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What we will be introduced as?

Sarah, on October 21, 2020 at 9:38 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 17

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So I know I have a while to figure it out but the whole name change thing is really bugging me out. I have a son from a previous relationship (not married) who has my last name, so I don't really love the idea of changing mine. But my fiance is the only man his parents had so he wants our future children to have his name, but I don't want to have an entirely different last name from any of my children. My last name is Bears his is Rizk. So I have decided to take his, no hyphen, as Bears Rizk. It took a while but I came to terms with it. Well we got our planning binder last week and I'm stuck on the part about what we would like to be introduced as. It doesn't feel right to be introduced as Mr and Mrs Rizk or The Rizks etc. It feels like, no thats his parents. I know there can be more then one set of The so and so's but I'm just struggling with it, and a huge part of it might be because I am absolutely horrible at change and changing my name is as big a change as it gets for me at this point in time lol. I'm having a hard time thinking of an alternative way to be introduced if there is one. Please help

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Veronica · on October 21, 2020 at 9:41 PM
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Unless you just want to be introduced by your first names which would seem strange I'm not sure if any other way.
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Sarah · on October 21, 2020 at 9:44 PM
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Yea I didn't think there would be another way, but figured it didn't hurt to ask lol. I have like 10 months to get over myself so should be fine, I hope.
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Ingrid · on October 21, 2020 at 9:48 PM
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I'm not totally sure how this works, but I think of other situations where you and your husband will be grouped together, like a formal invitation. It will more than likely be addressed as Mr. and Mrs. Rizk.

I don't want to say you are over thinking it but you probably never thought it would come up until you saw it in the planning binder.
It's your wedding and you get to make the rules! So however you prefer to be addressed you should make it happen!
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Michele · on October 21, 2020 at 10:06 PM
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At the end of the ceremony? Whatever you wish. You can be introduced by your first names if it's easier. Just let your officiant know your plans. Same for dj at the reception if you choose to be announced..or just have the one announcement at ceremony since there won't be new guests afterward.
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Jay · on October 21, 2020 at 10:07 PM
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I’m assuming you mean the introduction at the wedding, not in daily life? I’ve been thinking about this because I’m not changing my name. So slightly different situation, but possibly a similar solution. I’m likely going for first names. I like the idea of “For the first time as a married couple, FirstName & FirstName!” But I wonder if full names might work for you? “For the first time as a married couple, FirstName LastName & FirstName LastName!” If you don’t like “married couple,”you could do “husband & wife” or “the newlyweds.”
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Sarah · on October 21, 2020 at 10:09 PM
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I definitely am overthinking it lol its awful I can't help myself
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Sarah · on October 21, 2020 at 10:15 PM
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Yes the wedding lol. In my daily life I'll probably go by either or depending on the situation. My son is 9 and while he loves my fiance he is not happy about my name changing. He said he's still going to say my last name is just Bears haha 🤣 which I told him was fine what ever he is comfortable with. And thank you I really like the idea of "for the first time as a married couple first name & first name."
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Hanna · on October 21, 2020 at 10:39 PM
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We were introduced by our first names at the beginning of our reception because I didn’t change my name. The band leader did it very naturally and it didn’t sound awkward at all! I think being introduced by your first names is a great option
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Sarah · on October 21, 2020 at 10:41 PM
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Thanks, its really good to hear from someone who already did it that it didn't sound awkward.
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Caytlyn · on October 21, 2020 at 11:57 PM
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“The bride and groom” or “the newlyweds”
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Lynnie · on October 22, 2020 at 9:34 AM
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I like introducing "the newlyweds: first name and first name"!
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Sarah · on October 22, 2020 at 9:35 AM
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Thanks I like this too
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Dawn · on October 22, 2020 at 9:42 AM
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at the wedding just be introduced as his last name and thats it. no one needs to know that your keeping your last name.

my first wedding, i kept my last name but we were introduced with his
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· on October 22, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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I'm doing the same kind of name change as you are.

I had been freaking out about how we would be introduced, but I didn't come up with an acceptable alternative ahead of time, so we were announced as Mr and Mrs HisLastName at the end of the ceremony at our miniwedding. It actually didn't bother me at all, which I was kind of surprised by, especially because I was pretty annoyed about receiving cards addressed to us that way from people who knew better.
If we're announced at our reception, I think I'll ask for our first names to be used instead.
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Mcskipper · on October 22, 2020 at 11:07 AM
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The Newlyweds or “the New Mr & Mrs” always work!
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Mcskipper · on October 22, 2020 at 11:09 AM
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Also for what it’s worth , I did change my name and we were introduced as “mr & mrs new-name” but no one took that as a hard and fast fact that that was my new name. I had plenty of conversations after with people asking if I was going to change my name or not, soooo....the announcement won’t necessarily mean much to your guests 😝, so don’t overthink
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Sarah · on October 22, 2020 at 1:35 PM
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The funny thing is that I'm not worried about what my guests think my last name is, I actually don't care about that at all. Its just me personally I don't like how it sounds, because of how I feel about changing my name. I know I'm overthinking it on a level but I am how I am lol.
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