What wedding trend do you hate?

I said it once, I'll say it again

Blush bridesmaid dresses. They don't look good until your girls are tanned and fit.

STDs. Very few of your guests are going to do enough saving up, moving vacations, etc. so that they need more than 2 months' notice of your wedding. And those few already know when it is. Conversely, huge amounts of drama are caused when you send an STD then drift away from the person, have a falling out, or just want a smaller wedding (for cost or other reasons).

My dislikes (whether they are trendy or an outdated tradtion... it's hard to tell where the lines are sometimes):

- Unity Sand

- Unnatural flower colors that are/look fake

- The "Here comes your ..." signs

- The "Pick a seat, not a side" signs

- Anything signage that rhymes

- Garter toss/bouquet toss

- Mason jars

- Anything bedazzled

- Tiaras

- Wedding cake toppers - all makes and models

- The stupid intro dances that the bridal party does when they're being announced

- Any group dances (chicken, hokey pokey, cupid shuffle, electric slide, etc)

- Tiffany blue color scheme

- Mismatched bridesmaid dresses

- Personalizing everything

- Favors that are likely going in the trash

- Typical bachelorette paraphernalia (sashes, cheesy veils, penis-shaped stuff)

- Including animals in the ceremony (horse-drawn carriages, releasing doves or butterflies, etc) EXCEPT dogs.... dogs are awesome and should always be included in everything

- The stupid "everybody jump" wedding photo

- The "everybody creepily stare and smile at the bride and groom kissing" photo

- Blue toenails as the "something blue". Ick.

Does this make me sound like a horrible person? If that's the case, I'll gladly be a horrible person because I stand by my list.

Wire hangers with names on them. To be honest, I have no clue where that trend came from and why everyone thinks it's cute...but that's just me!

Burlap. Just...no.I get the whole rustic elegance thing, but burlap is so overdone.

Chevron. And mustaches. It would be crazy to look back at someone's wedding in like 20 years and see a mustache themed wedding...both can be cute, I just don't think it's timeless (which is my taste)!

Cheesy one-colored weddings with no personalization. Or damask. Ugh, damask. Or those blinged out weddings with the fake stones...don't get me wrong, I love bling, but you know the bling I'm talking about - the rolls of the square stones you get from michael's & put on cakes. I just personally don't like it.

I could go on and on.

I love that some people are so nice and classy when saying what they don't like and other are just like .....

I don't like modern weddings, burlap, brooches (sp?) of any kind, just none at all. I don't like robes in general or signage.

I am having a rustic romance themed wedding but there will be no burlap, no lace (except maybe dress), and it will be classy. Photobooths are AWESOME, I love them at weddings, not everyone likes to dance, and it gives so many extra pictures of your guests!

Oh, and to who ever doesn't like STD, most of my guests work in the medical field and you have to take of MONTHS if not a year in advance to make sure you get it off, working in a hospital is no joke (: My guests have already taken off that day because only a certain amount of people can take off each day, and my wedding is during peak vacation season!

Destination weddings. Please don't make Uncle Fred and Aunt Thelma spend thousands of dollars to attend your wedding. They probably can't afford it but feel guilty saying no.

I would hate to have some of you at my wedding! geeeeez!!!

There is a thread going right now for geeky/nerdy weddings, and it made me think back to this one. Reading through it I could not imagine doing some of those things at my wedding, BUT, some sounded super cool because the posters were really excited and it seemed really genuine to them... If if I had no clue what it really meant. If lace/burlap really represents you, it is sooooo much better than just doing it because it was on Pinterest. If satin and bling really interest you, same goes. We ultimately like and dislike different things, but man, if we can stay true to who we are that will be the ultimate goal!

My least favorite wedding trend is people posting in wedding forums complaining about what other brides enjoy.

I'm guilty of the rustic vintage theme. But it only makes sense. My FH is country, and wears a cowboy hat all the time. I'm more of a city girl who has always loved vintage clothing and things. So it just made sense for us as a couple to combine the two. The only trends I don't agree with are the personalized hangers and multiple dresses. To me the hangers seem like a waste of money and it was hard enough to spend that much money on my wedding dress. I'm only going to wear it once in my life, so I'm going to wear it the whole night.

These aren't things I hate, just not for me but I'm basically just having a party after signing a legal document so...

Girly, fairytail/princess themes

Everything blinged out

Forcing adults to buy/rent anything specific for your wedding. I'm not against a bridal party per se, just that aspect of it. Also, they are not your slaves and they are not obligated to do anything they don't want to.

ETA: nobody should take any of this personally. I think HKLO said it best, have the wedding that represents you and FH, nobody else matters.

I don't hate anything really, I agree that if it's something that represent you/you like then who cares! But I won't be doing the garter, I'd feel a bit weird doing that in front of my family and I've never seen it done at a wedding I've been to - not sure if thats an English thing?

I love the idea of a Photo Booth as I love pictures and feel that you can never have enough! To make it personal (and hopefully cheaper) FH is diy-ing a Tardis one!

I am also guilty of having a candy bar - It's cheaper than anything else I can think of and people always like candy! Added bonus - any leftovers we'll be forced to finish lol.

I dislike the weddings where the bride goes absolutely overboard and literally look like they are queen for a day. We're talking MASSIVE dress, big crown in her hair, sparkly wand to carry around, pink and glitter everywhere, horse-drawn carriage brings her in, etc. Those types of weddings always make me wonder if the groom had any say at all and I usually feel bad for the guy. To each his own though.

I detest wire hangers with names on them, pointless party favors, too big of a bridal party (5 at most for me), tiaras, two different dresses for wedding or more, boudior photos (seriously you can't hang then out in public and most men I know would rather see you naked not carry around or have a hidden photo of you like that)

I hate everything that I am not doing.

GameCox: LOL!

I guess I don't like when a bride views her bridal party, mom, and FMIL like slaves and servants on her wedding day or even during the planning stage - which has nothing to do with a theme or decor but it is ABSOLUTELY a nasty trend.

My mom's wedding was in 1979. For most of us our parents also got married 20-30 years ago. Weddings are TOTALLY and I mean completely different than they were back then. No, your parents will not understand why you need a "cocktail hour" to keep guests entertained while you take pictures, they will think your super cute favors are pointless, they will ask why you need introduced by the DJ then wonder why you all need a "song" to walk into, they will wonder why you are dancing for an hour after dinner before you cut the cake, they will wonder why cake and punch will not "hold people over" in lieu of a dinner, they will not understand why you might need to arrange an after party somewhere.

What I ended up doing to avoid a fight was I sat my mom down and showed her a few websites of what I felt like we should do for the wedding and why. This made her understand the whole process a little bit more. While I see nothing wrong with just a cake and punch wedding, we are having guests coming from VERY far away and I want the wedding to double as a family reunion. It does not have to be over the top, I just want people to be fed and have a good time.

Edit for clarity: I live in the Midwest. When my parents got married, unless you were wealthy or someone in the family had a lot of money you had a very simple, probably what most people would call a "country" wedding. You got married at a church, people threw rice, then you had cake and punch at a reception hall if not at the church as well. Sometimes there would be cheese and crackers. Some couples gave metal bells as a "favor" or when my aunt and uncle were married in 1982 they gave these little plastic doves with metal rings on a bow. My mother recalls the only time in her younger days (like before I was born) she was ever at a "fancy wedding" was when my other aunt married my uncle who came from money. My grandparents had 6 weeks to plan the wedding. That was the only time she or anyone else in the family had been to a wedding where they had a plated meal and a champagne toast.

LOL!!

Grayvintagecat, I completely disagree with you. My parents got marred 25 years ago and had a cocktail hour. When I got engaged they asked if people still gave out favors or if that was a thing of the past...as in 25 years ago they gave out favors.

They had cocktail hours because they didt do first looks and had to take bride/groom pictures after the ceremony. When I told my mom people take pictures now before the wedding she was shocked.