounds exhausting. I'm not bringing a ton of people, only person that actually needs to come is my mom haha but stil, I'm afraid I'll hate everything

The guest list. My MIL has made it clear that if certain people in her family do not get invites that they'll have a meltdown but they won't come. So I'm having to pay for them to get an invite and my guest list looks much larger than it actually is.... stresses me out

The most stressful thing was probably the guest list....now that we have that all settled and all the vendors booked, it's more of just a waiting game now.

I was the most bitchy about the seating chart, which usually indicates that was the most stressing part.

Booking a venue was the worst for us. I liked a few different ones we saw for different reasons, but then we saw one that had potential and was ~10k cheaper than all the others. We emailed to put a deposit down right when we got home, and they reached out to us saying someone else had called before we got home and reserved it for our date. FH and I then spent the next few days picking between our pricier options and put a deposit down at another venue, only to have the original venue email us later that day saying the couple changed dates, but at that point it was too late to change. FH and I love our venue, but it was very stressful and frustrating to know we could have saved so much money.

Managing people's addresses and keeping track of the guest list! we are sending our invites out this weekend and since collecting addresses, so many people have moved, gotten divorced, broken up, gotten married, had babies etc. so it feels like our guest list is ever shifting. i can't wait to send them out and be done with them.

1. Deciding to have a wedding with guests at all (for us, any wedding with guests meant a relatively big wedding because we are close to our big families and inviting them was non-negotiable. It was either invite 200 people or elope). It was hard to decide to spend the money on a wedding instead of investing it or putting it toward a new house or something.

2. Finding a venue that fit our budget, aesthetic, crowd size, and allowed alcohol (we are in Utah, so this can be tricky). It took us 9 months!

3. Deciding to rent glasses instead of going with disposables. It feels like such a waste of money but at the end of the day, imagining tons of garbage bags filled with cups from my wedding made me feel ill. This part of Utah is not good about recycling.

4. Registry. It was hard to negotiate the WW etiquette with what we wanted to do and thought our guests would like, but at the end of the day we are doing what works for us (no, not a Honeyfund).

ETA: words

So far, just dealing with my family has been the most stressful part. They are just difficult people to deal with, and my sister is a bridesmaid and is a bit of a brat. The only other stressful thing has been dealing with hotel blocks, my original hotel wouldn't let me block off the full amount of rooms right away but now the entire hotel is booked, so I need to find a second hotel.

Other than those things, I've really had fun planning. Sorry you're stressed!

The freaking dress. I'm still nervous about it. Went to 4 stores and tried about 35 dresses to actually find "the one." Staying in budget is a very close second.

$ n guest list...have to remind myself to stop stressing over what we can't do-cant please everyone.

I haven't really been stressed about anything. Everything has been pretty easy so far especially the guest list and attire. I just nake sure to write everything down and print pictures of everything I want. I suggest picking something and sticking to it. I eliminated Pinterest from my life because it was giving me too many options.

The little things and all the moving pieces. Seriously, my DOC (really a month of coordinator) has been a lifesaver. Because of her I feel calmer now, 2 weeks away, than I did months ago. Highly recommend!

Oh also worrying about everyone else has been stressful. But I do that all the time.